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Nov 14, 2016 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love.
Earthquakes GHASTLY. Hate them and terrified of them. Massive quake midnight last night and pretty much constant aftershocks since then. House and land we're on very solid and we are not close enough to the epicentre to suffer damage although quite a lot of damage to office buildings in central city.
I understand that there were actually two earthquakes close together and they've basically irritated each other (different faultines), and now there are up to four active faultlines that are all (my words) mad at each other. Hence the vast number of aftershocks.
Thanks for thinking of me! I need some sleep, only slept for about one hour last night. The rest of my bastard family all went back to sleep after the 7.5 quake - I was tempted to wake them all up to drink warm milk and bond with me!
Nov 4, 2016 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: WOES Gets It, JABBER Doesn't Get It (But Doesn't Mind).
There's got to me more than this than just deciding to "focus on your kid" and not have sex for a few years.
As EricaP says, at least one of them must have issues with intimacy. There's nothing about parenting a 14 year-that means there's no room left for a healthy sex life. We've got a 10 year-old and a 14 year-old and have always had plenty of sex. Sometimes rushed, sometimes maintenance sex, but that's part of life.
I can understand how, as EmmaLiz says, it's possible for someone to accept a lack of sex if they're not in a relationship and not be too bothered about it.
I can't understand how you can not have sex with your partner for years and expect to just flick a switch and start up again at some point in the future. How is anyone able to control their sexual desire for another person in that way? I couldn't anyway. I'm very doubtful that there's much desire happening if they can resist each other so easily.
And our kids are plenty used to us kissing and hugging in front of them. I think it's an incredibly healthy way to behave - I want them to see that we enjoy each other's company and affection.
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Oct 9, 2016 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love.
CMD Wannabe, so confused. What's boiled cabbage got to to with New Zealand??
Oct 4, 2016 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Counterpoint to Last Week's Tweet Storm of Advice for Straight Men.
Has no-one ever met a nice guy who's just a nice bloke to know, really?? I've only ever been attracted to pretty modest, self-effacing men. I married one 22 years ago and he's still incredibly hot to me.
I've never been attracted to a classically swaggering dominant type. I've always been of the opinion that the ones that don't obviously advertise are the ones with lots going on underneath and it's worked out well for me.
Sep 29, 2016 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Like a Good Neighbor.
vennominon @18, that does sound like a fabulous book. I've never been anywhere near a country club but I'd read it in a heartbeat!
Sep 27, 2016 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Like a Good Neighbor.
vennominon @6, you might be reading too much into this letter. There's actually nothing to suggest that the couple next door aren't still fucking each other's brains out on a regular basis, just the LW's feeling that they must be struggling with intimacy now that the house is so much fuller. I think it's a mildly creepy letter.
Our family home is 1,000 square feet and we manage just fine. I'm not sure what the issue is.
Sep 26, 2016 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Practically Married and Completely Sexless—And Want It To Stay That Way.
A more equal marriage does not equal less sex, I'm so tired of this line!
22 years of monogamy and we still have a great and varied time in bed several times a week. The fact that my husband is cooking the dinner now and picked up the kids from school today just makes him more attractive.
As for the letter, this situation sounds utterly doomed.
Sep 21, 2016 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love.
EmmaLiz, several of my friends vowed and declared loudly throughout their twenties and most of their thirties that they were never having children, and then completely changed their minds.
Life is just not that straightforward.
I absolutely believe that he is too young to take having children off the table. He's got a lot of years ahead of him and it is his right to control his own body. I just don't see him as an asshole in this situation.
Sep 20, 2016 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love.
I'm with DonnyKlicious @25. SNIP sounds like a batshit crazy golddigger. It is utterly unreasonable to demand that her young husband has a vasectomy. He has a lot of years left in which he might decide he does want children.
Aug 22, 2016 busy_quilting commented on SL Letter of the Day: One and Done?.
@1, I thought peeing in the shower was supposed to be good for the environment! it's certainly not only guys who do that.
My husband's never asked me to pee on him but I would happily give it a try if he asked me.