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Oct 9 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love.
CMD Wannabe, so confused. What's boiled cabbage got to to with New Zealand??
Oct 4 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Counterpoint to Last Week's Tweet Storm of Advice for Straight Men.
Has no-one ever met a nice guy who's just a nice bloke to know, really?? I've only ever been attracted to pretty modest, self-effacing men. I married one 22 years ago and he's still incredibly hot to me.
I've never been attracted to a classically swaggering dominant type. I've always been of the opinion that the ones that don't obviously advertise are the ones with lots going on underneath and it's worked out well for me.
Sep 29 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Like a Good Neighbor.
vennominon @18, that does sound like a fabulous book. I've never been anywhere near a country club but I'd read it in a heartbeat!
Sep 27 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Like a Good Neighbor.
vennominon @6, you might be reading too much into this letter. There's actually nothing to suggest that the couple next door aren't still fucking each other's brains out on a regular basis, just the LW's feeling that they must be struggling with intimacy now that the house is so much fuller. I think it's a mildly creepy letter.
Our family home is 1,000 square feet and we manage just fine. I'm not sure what the issue is.
Sep 26 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Practically Married and Completely Sexless—And Want It To Stay That Way.
A more equal marriage does not equal less sex, I'm so tired of this line!
22 years of monogamy and we still have a great and varied time in bed several times a week. The fact that my husband is cooking the dinner now and picked up the kids from school today just makes him more attractive.
As for the letter, this situation sounds utterly doomed.
Sep 21 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love.
EmmaLiz, several of my friends vowed and declared loudly throughout their twenties and most of their thirties that they were never having children, and then completely changed their minds.
Life is just not that straightforward.
I absolutely believe that he is too young to take having children off the table. He's got a lot of years ahead of him and it is his right to control his own body. I just don't see him as an asshole in this situation.
Sep 20 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love.
I'm with DonnyKlicious @25. SNIP sounds like a batshit crazy golddigger. It is utterly unreasonable to demand that her young husband has a vasectomy. He has a lot of years left in which he might decide he does want children.
Aug 22 busy_quilting commented on SL Letter of the Day: One and Done?.
@1, I thought peeing in the shower was supposed to be good for the environment! it's certainly not only guys who do that.
My husband's never asked me to pee on him but I would happily give it a try if he asked me.
Jul 28 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My Loving Wife, The Dicktease.
I'm glad other women are talking about hormonal libido changes, because I experience these very strongly in my 40s. For about two weeks from the end of my period my libido is very high and the sex I have during these times is the best sex I've ever had - my husband is surprised and very pleased by how easily I orgasm and how sexually dominant I am then. After that my libido pretty much disappears but I am happy to provide maintenance sex.

Luckily my husband has increasing sex-slavish, submissive tastes so when I don't have much libido I can order him to "perform" for me (masturbating in front of me etc.), which excites him a lot.

I haven't experienced a disconnect between sexual desire and sexual interest, but I guess that might come along with menopause.
Jul 27 busy_quilting commented on Savage Love.
vennominon, I think you are seeing problems where there don't appear to be any. If I praise my partner for being kind that doesn't mean I'm not kind, does it? Like EricaP, I took it as read that being GGG is a two-way street with these two.