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Apr 14 omystarsandgarters commented on Woman Reviews "Husband's Stupid Record Collection," Will Probably Get Book Deal.
It's interesting to read this around the anniversary of Live Through This, which includes a song Love wrote in response to being assaulted by the audience at her own show. This is the kind of typical of male behavior at certain rock events, which explains why a woman may think that an Anthrax show might not be the most female friendly space. I'm really amazed that a female writer would be so dismissive of a concrete rational concern about risks of assault at certain types of shows.

It's also interesting as a consistent theme in Live Through This was how she felt alienated by alleged girl power types.

Part of the patriarchy is that no matter what a guy does, there's an assumption he has a good reason and people will seek it out, while whatever a woman does, people will find a reason it is suspect. Including other women.

It's weird how you complain about something that "fuels gender stereotypes" when you are dismissing a female writer similar terms most male critic/geeks use to dismiss women: call her a fake, blame her for how other people react to her, trash her motivations ("I'm sure it'll end in a book deal. Just like the 300 sandwiches blog did.") and even say her husband appears more genuine and fun than she is.

Sexism and patriarchy is all about projecting ideas and definitions upon women without their participation. How is what you've done here any better? To quote O'Hollar: "A lot of the criticism of this blog is that it plays up this idea that women’s voices are marginal or less important, but for all that has been written, no one has made any effort to reach out to me for comment, or even to ask me a question. One article got my name wrong throughout. It’s clear that critics are more interested in making me a symbol of some harmful stereotype than understanding what this is, or who I am. Talking to me might make that difficult. It might humanize me."

Did you even try to engage her before writing this mean spirited pile of speculation and accusation? Engaging her as a human means you couldn't write such tripe as " she'd rather just barf out some words about what the bands are wearing and hope the idea alone makes for decent page clicks" and accuse her of "stealing" attention and ideas that she clearly didn't.

This is also an uncomfortable gender trend: women engaging in policing and gatekeeping as savage as the boys club. Even if you are trying to critique normative thinking, you're echoing how men silence women by picking apart their credentials and finding them wanting. Even though part of the point of feminism is such things don't belong to anyone and you don't need credential. You're essentially saying her interest is less valuable because she's admits she's not an expert, therefore she must care more about her husband's authority than music.

I doubt that if a guy wrote a blog about his girlfriend's "stupid" interest, and that "stupid" was obviously ironic (or it was his brother's, mother's or father's), he'd get some guff for the title but mostly be praised by both genders for exploring a new interest from a witty point of ignorance. The only people who would call him out for betraying men by ceding ownership of the culture to his wife would be men's rights activists. It's sad that women can be counted upon to find their fellow women wanting as much as dudes.
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Apr 14 omystarsandgarters commented on Woman Reviews "Husband's Stupid Record Collection," Will Probably Get Book Deal.
It's interesting to read this around the anniversary of Live Through This, which includes a song Love wrote in response to being assaulted by the audience at her own show. This is the kind of typical of male behavior at certain rock events, which explains why a woman may think that an Anthrax show might not be the most female friendly space. I'm really amazed that a female writer would be so dismissive of a concrete rational concern about risks of assault at certain types of shows.

It's also interesting as a consistent theme in Live Through This was how she felt alienated by alleged girl power types.

Part of the patriarchy is that no matter what a guy does, there's an assumption he has a good reason and people will seek it out, while whatever a woman does, people will find a reason it is suspect. Including other women.

It's weird how you complain about something that "fuels gender stereotypes" when you are dismissing a female writer similar terms most male critic/geeks use to dismiss women: call her a fake, blame her for how other people react to her, trash her motivations ("I'm sure it'll end in a book deal. Just like the 300 sandwiches blog did.") and even say her husband appears more genuine and fun than she is.

Sexism and patriarchy is all about projecting ideas and definitions upon women without their participation. How is what you've done here any better? To quote O'Hollar: "A lot of the criticism of this blog is that it plays up this idea that women’s voices are marginal or less important, but for all that has been written, no one has made any effort to reach out to me for comment, or even to ask me a question. One article got my name wrong throughout. It’s clear that critics are more interested in making me a symbol of some harmful stereotype than understanding what this is, or who I am. Talking to me might make that difficult. It might humanize me."

Did you even try to engage her before writing this mean spirited pile of speculation and accusation? Engaging her as a human means you couldn't write such tripe as " she'd rather just barf out some words about what the bands are wearing and hope the idea alone makes for decent page clicks" and accuse her of "stealing" attention and ideas that she clearly didn't.

This is also an uncomfortable gender trend: women engaging in policing and gatekeeping as savage as the boys club. Even if you are trying to critique normative thinking, you're echoing how men silence women by picking apart their credentials and finding them wanting. Even though part of the point of feminism is such things don't belong to anyone and you don't need credential. You're essentially saying her interest is less valuable because she's admits she's not an expert, therefore she must care more about her husband's authority than music.

I doubt that if a guy wrote a blog about his girlfriend's "stupid" interest, and that "stupid" was obviously ironic (or it was his brother's, mother's or father's), he'd get some guff for the title but mostly be praised by both genders for exploring a new interest from a witty point of ignorance. The only people who would call him out for betraying men by ceding ownership of the culture to his wife would be men's rights activists. It's sad that women can be counted upon to find their fellow women wanting as much as dudes.
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