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Nov 29 WoofCandy commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Live In Nope.
All of it is worth a read

No, it isn't.
Nov 28 WoofCandy commented on Savage Love.
@EricaP: Here's one of several explanations Venn has offered for why he's leaving:

But the aura here has shifted too far. I'm out (or the position is extinct), and I have better things to do than stay on as a troll.

I'm inclined to take him at face value. You have to admit, the aura here has changed.
Nov 3 WoofCandy commented on Seattle High School Teacher Gets a “Teaching Moment” After Wearing Blackface.
Black lives matter, black Halloween costumes not so much.
Nov 3 WoofCandy commented on The Morning News: Home Sales Collapse in Vancouver B.C., Bundy Bunch Acquittal a Preparation for the World After the Presidential Election?.
hungry Africans are paying for American consumption

No, they are investing in American consumption, and they are profiting from it.
Nov 2 WoofCandy commented on Savage Love.
@venn: I don't disagree. As for the debate, it could be fascinating if it were about anything other than the current presidential election, a topic from which no productive discussion could possibly emerge.

Is no honorific one of my options? I appreciate and enjoy your sense of decorum, but I don't want to mislead, and there are some things about myself I'd rather weren't emphasized around here.
Nov 2 WoofCandy commented on Savage Love.
@venn: It's backfiring, darling.

Some time ago, you made an ominous reference to the coming backlash that left me scratching my head. A few days later, I was thumbing through Out Magazine in a waiting room and came across a profile about an extremely charismatic gay conservative agitator. After watching a few videos on YouTube, I believe I now understand what you're talking about.

There's so much to say about it, but it would be pointless to open that discussion here. That pointlessness is, of course, one of the reasons why the backlash is happening.

I've always seen (and admired) Dan as a classic liberal, a fact for which he has taken considerable abuse, and not just from the right. I would imagine the impact is greater when it's coming from close to home.
Oct 25 WoofCandy commented on Savage Love.
@EricaP: I don't think my immediate, overt reaction would be much different than yours.

I think our internal worlds may differ though. In the rare case where the story just wasn't adding up, or I suspected my child was being manipulated by an adult, or repeating things he/she heard from another child who had been molested, or it implicated a family member who I know, as much as I can know anything, was incapable of this, I just couldn't pretend to myself otherwise, and the rawest of my instincts would tell me that pretending would, in the long term, only exacerbate the harm. How that instinct would actually play out, I have no idea.
Oct 25 WoofCandy commented on Savage Love.
@EricaP: Even if you're agenda is purely one of caregiving, would you really cast aside any doubts you might have about an accuser's story? Wouldn't you want to know the truth, if only to determine what kind of care the accuser needs?
Oct 25 WoofCandy commented on Savage Love.
@Jina: I've taken care to specify who I'm replying to in my comments, so if you're actually interested in this particular conversation, I'd suggest reading the whole thing rather than looking at pieces in isolation. If you still don't see where I'm coming from, I'm not sure what more to say.

It's typical for conversations about these letters to go in different directions, and there's no reason separate conversations can't coexist. If you want to talk about something else, go for it.
Oct 25 WoofCandy commented on Savage Love.
@Jina: I didn't ask how this mob started, I asked who the persecuted victim is.

I think there's been a misunderstanding - there was a discussion about mobs, but I don't think anyone is claiming there's a mob happening right here and now.

(That said, if someone were to call LavaGirl an angry mob of one, I wouldn't argue.)

It seems my post @170 would be clearer you replaced "The mob thread" with "The thread about mobs."