Jun 11
Buffy commented on Dan on Last Night's Colbert Report.
@ Cracker Jack, Dan is in on the joke.
Jun 5
Buffy commented on Lunchtime Quickie: News Anchor vs. Weather Forecaster.
That is some thinly veiled hatred.
May 17
Buffy commented on Savage Love.
@mydriasis
I am well aware that some women are into some (all?) of the things that are depicted in porn. That was not my contention with your original comment.
I think we can all agree that everyone approaches sex in their own unique way, some of which is represented in porn and some of which is not.
But I don't think it is such a bad thing to encourage guys to at least be interested and invested in making sure that their sexual partners enjoy sex as much as they do (whether that means incorporating foreplay or not). A lot, I believe most, women require at least some foreplay during sex. So it is not unreasonable for a guy to at least be willing and open to engaging in foreplay, if his partner requires it. Most porn doesn't seem to focus too much on foreplay (perhaps some does, but I don't know what the break down).
Besides, it is probably a lot easier to tell a guy that you don't need foreplay, than to tell a guy that you DO need foreplay.
To put this into context, Dan seems to receive a LOT of letters from women who's boyfriends/husbands don't know or seem to care to incorporate foreplay into their sex lives. As a result they don't find sex very satisfying. He doesn't seem to receive as many letters from women who hate foreplay but who's partners just won't quit trying ro engage in it. Obviously, the best solution is for people in a sexual relationship, is to communicate to each other about what their sexual desires/needs are and try their best to be GGG. To this end, I think promoting being as invested in your partner's sexual gratification as your own is a good place to start.
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I am well aware that some women are into some (all?) of the things that are depicted in porn. That was not my contention with your original comment.
I think we can all agree that everyone approaches sex in their own unique way, some of which is represented in porn and some of which is not.
But I don't think it is such a bad thing to encourage guys to at least be interested and invested in making sure that their sexual partners enjoy sex as much as they do (whether that means incorporating foreplay or not). A lot, I believe most, women require at least some foreplay during sex. So it is not unreasonable for a guy to at least be willing and open to engaging in foreplay, if his partner requires it. Most porn doesn't seem to focus too much on foreplay (perhaps some does, but I don't know what the break down).
Besides, it is probably a lot easier to tell a guy that you don't need foreplay, than to tell a guy that you DO need foreplay.
To put this into context, Dan seems to receive a LOT of letters from women who's boyfriends/husbands don't know or seem to care to incorporate foreplay into their sex lives. As a result they don't find sex very satisfying. He doesn't seem to receive as many letters from women who hate foreplay but who's partners just won't quit trying ro engage in it. Obviously, the best solution is for people in a sexual relationship, is to communicate to each other about what their sexual desires/needs are and try their best to be GGG. To this end, I think promoting being as invested in your partner's sexual gratification as your own is a good place to start.
May 16
Buffy commented on Savage Love.
@ 19 Um, no. It's pretty common for most women.
A lot of women need and appreciate a guy who doesn't assume that she'll enjoy sex without any warm-up (or hell, is not even all that concerned with whether or not she even enjoys sex with him). Besides, it is probably easier to tell a guy that you DON't need foreplay than to have to tell a guy that you DO need foreplay.
A lot of women need and appreciate a guy who doesn't assume that she'll enjoy sex without any warm-up (or hell, is not even all that concerned with whether or not she even enjoys sex with him). Besides, it is probably easier to tell a guy that you DON't need foreplay than to have to tell a guy that you DO need foreplay.
May 10
Buffy commented on Such Nice Dogs.
@39
Who said anything about NOT defending yourself against a pack of feral dogs? I don't care if it's a chihuahua, if a dog is threatning/attacking you, you have every right to defend yourself. Seems here like the main problem is that this was a pack of feral dogs that were roaming the countryside. Any dog that is at least as big as a pit bull terrier that has been abandoned in this rural area could have become just as aggressive. What is sad about this whole situation is that whoever abandoned these dogs could have dropped them off at a shelter or animal facility instead of just letting them roam free to maim/kill people.
http://www.newyorker.com/archive/2006/02…
Who said anything about NOT defending yourself against a pack of feral dogs? I don't care if it's a chihuahua, if a dog is threatning/attacking you, you have every right to defend yourself. Seems here like the main problem is that this was a pack of feral dogs that were roaming the countryside. Any dog that is at least as big as a pit bull terrier that has been abandoned in this rural area could have become just as aggressive. What is sad about this whole situation is that whoever abandoned these dogs could have dropped them off at a shelter or animal facility instead of just letting them roam free to maim/kill people.
http://www.newyorker.com/archive/2006/02…
May 10
Buffy commented on Such Nice Dogs.
@ Margaretta
Here is a pretty descent source that took the time to assess the aggressiveness of pit bulls. It's not a primary source, but it is a good overview.
http://www.newyorker.com/archive/2006/02…
Here is a pretty descent source that took the time to assess the aggressiveness of pit bulls. It's not a primary source, but it is a good overview.
http://www.newyorker.com/archive/2006/02…
May 10
Buffy commented on Such Nice Dogs.
What exactly is your point? Some owners are BAD and unfortunately fail to train or sometimes even abuse their dogs which unfortunately result in badly socialized dogs that are too dangerous to be around people. Also, are we absolutely sure those wer pit bulls? Many dogs that look like pit bulls are often mis-identified as pit bulls in news reports.
Apr 4
Buffy commented on Savage Love Episode 336.
@ cousine the comment about the estranged father. Are you referring to the gay father who was estranged from his very angry daughter? Because the drunk oblivious straight girl and the gay dad are as different as night and day in how they approached their bad behaviour. The dad sounded genuinely contrite. What he did was bad and he recognized it and he wanted to make amends in whatever way is possible to his daughter so that she could forgive him.
The drunk straight girl had not apologized and seemed completely oblivious to her bad behaviour. Frankly, it sounded like she felt like she didn't have to apologize for anything. Those two are not even in the same ballpark for how they approach their wrondoings.
The drunk straight girl had not apologized and seemed completely oblivious to her bad behaviour. Frankly, it sounded like she felt like she didn't have to apologize for anything. Those two are not even in the same ballpark for how they approach their wrondoings.
Mar 10
Buffy commented on SL Letter of the Day: Support Hose.
@ 32 No one said that people shouldn't get divorced for the kids sake. What most people are saying here is that if someone does get divorced, that doesn't give that person a pass to shirk their responsibilities as a parent, use their own kids as a bargaining chip, or completely disregard the emotional turmoil their kids are going through. Unless one of the parents is abusive, kids deserve to have and maintain a relationship with both them even if the parents are divorced.
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