Feb 14, 2011
commented on Control Tower
Not a big fan of the term "evolution" for reasons you mention, but I've seen this strategy work out just fine, though usually it works out because it is the less interested in poly from the start partner who suggests that they are ready to open things up.
I suspect that the big cause of relationship failure is not the agreement to open the relationship up someday, but the fact that one of the people making the agreement didn't ever really want to be poly in the first place. Dating people who don't really want to be poly _is_ a great way to screw up a poly relationship.
cons: those you mention, plus the possibility that one partner is _never_ ready to open things.
pros: it really does lead to a stronger "primary" bond, if that is what you are looking for.
Is it possible to screw up a relationship in the way you note above? Of course! But we've all seen a fair number of poly-from-the-start strategies fail utterly too.
I think you go to far in characterizing this approach as doomed to failure.
Nov 16, 2010
commented on Bicycling Not So Good For You
So if you don't bike, what are your chances of getting a minor injury: cut, scrape, etc. I once fell on my ass getting out of my freaking car. Should I give up riding in cars too? I'd stay at home, but there was that time I cut my finger making a salad...
Oct 28, 2010
commented on PETA Offers to Pay Lindsay Lohan's Rehab Bill If She Goes Vegan
@14 nah, meat eaters give vegis a hard time for the same reason that car drivers bitch about bikers, stupid people give shit to "nerds", homophobes give the pro-gays (sorry, the homosexual agenda) shit, and sexists give feminists a hard time: they feel subtly guilty about what they are and feel better if they can somehow insult people who care more than they do.