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Jun 28 TheLastComment commented on Savage Love.
I don't really get why kinky people aren't considered "queer" and why there is so little representation of kinky people in the modern social justice movement. They consider asexuals queer.

Additionally, the line between a cross dressing fetishist and a trans woman is a lot thinner than many believe. There are a ton of trans women who used to think they were "just" cross dressers. This is something which doesn't get a lot of recognition in the trans community, because they look down upon cross dressers as fake women. A lot of them actively bully cross dressers, and accuse each other of being fetishists as an insult. (I'm cis but I know a lot of trans people for some reason).
Jun 22 TheLastComment commented on Savage Love.
I don't think it's creepy to call someone by their BDSM name or whatever, I wouldn't mind doing it. However I object to the reasoning that "puppy play" isn't a "sexual activity." I see people in fetish communities say stuff like this A LOT. I think this attitude is the product of a sex negative culture. They get involved because it makes their dick hard or their clit hard, and then they get offended when someone says it's a "fetish" because they mentally associate fetishists with bad people. This level of cognitive dissonance isn't healthy.
May 25 TheLastComment commented on Savage Love.
I'm a woman and I'm somewhere on the feminist spectrum, but I hate the term mansplaining. If someone interrupts you, interrupt them back. Or ask them not to interrupt. When you're outside of your safe liberal hippie college circle, you have to be assertive or you won't survive the winter. If you tell them not to interrupt without bringing up gender norms they won't be confused. Het males respect basic politeness and fairness.
May 16 TheLastComment commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She's Tired of Tickling the Boyfriend's Balls.
Surprised nobody brought up the possibility that this guy just has a fetish. Maybe it has nothing to do with how his dick works, maybe it's how his brain works. His brain won't accept anything other than ball tickling. If it is a fetish, she should know there is nothing wrong with her and she's not inadequate. It's just what is normal to him.
May 13 TheLastComment commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: How Can I Be a Good Ally to My Abusive Trans Ex?.
I know we're not supposed to intentionally misgender people just because we don't like them, but can this be the one exception? This guy is a complete asshole. She can use any pronoun she wants to refer to the abuser.

But yeah, why is she bringing up her deep dark traumatic past with people she doesn't even know well enough to explain the concept of transgenderism to? That's weird. Maybe she should talk about the weather instead.
May 4 TheLastComment commented on Savage Love.
@54 I'm not invested in my virginity and it's not part of my identity. Like I said I've actively tried to lose my virginity and I was so desperate I almost slept with a guy I don't even like and who doesn't like me, out of mutual desperation. Of course I didn't actually do this but the fact that I was willing to consider it is proof enough to me that I don't really want to be a virgin. I just want someone who likes me and who isn't a rapist.

Like I said in my last post, I'm frustrated by the idea that female virginity is voluntary. Maybe it is for most people but not everyone was raised Catholic and wants to be deprived.
May 4 TheLastComment commented on Savage Love.
It seems like female virginity is always framed as voluntary, and I don't like that. I'm a 28 year old female virgin, and it's not by choice. It's not because I want to find some special guy. I've pretty clearly pursued some guys who were attracted to me. I even considered sleeping with a guy who said he only wanted to be my fuck buddy because he's desperate, and he's not attracted to me because I'm obese. I'm not scared by men, I have a lot of male friends. However it's hard to find anyone who is attracted to me and the older I get the more likely it is I'll be alone forever.

Apr 14 TheLastComment commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Secret Perving—Permissible and Impermissible.
I want Dan to start trying to contact professional ethicists again, if only because it was funny how frequently they rejected him.
Feb 24 TheLastComment commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Dog's Life.
The dog stuff doesn't bother me, but cutting off social contact is a huge problem.
Feb 24 TheLastComment commented on Kink On the Homepage of the New York Times.
I'm happy the media is finally treating us like human beings.