Nov 29 lucy990 commented on Have a Thanksgiving Horror Story? We Want to Hear About It..
I always host Friendsgiving. This year my friend brought a guy she met through a running/drinking group. She also brought him to a party a couple weeks ago where he was very handsy and touchy/feely to all the women - enough to be annoying but not quite enough for anyone to call him out. But Thanksgiving....he showed up at 1 pm and almost immediately was all gropey. He caught me off guard while I had dough in my hands and kissed the back of my neck EWWW. Then all day he proceeds to grope pretty much every woman there. Finally several of us flat out say "stop touching me/other people/anyone here." He STILL kept doing it. At one point he reached for me and my boyfriend slapped his hand and yelled "No touching!" Finally I grabbed the spray bottle I use when my dog won't stop barking or jumping and sprayed him in the face the next time he did it.

The infuriating part is that he kept saying "I'm sorry, this is just so foreign to me. I'm not used to hanging out with people who have an issue with this." (I get the impression this running club is kind of a free for all. Which is fine except CONSENT.) Like he was apologizing and STILL GRABBING MY LEG WHILE HE DID IT. My boyfriend and I were like "Really? You've never had a job or been in any situation where it wasn't appropriate to grope all the women around you?"

My friend tried to excuse it by saying he was drunk and not usually like that, and I told her he was like that at the last party, and he was like that when he first got there and was sober. It's all very awkward because we're not sure if she is into this guy or what, she's normally the last person who would put up with this shit. Anyway, it was both hilarious and awful. And since posting about it on Facebook, I've contacted by several women who were at the first party to see if I was talking about the same guy who was bothering them.
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Jun 4 lucy990 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What To Say? Beats Me..
I bruise somewhat easily and have never gotten bruises from face slapping, but I did get a bloody nose once. Who knows, maybe the split lip was bad aim or something. I'd say taking up martial arts (or saying you did) is the easiest excuse if this is something that will happen again. I've considered it since I occasional have visible bruises on my neck or arms.
Jun 27, 2014 lucy990 commented on SL Letters of the Day: Response Required.
It's like the advice-column version of my okcupid inbox.
Jul 9, 2013 lucy990 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mutually Intoxicated Destruction.
I know for a fact that when I was younger I could be walking and talking and appearing not all that drunk but then not able to remember the details or big chunks of time the next day. (And yes, I'm a lot more careful now so that doesn't happen anymore.) And I had sex that I regretted and barely remembered one of those times. But I would NEVER call that rape. I call it a stupid decision made while way too drunk, and move on with my life.
May 28, 2013 lucy990 commented on American Savage Comes Out Today.
I can't wait!!! I actually just went outside to see if my copy has arrived from Amazon yet, even though it's not likely to be here at 7:30 am.
Dec 10, 2012 lucy990 commented on LOVE WINS! Gay Marriage at Seattle City Hall, Sunday Morning, In Photos.
@5 me too. That one made me a little teary.
Dec 25, 2011 lucy990 commented on SL Letter of the Day: It's Christmastime In the Shitty.
I didn't get to read the deleted comments, but how sick and unhappy of a person do you need to be to hang out on Slog on Christmas and kick someone when they're down?
Jun 20, 2011 lucy990 commented on Bristol Palin: Levi Raped Me.
@ 48 - exactly what I was going to say!
Mar 10, 2011 lucy990 commented on SLLOTD: Baby Daddy Drama.
WTF Dan? Maybe most reluctant parents end up being good parents but a lot of them suck. And they will resent the person who pushed them into it and end up with the relationship breaking up anyway. Nobody should ever be pressured into having a kid they don't want.