commented on I, Anonymous
Another reason a checkout person's comments may be superficial is they're also being polite to everybody else in the damned line who doesn't really want to have to stand there for twenty minutes while you have some chit-chatty "genuine" conversation.
The checkout line in the grocery store is not the place for your personal validation. This is true whether you're nine years old or ninety. Be nice, buy your groceries, then take a hike. And Good God, get some friends or join a club so you don't spend so much time fretting about whether a poor retail worker fawned enough (and in exactly the right way) over your self-obsessed self.
commented on SLLOTD: A Caring Loving Uncle
@19 is exactly right. There's pretty much no way to actually have this conversation with the boy. Talk to your niece. I'm not sure why that wasn't the advice in the first place; it's not like she's a canned ham the men-folk are bargaining over.
commented on SLLOTD: Asshole Comes Easy
Weirdly, I sort of agree with both @24 and @ 21 even though their responses are nothing alike. It sure sounds like BF is open to exploring, but LW is using excuses-- why would BF talk about threeways and couple-play but then suddenly have "an emotional breakdown"? These things make me go "hmmmm." Is LW so sure he's not himself just flirting with the idea of being with other guys but doesn't really want to risk his BF saying "go ahead" so that LW actually has to pull the trigger? Or risk what it would feel like if BF said "go ahead, I don't care"?
If you ask me, the way for LW to start resolving where his feelings about this truly are is to ask himself this: if BF came to you (LW) tomorrow and said that HE (BF) was seriously interested in fucking some other specific, real guy he met because he's decided he likes bears more than over-processed slabs of abs like you (LW), how would you (LW) feel? Happy or hurt? Okay with it or jealous yourself? Because I'm seriously betting BF didn't just start being the kind of guy who likes to stay in, watch movies, cook with butter, etc. just last week. BF sure seems to sound like he's wanting and willing to work to keep it fresh and--what-- you've just now realized he's a bear? You (LW) knew this when you bought a freakin' house together, and either there's something real there (and something that appealed to you about those qualities) or else you're kind of a user douche, LW.
Could your problem not be so much sexual in its roots as it is that you keep having competing fantasies about life rather than being a genuine grown-up? BF represents the 'burbs fantasy, while the allure of other more athletic guys the sexual libertine fantasy? Are you sure you don't just need to stop living in your head and maybe decide what you actually care for? Because if that's the problem, then staying in the 'burbs or cheating or even leaving BF and screwing every washboard stomached gymrat you can find or whatever is still gonna leave you saying "why doesn't this feel like it's enough?"
commented on Barilla Pasta Is Apparently Intended for Homophobic Straight People
It should be added that Guido's now offered the standard non-apology apology "I'm sorry if anyone was offended" bullshit. Which is even more reason to dump this creep and his crummy pasta. Yeah, Guido, I'm sorry if it offends you that lots of people will never buy any of your products ever again under any circumstances. See, two can play the non-apology apology game.