commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Crying Game
He's convinced her that he's had to "suppress" his desires, when that is the furthest thing from the truth. The truth is that he has NOT had to suppress them, but that he has had to live with not having them indulged on his every whim. That's not suppression; that's life. No one gets everything they want the moment they want it all the time. And anyone who insists that they should is being an asshole.
I know it's hard to admit it when it's your life, MOMMY, but your husband is not loving. He's manipulating you and showing zero concern for your needs. DTMFA.
Aug 26, 2015
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Forgiveness and Ashley Madison's Innocent Victims
I don't think you owe your Dad any sympathy. No matter what your Mom may or may not have done, violence is never an appropriate response. And given that this is how he responded, I'm inclined to think that Mom may have had good reasons for being on Ashley Madison!
Please don't allow your parents to sweep this under the rug. Your Mom sounds like she's stuck in an all-too-common abuse mindset, and is unwilling to get away from him at this time. Disobeying her, though, is probably the best way to protect her (and your younger siblings) from future violence.
This is completely unacceptable behavior. Dan, shame on you for your advice. This is probably the worst advice I've ever read from you. This guy beats up his wife, and you counsel understanding for him and hope for future forgiveness?! All because this feeds into your ideology about the AM hack (which I agree with, but it does NOT justify Dad's violence, not even a little bit. Doesn't "explain" it; doesn't deserve sympathy.) Please reconsider after you've had a chance to think about this. Maybe bring in an actual domestic violence expert (or three!) to respond to this letter.
Jul 15, 2015
commented on If We Had $40 Million From the Feds, We Could Build That Cascadia Earthquake Early Warning System in Just a Few Years
Hey @2, where do you live? I'm guessing it's either a rural part of WA, or in a red state that has a large rural area. If so, you should realize that rural areas and states are by far the largest recipients of taxpayer money. It's far more efficient to support people living in dense urban or suburban areas, but providing services in sparsely populated rural areas is very expensive. Also, residents in rural areas tend to be less wealthy on average than others, so they receive significant benefits from programs like Medicaid. So it's actually places like Seattle and New York and California that support places like rural WA and Mississippi and Wyoming, despite the supposedly libertarian ideals of many of the people who live in those places.
May 1, 2015
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Photo Play
I don't have time to read all the comments, but has anyone mentioned yet the potentially for STD exposure from the dildo? Unless this woman was using a condom with that dildo (yeah right), his wife may have been exposed if she decided to use it again. Hubby may have thought she was done with it, but he had no way of knowing if she sometimes used it during masturbation.
And if he thought it was so above board, then he would have told her about it. That he kept it a secret is a huge red flag. I'd wager a significant amount that photography is not the only thing he's doing with these women.
This is one of Dan's few blind spots. When kinks/non monogamy is involved, he's way too quick to justify lying and other types of BS. And he seems to not understand the mind of the straight man. I think almost any straight man can read this and see right away that this guy is being sketchy.
Oct 27, 2014
commented on Spotted in Ballard
I support legislation (or Constitutional amendment, since our SCOTUS embraces the ridiculous idea that money equals speech) limiting how much an individual can give to initiative campaigns. But until that day comes, we're going to play by the same rules as everyone else.
Nice try changing the issue though. Everyone here sees your tactic for the BS it is. Background checks are a no-brainer that everyone should support.