May 17 DC270 commented on Savage Love.
@23 this is very close to my own thinking on the matter. Maybe part of being submissive and preferring this kind of stimulation/this kind of play is prioritizing your partner's orgasm? /shrug
May 17 DC270 commented on Savage Love.
@9 BiDanFan, without over-sharing, I'd say that I'm very submissive and mostly vanilla, so I find in-the-moment talk to be simultaneously unsexy and also getting at some pretty deep-seated embarrassment issues. (Annoying because I also have a very high sex drive, both high SES and low SIS in the terminology I've seen.)

I find that I'm a lot more open over text, so that may be something I use to negotiate and override my overactive limbic system. ;-)
May 17 DC270 commented on Savage Love.
I feel like whether through nature or nurture, I can only orgasm through penetration or indirect simulation. This worked great in an LTR I was in, but it's stressing me the fuck out with new partners who have different priorities (viz clitorally centric). It's a dilemma.
Mar 7 DC270 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: It's Been a Long Week.
Lucky the readers that missed out on the societal shame from a socially conservative country like the USA. It's definitely a dominant narrative that Good Girls Don't Masturbate or Want to Fuck.
Jan 13 DC270 commented on Savage Love.
@14 I don't consider myself vanilla, but I also don't consider myself "very oral." Always get a weird vibe from men who self-describe that way.
Dec 14, 2016 DC270 commented on Savage Love.
I have absolutely zero doubt that the incoming administration will be every flavor of fail for all Americans. But I wonder if the argument from dehum/literal genocide? isn't hyperbole, of the very sort that pushes people to the right.
Oct 26, 2016 DC270 commented on Savage Love.
Honestly, this column makes me feel a lot better about my childfree stance (as a straight woman). It seems like monogamish gay men have all the fun.
Sep 21, 2016 DC270 commented on Savage Love.
These columns have renewed my once-wavering faith in monogamy. Open relationships sound like much more pain than they're worth.
Aug 10, 2016 DC270 commented on Savage Love.
I'm in my 20s with an unusually high sex drive, and seven times a week sounds like a chore, unless it's on my honeymoon or something.
Jul 14, 2016 DC270 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Pregnancy Derails Poly Bliss.
Interesting that I was just reading Robert Graves's Wikipedia entry. THIS ENDS WITH LAURA RIDING LEAPING FROM A FOURTH FLOOR WINDOW, PEOPLE.