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Jan 11
BeingABear commented on Savage Love.
In the words of a gay friend of mine, "Being gay has nothing to do with your butt."
Dec 6, 2012
BeingABear commented on Savage Love.
Being monogamous is not about being oriented toward monogamy; it's about having the self-discipline to resist the natural and universal urge to engage in intimacy with anyone besides your committed partner.
I have no problem with open or poly relationships, and support poly marriage as soon as the legal angles can be sorted out.
I do have call out those individuals who insist that they have to cheat because they develop crushes on other people. Guess what? Everybody does!!! Acting on these feelings doesn't make you "poly-oriented," it simply makes you a cheater if your spouse isn't consenting.
If you're attracted to the opposite sex, you're hetero-oriented. If you're attracted to the same sex, you're homo-oriented. If you're attracted to both, you're bi-oriented. If you want to have relationships/sex with a number of people, you have one of the above orientations with a lack of desire for monogamy--not a separate orientation.
I have no problem with open or poly relationships, and support poly marriage as soon as the legal angles can be sorted out.
I do have call out those individuals who insist that they have to cheat because they develop crushes on other people. Guess what? Everybody does!!! Acting on these feelings doesn't make you "poly-oriented," it simply makes you a cheater if your spouse isn't consenting.
If you're attracted to the opposite sex, you're hetero-oriented. If you're attracted to the same sex, you're homo-oriented. If you're attracted to both, you're bi-oriented. If you want to have relationships/sex with a number of people, you have one of the above orientations with a lack of desire for monogamy--not a separate orientation.
Aug 29, 2012
BeingABear commented on Savage Love.
SOS's husband might benefit from medication to treat his tendencies...or could he already be on medication? Several of the popular prescription sleep aids on the market list performing activities while asleep (sleep driving, sleep eating, etc.), without any memory afterwards, as a side effect. If SOS's husband is taking something to help him sleep, he might need to stop taking it or switch to a different med.
As an aside, I often have orgasms in my sleep. I attributed them to vivid dreams, but being a "sexsomniac" sounds a lot sexier. Thanks for the term! :D
As an aside, I often have orgasms in my sleep. I attributed them to vivid dreams, but being a "sexsomniac" sounds a lot sexier. Thanks for the term! :D
Jun 21, 2012
BeingABear commented on SL Letter of the Day: Do Monogamous Gay Couples Exist?.
I don't think that being hetero- or homosexual makes you more or less likely to be monogamous. I tend to think that it's more that gay couples would rather accept an open relationship than to have partners sneaking around on each other, and straight couples would rather feign monogamy and sneak around.
May 20, 2012
BeingABear commented on SL Letter of the Day: Show This Woman Some Love.
I agree with others that you should pursue legal guardianship and child support from your nephew's "parents." These "parents" still have obligations, regardless of whatever ideas that their religious leaders have indoctrinated them with.
I also agree that the opposite of love (and of hate) is indifference or apathy. There is actually a fine line between the passionate emotions of love and hate. Hate is based on confusion and fear, so it isn't inconceivable that when the love of family is met with contradictory and confusing messages of religion, the passion of love may cross over into the passion of hate.
You are a hero for rescuing your nephew from a hate-filled situation. Now, for your own sake, find it within yourself to forgive your relatives for being brainwashed. Let them continue to suffer the consequences of hate, while you unburden yourself and move on.
Your nephew is so lucky to have you. Be his rock. I believe in you.
Please keep us posted! ****HUGS****
I also agree that the opposite of love (and of hate) is indifference or apathy. There is actually a fine line between the passionate emotions of love and hate. Hate is based on confusion and fear, so it isn't inconceivable that when the love of family is met with contradictory and confusing messages of religion, the passion of love may cross over into the passion of hate.
You are a hero for rescuing your nephew from a hate-filled situation. Now, for your own sake, find it within yourself to forgive your relatives for being brainwashed. Let them continue to suffer the consequences of hate, while you unburden yourself and move on.
Your nephew is so lucky to have you. Be his rock. I believe in you.
Please keep us posted! ****HUGS****
Feb 23, 2012
BeingABear commented on Savage Love.
I hope LAME reads LOST's letter, because that will be him in 14 years if he "wins back" his high school girlfriend. Your teen romances are rarely, if ever, with anyone you'll find compatible as an adult. Move on, like LOST should have 16.5 years ago!
The gay dead Mormon site is pretty funny. Mormon baptism-by-proxy, though, is not as simple as clicking a button. They actually have volunteers who are dunked in a pool of water on behalf of the baptizee. The equivalent, I think, would involve having volunteers to convert them by having gay sex on their behalf. So, next time you're in the throes of ecstasy with a same-sex partner, try screaming "Brigham! Brigham! Brigham!" That should do it. ;)
The gay dead Mormon site is pretty funny. Mormon baptism-by-proxy, though, is not as simple as clicking a button. They actually have volunteers who are dunked in a pool of water on behalf of the baptizee. The equivalent, I think, would involve having volunteers to convert them by having gay sex on their behalf. So, next time you're in the throes of ecstasy with a same-sex partner, try screaming "Brigham! Brigham! Brigham!" That should do it. ;)
Nov 16, 2011
BeingABear commented on Savage Love.
Re LW3: There is no such thing as a "G-Spot": it's a myth invented by straight men so that they can claim that a woman should be satisfied by vaginal penetration only, without clitoral stimulation. (Female ejaculation is similarly a myth: human females do not have a gland with which to produce ejaculate.)
Needing clitoral stimulation is not a "malfunction" for a woman any more than needing penile stimulation is for a male. The clitoris IS the source of the female orgasm.
If your bf is unwilling to take care of your orgasmic needs because he's avoiding your clitoris, then it's time to move on to someone who's mature enough to consider your needs equal to his own.
Needing clitoral stimulation is not a "malfunction" for a woman any more than needing penile stimulation is for a male. The clitoris IS the source of the female orgasm.
If your bf is unwilling to take care of your orgasmic needs because he's avoiding your clitoris, then it's time to move on to someone who's mature enough to consider your needs equal to his own.
Jun 9, 2011
BeingABear commented on Savage Love.
@26...As a straight female, I have to disagree about the disembodied cock shot. If the cock in question is big enough, I might decide I'd like to have some fun with it...but nothing further with the guy attached to it. ;)
Jun 1, 2011
BeingABear commented on Know Anyone at Mt. Markham High?.
Maybe, like the school officials in Tennessee, the administrators in West Winfield, NY, reject acknowledging "gay"....but might be OK with "Takei"! :)
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I'm an atheist, but I consider Jesus to be a great social philosopher, and it makes me sad that so many of his "followers" (who worship him as a deity) choose to completely ignore his teachings. Anyone who uses the Old Testament to justify hate is not a Christian.