PerfectHannah
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May 19, 2011 PerfectHannah commented on Savage Love Episode 239.
The last caller should let his girlfriend go. I really don't see how it would be possible for this guy to be motivated enough to call Dan about this yet hide his feelings from his girlfriend. He's probably bleeding disappointment and dissatisfaction through every pore and she's picking up on it, if not consciously yet, then probably enough to make her feel bad about herself. If he really gives a crap about her at all he'll set her free; she certainly won't break up with him since he's probably reassuring her right now that he really DOES love her and their sex life really IS great and there's nothing wrong, nothing at all; it's all in her head...
May 12, 2010 PerfectHannah commented on Make Art Anyway.
"To the makers of music — all worlds, all times".
Mar 3, 2010 PerfectHannah commented on Only Privileged White Gay Men Care About Marriage Equality.
Last February, in Orlando, FL, I married a stranger for a marriage equality protest (using the rejected marriage license application of a long-term lesbian couple as my ring). Our local TV news stations cut our interviews to make us look like a joke and then put the kabosh on national TV exposure, booking--then cancelling--an interview and airing a filler segment on a wacky weatherman and a wacky bird instead. Our local newspapers all printed stories, but our daily paper, The Orlando Sentinel, removed the entire comment thread (including comments from supporters, detractors, and crazies) from its online cache! In spite of this, we received a great deal of support from strangers, neighbors, friends, and the Florida community at large. Which says to us that change is coming. And that not only priviledged white gay men care about marriage equality... straight people, bi people, trannies, dykes, homos of all stripes and shapes, dogs, cats, canaries, and weird guys in ski masks in the southernmost US states do, too.

More on what we did here:
http://thorspecken.blogspot.com/2010/02/…
http://thorspecken.blogspot.com/2010/02/…
http://thorspecken.blogspot.com/2010/02/…

and here:
http://www.orlandosentinel.com/entertain…

and of course, the horribly awkward ceremony here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gD59t0SQN…
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Sep 20, 2009 PerfectHannah commented on Help a Sister Out.
Maybe you feel this way because you're focusing on the dick instead of the person you're going down on... kinda making the act anonymous, which may be where the bad "whorish" feelings come from, and detaching yourself from the positive emotions and physical enjoyment that you should be allowing yourself. I see a lot on this thread about embracing that slutty feeling, but you don't seem interested in that, which is totally cool and perfectly normal; you have other options.

Try thinking about the man in front of you and how he makes you feel instead of the act you're performing on him. If it's a long-term relationship, think about how much you care for him and let that deep passion drive you. If it's a new partner, think about how exciting you find him... the newness, the potential. While you're thinking about this man, start to touch his cock the way you'd touch his face. Press it against your cheek the way you'd lay your head on his chest. Kiss up and down it like you'd kiss his back. Get comfortable and familiar with this part of him and never forget that it's only a *part*, a part of HIM, the man you are making love with.

As far as feeling "forced" goes: this is YOUR time to be in control. This is your chance to express how much pleasure he gives to you, sexually, emotionally, whatever you feel, in one of the most private and expressive ways one person can demonstrate feeling to another. Stimulating yourself or having him stimulate you is good, but distracting; and it may add to that detached "slut" feeling, especially in the beginning stages of overcoming your anxiety. If you want to learn to love sucking cock without feeling like a whore (in a bad way), turn it into an act driven by affection first. Your animal instincts will kick in automatically once you learn to relax into the moment.

Of course, this is all assuming this is a mental thing caused by some past trauma or strict upbringing rather than a more complex phobia (since if it was really that paralyzing, I'd imagine you'd be talking to a real shrink insteada the homps on SLOG).
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