Apr 11, 2012
commented on Savage Love
re naked pics:
it is a violation, for sure, but ... other than her personally knowing there was a picture of her naked on the internet, what harm really came from the situation?
if i were in her position, i'd be pissed too. but: it was her waste and bellow, without her face. who could possibly know it was her? as far as anyone else is concerned, it's just another anonymous picture of a vag on the internet.
would it have been better if it was a non-nude picture with her face? personally, i'd be more upset if that were the case.
anyway, her boyfriend's reaction was terrible, so i agree that you should dump him.
Feb 2, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Unicorn Offers Advice to Couples Hunting Unicorns
i'd like the LW, and other people who have criteria that they will use to automatically reject people, know that even though you think you're being clever in filtering out bad people, you are really just filtering in people who are manipulative and savy enough to press the right buttons to get you to do what they want.
Jan 10, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Threeway of Love
"Too many people are afraid to ask "the" question ...."
here's what happened when i wasn't afraid to ask "the" question: i got a bad reputation among my women-friends that i was a sleezy borderline-abusive guy who "only" cared about sex. they spread rumors about me among themselves and to other people, pretty much ruining the circle of friends i thought i had. in their eyes i was already tried and convicted before i knew anything was an issue. "the" question i asked was if the person i was interested would be also be interested in a casual, FWB-type sexy times.
it would be nice to think we could live in a world where you could be honest with your desires, but no. there are real risks, contrary to what dan may say, even if you have some evidence they might be interested.
Dec 19, 2011
commented on Help Me, Slog
creepy gay / child molester, but grow it next holoween for a fredie mercury costume.
Nov 7, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Fear Ol' Dad
i'm not into that kind of thing, but there has to be a close to 100% chance that no one actually died or was hurt in the "snuff porn". i'm assuming you didn't watch it. it's just his kink, try to forget about it.