Feb 8 wine-o commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She Knows She's Bi Now—But Does Anyone Else Need To Know?.
when I came out, it was a non issue. My wife prefers not to.
Feb 8 wine-o commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She Knows She's Bi Now—But Does Anyone Else Need To Know?.
Definitely keep on eating pussy. But if you come out as bi, it can affect your relationship with your gf.
Feb 6 wine-o commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Object Lessons, Cont..
As part of a couple who like trans women in our recreational sex life, this part of us isn't our our shining moment as tran allies. But it is mostly expressed at kink sex parties or with the engaging of for profit no op trans women. And when we want a trans woman who is into penis penetration, we most certainly are fetishizing the prospective party. But the transwoman who advertised shes a top and into couples on a sex work website or on a kink site is pretty much engaged into fulfilling a fetish. So go for it and ask for what you want in a positive way.

On the other hand, even at an orgy, there are times of just chit chat and if you run from a trans woman at those times, or a trans man but we haven't encountered one yet, then you are being an asshole.

We have met one trans woman at a kink party who we are not going to have sex with (shes in a committed relationship and shes there because shes an exhibionistic submissive). I totally crush on her and we share in common views on politics, sustainability and politics that are similar. We discovered these because we talked to her as a person. So while I would love to be tied up and whipped with her, and that's not going to happen, we are happy to have her as a party friend.

When it comes to kink, you need to ask for what you want to get it (almost all of the time). But you can be a nice person as you do.
Feb 6 wine-o commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Tall Order.
Asexual seems to throw people... it only means the person has no interest in sex. That doesn't mean they don't like romance, non sexual touching/play etc. If you've ever had a night where you were just not into sex but you cuddled your partner as they got off and you enjoyed it, then you just had an asexual experience. No biggie.

Agender is even less known than asexual, but it might have any of many meanings. The person is saying they don't have a gender, meaning that they don't identify with male or female. Agender/gay is more difficult to parse... but I think the commenter who said that the person is biomale and likrs to cuddle boys may have it right.

I think that the folk who suggested asking someone out as a duo and letting things develop is the best way to go and posting on kink website {fetlife comes to mind} where you can specify in a very detailed way what you are looking for. If BDSM is of interest, then Collarspace.com is another place to try.
Jan 20 wine-o commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Dildos and Dildon'ts.
Dan, while it is important to NOT send your used dildoes to the Bundy Militia, c/o Malheur National Wildlife Refuge, 36391 Sodhouse Lane, Princeton, OR, 97721, it is important in this time of global warming to not wash the dildos you are not sending to the Bundy Militia, c/o Malheur National Wildlife Refuge, 36391 Sodhouse Lane, Princeton, OR, 97721. I am not sure how much CO2 emissions are caused by washing dildoes you are not sending to the Bundy Militia, c/o Malheur National Wildlife Refuge, 36391 Sodhouse Lane, Princeton, OR, 97721, but lets be safe for our environment.
Sep 25, 2015 wine-o commented on SL Letter of the Day: Kick My Rich Asshole Balls.
In the metropolitan area where i live the going rate for BDSM services is around $300 an hour to $350. Most providers who mention ballbusting are usually at the upper end of the scale or have provisos in their tribute section that intense fetishes may incur an extra cost. So i hope if she did it, that she for $400 to $500 if in a large city, a little less if in a small one.

As far as protecting one's self, a string of emails back and forth can establish a clear accounting of what was intended, but there have been court cases, Ii believe in Canada and Great Britain which concluded one cannot give prior consent to assault.

I once spoke with a Domme who did a ball busting video and she said she did it to see how far she could go so she really loved the session.
Sep 11, 2015 wine-o commented on SL Letter of the Day: Creampie Catch 22.
As a dedicated cuckold. my Beloved tells me to eat her cum whenever and from wherever she says. Usually her breasts after my masturbating on them. Licking your own jizz out of her vagina after getting to cum thee seems a lesser task. Of course a sour encounters with her lovers is are always condom moderated, licking her lovers jizz is not on my task list.
Jul 24, 2015 wine-o commented on Jeb! Bush: Let's Phase Out Medicare.
Lance Thrustwell, the point of insurance is to take advantage of the law of large numbers and risk pooling. The bigger the pool, the more risk pooling and the lower average cost to each person covered. Why?

Insurance has one price component for expected risk, and one for the variance in that risk. Lets forget for a moment about he factor for the greed of the executives. The larger the pool the lower the need for the variance protection. Law of Large Numbers. So to take things to the logical conclusion, single payer is the only way to minimize the cost of providing risk management. And it is trivial to show that this solution delivers pareto optimality and maximizes social benefit or minimized social cost.

This isn't liberal clap trap thinking, it was I fucking learned at University of Chicago when I was still a conservative "George Bush" republican. This was or less on on the first day of Micro form Nobel Winning Economist Gary Becker. The protege of Milton Friedman. I mean this is as fucking conservative an idea as is fucking possible.

.But just as I lost the wool over my eyes and realized that the conservative agenda I was being force fed was all bullshit, conservatives for got about this little lesson. The result today is I am happily bisexual, my wife and I are swingers, my conscious is clear that I support and agenda to the left of Bernie Sanders and I realize my privileged status. The fucking conservatives , on the other hand, found Jebus and and are committed to a fuck the unlucky economy. And HSA's are just that. There is no smaller pool than an HSA. GUess wrong or get cancer young and you're fucked. Just like you were if you had a lot of stocks in your IR and planned to retire in 2010. Fuck you for not being in the 1%
Jun 9, 2015 wine-o commented on Bernie Sanders May Pose a Serious Challenge.
Please don't but into the clap trap argument that Jeb vs Hilary is not a real choice. While parts of their agendas will be similar, their supreme court nominees, their views on equality, right to chose, right to be free from religion all will differ in huge ways that will reverberate in our country for far more years than the next president will serve.

Do you want a president who will pursue cases like Terry Schiavo? Who will not pursue woman's rights, gay rights, voting rights with any fervor?

Jeb Bush presided over a purge of voter rolls in 2000 that calls into question the election and the election of George Bush. And having him as president won't have an effect on the current wave of right wing supported voter suppression?

Please, please, please wake up. It was the left, who by not showing up at the polls that brought about the current control of both houses by the right wing. It is the left, that by not voting in local elections that allows for the current make up of state congressional and legislative districts (not in all cases, but in a huge number).

Apathy is just wrong, cowardly and stupid. Learn the real positions of candidates (which means not listening to the sound bites on the news or just reading the headlines on Politico, The Hill etc, but actually listening to the long form speeches of the candidates. Then go vote!

People who are apathetic and say there is no choice give that choice to the ones who are motivated.

We would have a real left alternative if the left were to vote like the right does.
May 27, 2015 wine-o commented on SL Letter of the Day: Cuck You.
Ohh, last add.... First!