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Feb 6, 2016 TenrSinger commented on Samuel French Tries to Shut Down That'swhatshesaid an Hour Before Curtain.
First off: Accusing Samuel French of attacking this because it's feminist is pretty absurd. SF gives out the rights to tons of feminist pieces...a search on their website for "Feminist" returns 140 titles. This is about copyright law and money.

Also, as someone who doesn't know copyright law well, I have a question. I understand that Fair Use makes it so that copyrighted material can be used for satire and such. But this is an ENTIRE PLAY made up of dialogue written by other people. Even if it's edited together creatively, I can still see where that could be problematic from a legal perspective.

For the record, I think this sounds fascinating, and I hope that the show gets to go on with its full intended script. But I also recognize why a company that owns the rights to the plays that the dialogue is from would want royalties for something like this.
Jun 16, 2015 TenrSinger commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Opposite of a Sympathy Card.
I agree with the others here who say to send a polite note. You can be perfectly gracious while still making your point. Tell her how important her brother was to you, how much you miss his kindness, his cooking, the trips you took, the comfort he gave you. Tell her that you're happy to have fulfilled his wish to return the photo albums, and that you've also included pictures of the two of you so that she can remember the love and joy you shared.

You can take the higher ground while still subtly pointing out what a hypocrite she's been. Maybe it's a bit passive aggressive, but it's much better than she deserves while still allowing you to feel like the better person.
Apr 5, 2015 TenrSinger commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Help! My Boyfriend Wants to Get Pegged!.
@3 and @15: Watch the clip he provided. "Plow it like a queen, dude" is a direct quote. Also, the clip is fucking hilarious. And I would watch the hell out of that man getting pegged...

Having said that, I agree that Dan dropped the ball on this one. For someone who's given a lot of advice on how to ease people into anal play, this was massively unhelpful.
Nov 22, 2014 TenrSinger commented on SL Letter of the Day: Profile & Courage.
I just want to put an opinion to contradict Ms. LavaGirl and say that there are plenty of people who are totally turned on by non bad boys. I'm a gay guy, so I'm not what you're looking for, but I have pretty high standards, and I would be more than happy to fuck OR date you from that profile. I'm not saying it's going to be easy for you...most people on OKCupid are looking for singles, not married men, and women are less likely to be down with fucking or dating a married guy than men are. But to suggest that you're not likely to get interest because you don't give off a bad boy vibe is ridiculous. Maybe LavaGirl wouldn't be interested, but I certainly would, and I know there are women out there who would agree with me.
Nov 8, 2014 TenrSinger commented on A Thought on the Pedestrian Crossing Button.
One thing that no one has mentioned in talking about how much kids like to push buttons is how much ADULTS like to push buttons. We've been primed our whole lives to feel that pushing a button equates to something we want (even if it's small) occurring. That's why so many companies spend tons of time on the design of their buttons, making sure that they look, sound, feel, and respond in ways that are physically and emotionally satisfying to their customers. So it's no surprise that we want to push an already-pushed button...we want to push all buttons.
Jun 3, 2014 TenrSinger commented on BREAKING: Woman Not Wanted at Gay Orgy! Must Credit HuffPo!.
@LavaGirl: I think the point Dan was trying to make is that the term "gay" is (unfortunately) ambiguous. It can refer either to both gay men and women, or to only gay men (which, as he says, was because lesbians in the 70s didn't want to have to be lumped in with gay men). Therefore, he is not ignoring or attacking lesbians if he uses the word "gay" to refer to men, despite the ambiguity of the term.

I think Dan has made it very clear over the years that he's an important leader for the whole GLBT community. Let's not get so caught up on semantics that we forget that and end up attacking someone who is doing all he can for the rights of the whole community.
Apr 28, 2014 TenrSinger commented on SL Letter of the Day: Friendly Fire.
@7 First of all, I'm sure there are plenty of gay dudes who are uncomfortable with straight women looking at naked pics of them...but I don't think you'd find a lot of them on DudesNude.

And second, you're not giving some straight guys enough credit. I work in a field in which the men are gay at a MUCH higher rate than the normal population (musical theatre), and I know a lot of straight guys in the biz who LOVE getting ogled by gay guys. Just goes with the attention whoredom of being an actor, I suppose...
Mar 14, 2014 TenrSinger commented on Gaydolph Hitler, World's Most Notorious Bi-Phobe, Helps Out a Young Bisexual.
@45 As a monosexual gay man, I do understand your argument. Being out as a bisexual person is not the same as being out as a gay person. But that doesn't affect the validity of the point that Dan has made over and over: If a bisexual person is not out to friends, coworkers, and family, then he or she is contributing to bisexual invisibility. And you might be right; being out as a bisexual person might require MORE effort than being out as a gay person.

But it's far from impossible. My sister is happily married to a man, and they have three daughters. But she's very out about being bisexual. And not because she loudly proclaims it everywhere she goes...she's just open when people ask her about her dating history, and will occasionally say something like, "My friend Carrie is so hot...I would totally date her if I weren't with my husband." Similarly, one of my best friends is a kick ass bi girl. She never had a big coming out talk with me...she just talked about the guy she was dating at the time and the girl she had broken up with not long before, and I put it together.

So I guess my point is this: Yes, it might be slightly more complicated for a bisexual person to be out than it is for a gay person, simply because who the bi person is dating at the time doesn't tell the whole story of his or her sexual orientation. But that doesn't change the fact that bisexuals will only become more visible if they are out...whether it's a more difficult prospect for them or not.
Mar 10, 2014 TenrSinger commented on Savage Love.
@14 nailed it. If PISSED is as intense about trying to watch her bf pee as she is about asking this question, it must make her pee-shy bf downright terrified! Having to pee next to a stranger in a bathroom isn't nearly as intimidating as peeing in front of someone who is watching you and expecting to be turned on. And from her tone, I'm imagining her, like, bounding to the bathroom like a terrier when he goes to pee and then staring at his crotch with her hand down her pants.

Better advice for PISSED: People are taught (correctly!) to keep their bathroom business private. Your bf is being polite by keeping the door locked. If this is something that really turns you on and that you want to incorporate into your sex life, approach him calmly, at a non-sexy time, and say, "Hey, I know it's a little weird and uncomfortable, but I'm really turned on by the thought of watching you pee. It doesn't have to be every time, but I'd love it if you'd indulge me once in a while...I promise you'll get the best sex ever if you do!" And do it without telling him you're BORED (in all caps), and without lots of overwhelming punctuation in your voice (?!?). You're likely to get much better results.
Mar 7, 2014 TenrSinger commented on Chatterbox: The Internet Is Talking About Republican Racists and the Alleged Bitcoin Guy.
I'm shocked that people think this Annie trailer looks good. I'm a musical theatre geek, and I was really looking forward to a new take on Annie, and especially thrilled to have a non-white girl playing the lead. But between the schticky references (Facebook! We're hip!), the (UGH) auto-tune, and whatever the hell Cameron Diaz is doing (and I actually adore her...but this looks like a bad high school improv class), this seems horrifying.

It's even more disappointing because Annie is actually a wonderful, heartfelt, fun story with a great score. And it's a story that could be updated easily without all of the hit-you-over-the-head jokes and references and with some great new musical arrangements. Also...they couldn't find a young black girl who could REALLY sing "Tomorrow"? Quvenzhane Wallis is a phenomenal actress, but Annie is an iconic singing role...it should be played by a great actress who can sing her face off. There's no question that they're out there.