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Jan 6 Kitchenwitch commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Good Wife (And Her Sister).
Ack! That would be wife's sister. Although sister's wife would probably be a less than brilliant move as well.
Jan 6 Kitchenwitch commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Good Wife (And Her Sister).
@44: You beat me to it! That is a great song, and trying to get with your sister's wife is a terrible idea. I am a pretty open wife and not even remotely jealous, but my answer would land somewhere between hell no and get out.
Apr 27, 2015 Kitchenwitch commented on SL Letter of the Day: Shapes and Sizes.
On the other hand, I hardly think that pointing out that there are some negative aspects to porn is indulging in "Anti-porn hysteria". Like pot, TV and music, porn should be enjoyed while keeping your wits about you. No one should be hurt in the process of making porn, it is most definitely not a "how to" manual, and if you find yourself internalizing the misogyny that is present in so much porn, then maybe you need to put down the mouse and and try interacting with women who are not the creation of a script writer who is specifically trying to get you off. Like most issues, this one has shades of gray. (No pun intended)
Apr 27, 2015 Kitchenwitch commented on SL Letter of the Day: Shapes and Sizes.
Maybe it's an old married lady thing, but my sweetie's porn habits don't bother me at all. I don't snoop, but when you've lived together for 20 years, you find stuff. If I had found stuff with animals or kids in it it would have upset me, to put it mildly. Other than that it's all fine. The libido likes what it likes.

I have my insecurities, and they have reared their ugly head on occasion, but I know that they are my issue to deal with. Bodies are beautiful and they are fun to watch. Just because he is watching a type of body that doesn't look like mine doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy mine as well. I find some porn degrading to women so I avoid watching a lot if it, but not all of my fantasies live up to my staunch feminist beliefs either. My body rarely consults my brain when deciding what is going to get me off, I don't expect his to. I would be sad if my love felt that he had to hide a part of his sexuality from me. Since neither of us is particularly jealous and we both lean pretty monogamous, we're comfortable sharing that kind of stuff with each other. Some couples aren't, and that's okay too. However, trying to control someone else's sexual proclivities seems not only cruel, it seems like a battle you're bound to lose.

Mar 13, 2015 Kitchenwitch commented on I, Anonymous.
@24: That is true, and when I dig in the garden I wash my hands afterwards, but kids aren't always as careful. And to a cat, a sandbox is just a giant litter box.

The big reason that mine stay indoors most of the time is my jerk of a neighbor who hates cats. He's threatened to shoot the neighborhood strays on more than one occasion, (Makes jokes about making my turtle into soup too. A truly lovely human being.) and I don't want to risk one of them crossing his path. Also, there is a busy road nearby. I've seen more dead pets on that road over the years than I can count. I do bring them out into the fenced yard once in a while when I can be out with them. They enjoy it, but they're pretty happy indoors too.
Mar 10, 2015 Kitchenwitch commented on I, Anonymous.
As a cat lover, all that I have to say to you is Amen. I know people, your cats want to go outside. So do mine! But if fluffy wanted to subside on a strict diet of chicken bones, antifreeze, and dental floss, you wouldn't let him because it could kill him. There are so many things outside that can and do kill cats. Cars, dogs, wildlife, irate neighbors, other cats, and diseases. Everyone thinks that their cat is smart enough to avoid those things. You're wrong. If they've avoided them so far, then you're lucky. Finding your pet on the side of the road is more heartbreaking than you can imagine. Not to mention that you're giving every asshole who hates cats a valid reason to complain, (present company excepted IA. I'm sure that super soaker full of urine is the act of a perfectly reasonable person. Please do record your neighbor's reaction when you take a dump on their doorstep.) Toxoplasmosis is spread via feline feces. Most cats carry toxo, and it can be dangerous to kids and pregnant women. Please, keep them indoors. Free range cats are often dead cats.

Ahem. Sorry, stepping off the soapbox now. Crazy cat ladies gotta rant sometimes, you know?
Aug 25, 2014 Kitchenwitch commented on SL Letter of the Day: Dude, Take My Free Advice!.
Not sure if this has been mentioned yet, but say you manage to smooth this over and eventually do have kids. What if one of those kids some day grows up to be a teen who doesn't remember to clear his or her internet cache? There is nothing like parental shaming to truly screw up a budding sexuality. She needs to get her head straight on this before you even consider procreating with her.
Jul 22, 2013 Kitchenwitch commented on Watch Me Make Grover Norquist and Connie Mack Throw Up (Almost).
@1, you thought that joke bombed? My husband laughed himself to tears over that one.
Jun 27, 2013 Kitchenwitch commented on Is This the Most Unfortunate Anti-Gay Logo and Slogan In History?.
@5, 8: Just call him Lucky Pierre!
May 22, 2013 Kitchenwitch commented on SL Letter of the Day: Did You Think I Was Going To Tell You Not To Come Out? (PLUS: Help Free Kate!).
*Raises both hands* I was 15, boyfriend was 18. He was sort of a doofus, but he wasn't a sexual predator. I knew what I was doing and to this day I don't regret it.

The other hand is for my husband, same age spread but he was on the other side of it. Hubby is a sweet, quiet guy who I had to throw myself at multiple times before he realized that I might be interested in him. Definitely not the predatory type.

I think that statutory rape laws are absurd when there is less than a five year age gap. This young lady was within the law on the day before her 18th birthday, but a felon on the day after? Also, husband says he read somewhere that the relationship came to light because the girls were kicked off of the team for violating the "team members can't date" rule. Is that the case? If so, that rule is blatantly discriminatory. The quarter back can date the head cheer leader and that's fine, but if he dates the running back he gets kicked off the team. Most high school teams are all one sex, so this rule basically only outlaws same sex relationships.