Jan 21, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Rules of Cheating, Cont.
I lived this with my partner in the early 90s when he was dying. He gave me the word "go, I understand, go and get some companionship and have a good time. It's truly OK."
I wasn't in the least interested in getting off with someone else at that point, so I never acted on his gracious offer, which was indeed given out of love.
Instead, I got more satisfaction lying in bed with him, masturbating by myself, while he kissed and held me (and talked dirty to me!), than I can ever have gotten with someone else. While not the hottest and most mind-boggling sex I've had in my life, it's up there at the very top as being by far among the most intimate and personal.
It's very difficult though for anyone in this situation; my only advice is be 100% honest with each other about it.
May 5, 2010
commented on Bonus SL Letter of the Day
The worst is a little bout of anal itch! I live in NYC and when it happens, I have to turn around, see if anyone's behind me and if someone is there keep walking and hope it works itself out, but if not, I scratch away! Still, if it happens I try to skulk into some apt bldg doorway or something.