Jan 14, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: New Dad's Urge Surge
I'm an old gay man. I first came out to my mother at 19 in 1970. She was not happy. But after decades of cultural change, she came around. One of the thoughts that allowed her to see me as a man of integrity -- rather than a sick pervert -- is that I never ruined the life of an unsuspecting woman. Too late for NFOH, but not for others.
And remember, only the lucky get to be old.
Oct 2, 2013
commented on Savage Love
If a guy is calling his dick his "shit," then he has more problems than have been discussed here.
Say Nae to junk, say Yea to family jewels.
Sep 16, 2013
commented on I Like Your New Pope
Clever of you to reference Gandhi's attitude toward Xians.
The germiest thing anywhere: the handle of a blue mailbox, which --like holy water -- is never cleaned.
Aug 31, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Lost Boy
In my experience... I'm old, first started the endless coming process in 1970... men in the closet mostly need to witness the happy lives of out gay men. Eventually, they can't stand not having a decent life for themselves. Let him see you -- even from a distance -- having a great life.
Aug 22, 2013
commented on Savage Love
This is why I read Dan Savage and have read him for nearly 25 years, yes dear you're old.
Good information and frank talk. Hear, hear, bud, hear, hear.
Jun 8, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: I'm Gay and Being Bullied By My Hyper-Religious Parents—What Do I Do?
Like you, Me, my mother brought the subject up when I was a teenager.
I was 19, in college, not at home. It was 1970. I had left a copy of Jean Genet's A Thief's Journal on the living room coffee table -- not entirely by mistake. So I confirmed my gayness. Mom said I still love you but you are sick and you need help. In fact, this was a couple years before Gayness was no longer officially a sickness.
I said, "I'm not sick, and as long as you think that way, we're not going to talk about it."
I'm pretty sure she was slightly relieved, and we did not talk about it for quite a long time. As the culture moved toward acceptance, so did Mom. But no faster than that. Eventually she came to see that an out gay life had more integrity than ruining the life of an innocent straight woman who a closeted man might have made his wife.
Be as honest as you can SAFELY, live your own life, and let the parents come around when they can.