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Apr 10, 2012 joybd commented on SL Letter of the Day: Holy Day of Romantic Obligation.
Methinks the LW is a Bridezilla in training. . .
Mar 9, 2012 joybd commented on SL Letter of the Day: Minor Dispute.
One of the best things about Dan posting the links to the old letters is the chance for us all to revive DOAC (Defecating On Ann Coulter)!
Mar 7, 2012 joybd commented on Savage Love.
Dan, what a compassionate, humane reply to CWIA.

CWIA, best of luck to you, and I hope you recognize what a brave achievement it is for you to make it this far.
Dec 14, 2011 joybd commented on The Worst School District In America.
SeattleKim: Yes, absolutely, get the local police involved. Only when kids and their parents bypass the school system and go to the police will pressure be put on schools to make sweeping changes.

And, gee, I guess Dan is really hitting a nerve with his hard-hitting truth-telling. Look at all the pathetic trolls (or one very active one) on this board.
Dec 14, 2011 joybd commented on The Worst School District In America.
How could anyone not grieve when gay kids kill themselves? The more gay kids who kill themselves, the fewer gay adults there will be who will demand and work for change.
Sep 22, 2011 joybd commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Big Ask.
My story: I felt hopeless and despaired of ever losing weight. One day I thought, "I'm going to walk to the end of the block and back." I did, very slowly, needing to rest along the way a couple of times. Very slowly, over time, I increased the distance. Soon I was walking 4 blocks, then 5, then 6. I rested when I needed to, but over time I became stronger. I tried to always walk with a close friend because doing that made me feel safer: people weren't as mean and didn't yell at me as much when there was another person with me. I very actively told myself how proud I was of myself for the little goals I was achieving.

Another piece of the puzzle for me: some people's bodies are very sensitive to sugar, and mine is one of them. I love sweets, so I began looking for healthier alternatives to candy and desserts. I began frequenting the health food aisles of grocery stores. I began buying health food bars instead of candy bars (some of the health food bars are actually quite good). I did all of this because overdosing on sugar was contributing to my depression and anxiety big time. Our bodies get used to what we eat. So if you add a bit of fruit to your diet, even though at first it may not taste good to you, your taste buds will change within a few weeks, and you'll begin liking the fruit.

I would encourage you to try to say nice things to yourself. The way you talk to yourself -- would you ever talk that way to your sister? No, because you love her. Even though it's going to feel false at first, please try saying positive things to yourself. You could even ask your sister to help you see some of the good, beautiful stuff about yourself, and then repeat that to yourself every day, throughout the day. Your sister would not lie to you -- she loves you. So you must believe what she says about you. YOU HAVE WORTH. You may feel like a piece of crap, but YOU ARE NOT A PIECE OF CRAP. You have worth. You must believe that about yourself because it's true.

And if the people in the medical community you're seeing are not helping you, try other avenues: acupuncture or an integrated health specialist (someone who's open to thinking outside the box).

Best of luck and hugs, my friend.
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Aug 15, 2011 joybd commented on I Would Like You to Know My Name.
Wow, what an amazing, powerful essay. You made me cry, and even though you may not feel brave and strong at times, YOU ARE. Wishing you eventual peace and much love.
Nov 3, 2010 joybd commented on SL Letter of the Day: Stop Being Such a Girl.
I love you, Dan! Your answer rocked, and while I was growing up, I wish I'd been exposed to this kind of "stop being a 'girl'" thinking. Now that I'm raising a daughter, I will encourage her to be the strong, independent, brash girl that I was always discouraged from being. xoxoxoxo!!
Oct 14, 2010 joybd commented on I, Anonymous.
Good fucking god, people. We *all* have unhealthy and self-destructive habits; it's part of being human. Some of these habits are simply more visible than others.

@28/smitty: You POS asshole. A 19-year old kid who weighs 750 lbs?? Did it not occur to you that his weight is a very loud cry for help for any number of possible problems (incest/rape/abuse/neglect)? You're right when you described him as a "kid" -- and, definitionally, he doesn't have the same resources and coping mechanisms available to him as an adult. Why don't you get off your self-righteous ass and outside of your narcissistic self and actually try to help a fellow human being during your short time on this planet?
Oct 14, 2010 joybd commented on I, Anonymous.
Good fucking god, people. We *all* have unhealthy and self-destructive habits; it's part of being human. Some of these habits are simply more visible than others.

@28/smitty: You POS asshole. A 19-year old kid who weighs 750 lbs?? Did it not occur to you that his weight is a very loud cry for help for any number of possible problems (incest/rape/abuse/neglect)? You're right when you described him as a "kid" -- and, definitionally, he doesn't have the same resources and coping mechanisms available to him as an adult. Why don't you get off your self-righteous ass and outside of your narcissistic self and actually try to help a fellow human being during your short time on this planet?
 

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