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Feb 1 california reader commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Sexless, Nearly Sexless, and Formerly Sexless Marriages, Ad Infinitum.
Desperate to brag about this: We're in our early fifties, together for 32 years, married for 25, and had sex four times Saturday...four different ways. Happy, happy.

Nov 19, 2014 california reader commented on Savage Love.
When you're a parent, you're in charge. When you're a submissive, you're not. This is hard to resolve when you're doing both at once, which is what you're doing if the kid is in your house, even if they're good with locked doors and sleep through the night and never have nightmares. So it might be more of a mind problem and not solvable with easy-off restraints or waiting till the kids are asleep.
Nov 13, 2014 california reader commented on SL Letter of the Day: Dr. Lori Brotto Steps In.
@EricaP, no, unfortunately. At least not in my experience as a submissive with vulvodynia (now mostly under control). When you are in pain all day, all week, all month, adding pain for fun just feels like noise at best and overwhelms at worst. And one of the worst things for vulvodynia was being aroused, because it woke up the nerve endings which made them more sensitive to the pain. Ugh.
Nov 13, 2014 california reader commented on SL Letter of the Day: Pain Can't Be Avoided.
@85, try EFT, Emotional Freeing Technique, also known as tapping. In just one session, it has an amazing ability to help your body release emotional trauma and stop responding physically to things that your brain has begun to cope with. Good luck!
Sep 30, 2014 california reader commented on Savage Love.
I'm so glad this was not the first Savage Love column I ever read. 'Cause it would have been the last.
Feb 18, 2014 california reader commented on Savage Love.
Hmm, it made me retch often enough (also hot, apparently, to my guy) that when I started having more reflux/heartburn, I worried about it corroding my esophageal valve, like what happens to bulimics. I've backed off it (or he has, ha) and it seems to be helping Just my imagination?
Dec 10, 2013 california reader commented on SL Letter of the Day: LGBT&P?.
love the @ and %.
and how about ≈ for monogamish (that's the symbol for approximately equal to, for you non-mathematically inclined)
Dec 8, 2013 california reader commented on SL Letter of the Day: LGBT&P?.
A compilation plus some ideas --
: gay
. lesbian
?! bi
/ sf kink
* trans
; peggers
| straight
{} poly (since brackets enclose a group)
? questioning
# BDSM
" pan (I like men. Ditto! I like women. Ditto!)
∅ asexual (empty set. actually, that's probably pretty rude. hmm...oh, there we go! ... asexual. (Q. What do you like in sex? A. ...))
$ sex worker
+ sex-positive or GGG
´ leather/fetish (sex with something added, as in the accent mark?)