1:46 PM yesterday
commented on Update on Friday Night's Shooting at the UW Milo Yiannopoulos Demonstration
I think I remember reading on the SLOG a useful example of how to appropriately evaluate hate speech vs. censorship of ideas.
A book store had placed Mein Kampf prominently on the displays greeting customers when they came through the door. When asked, the staff explained that it was to demonstrate that the book store would not censor books or shy away from controversial subjects. However, the customer(?) pointed out that given the toxic history of Mein Kampf, having it placed so prominently would not be seen as a statement about censorship, but an endorsement or promotion of antisemitism. The staff thought it over, agreed, and moved the book to less visible part of the store.
Milo Yiannopoulos does not express controversial views, he expresses hate speech and denigrates minorities. Allowing him to speak on campus at an official school event should not be thought of as having a conservative columnist like George Will speak, it should be thought of as comparable to having David Duke of the KKK speak on campus.
commented on Savage Love
While I don't know much about (safe) actualization of a suicide fetish, you didn't make a mention of any porn or erotic material as an outlet. On the off chance you haven't already investigated it, there is a sub-genre of Hentai (Japanese erotic comic books) focused on characters happily committing suicide for their own erotic thrill. Since it is a niche genre you might have to find raw (untranslated) manga online, then pay someone $1 a page to translate it - or make good use of google translate and do the scanlation yourself.
Beyond that there are plenty of suicide themed snuff pornos, erotic stories, and other fantasy material catering to people like you.
Nov 30, 2016
commented on Savage Love
GDH, apparently Dan is being a dick this week and just being flippant, so here are the bullet points of what he should have said (as taken from his podcast and other columns)
*Sex toys are awesome and you and your girlfriend should do some exploration
*If a contractor builds a house with a nail gun instead of a hammer we don't say "well he used a power tool so it doesn't count." The same goes for orgasms produced by sex toys
*You will have options to acquire them at your comfort level. If you and your girlfriend are comfortable going to a sex shop then make an event from it. If you want online discretion, babeland.com
is great. If obviously phallic objects are unnerving for you, consider the Magic Wand "massage" tool which you can purchase on sex toy sites or even Amazon (note: this is considered the Cadillac of vibrators for women and my gf loves it when I use it on her).
Nov 28, 2016
commented on Trump Is Also One of The Losers Benefitting from Fake News
A major frustration I have is with people creating a false equivalency, claiming liberals and conservatives live in their own equally invalid bubbles. Horse puckey. This is not liberals reading the New York Times and conservatives reading the Wall Street Journal, this is liberals reading the New York Times and conservatives reading Breitbart. The former is one of the best and most reliable sources of information in the world, the latter is white nationalist publication (though that barely scratches the surface of their prejudices). You don't acquiesce to bigotry, you fight it.
Nov 4, 2016
commented on Rolling Stone Found Liable for Defamation in UVA Rape Story Suit
There's one other failure of journalism: the willingness to sweep "Jackie's" role in this under the rug. In your own piece "The Rolling Stone Rape Story Correction Is About a Failure of Journalism, Not a Failure of Trust" you cite Vox and point to the line "Jackie said she asked Erdely to be taken out of the story."
And yet a mere two sentences later there is this little tidbit "Jackie said she finally relented and agreed to participate on the condition that she be able to fact check her part of the story, which she said Erdely accepted." Ergo, she still signed off on the factual content of her story.
Furthermore, before the retraction, progressive and feminist organizations were rushing to defend both Erdely and Jackie, stating inconsistencies like Jackie's are common among victims of traumatic sexual assault and that using a single source is common in whistleblowing stories. Here are two of them:
Lastly, Jackie always had a trump card she could have played to prevent RS from publishing her story: Jackie could have admitted she fabricated most, if not all, of the events she described. She could have PROVEN "Drew" didn't exist and that the pictures and text messages were stuff she created. But Jackie did not do so, not wanting to admit that she was a liar. And ignoring that feeds perfectly into the narrative that we should be skeptical of reported rapes.
Oct 12, 2016
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Sonny and Overshare
Paraphrasing the key line from Dan that everyone with kinks should remember, especially when disclosing them to romantic partners:
The kink, all by itself, isn't the shameful part. How you choose to express or indulge the kink is where you need to think carefully about the effects.
Oct 10, 2016
commented on A Black Woman Gets A Warm Welcome from Racist Seattle
I worked in compliance and fraud detection at a major bank for a while and I can verify that with new accounts all deposits receive extra scrutiny. Whether the check is payroll, personal, or cashiers, or whether it is a cash deposit, there are entire departments that monitor what goes on looking for signs of money laundering or fraud. In my own investigations I would find that a listed business did not exist, or the building the business operated out of had no record of them being there, that the "employee" had been fired months earlier, that someone had cashed a payroll check at a money service business, except the MSB had not deposited the check and had sold it to someone trying to launder money or hide assets, the list goes on and on. 90% of the time it was nothing - the red flags were legitimate but innocent, like here.
That said, this is only one data point. Looking at the patterns of teller reported suspicious activity would provide better info about whether African American customers are flagged more frequently than their white counterparts.