May 10
unknown_entity commented on SL Letter of the Day: I'm Out.
Meh, a non-issue. She over reacted, don't lose any sleep about it.
Apr 30
unknown_entity commented on One Hundred Percent Men.
@1-33: Quit whining and take action that actually starts to advance women. Places to start and examples include:
http://chicktechnet.blogspot.com/
http://wtcgoogle-eorg.eventbrite.com/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Danica_McKe…
http://chicktechnet.blogspot.com/
http://wtcgoogle-eorg.eventbrite.com/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Danica_McKe…
Apr 30
unknown_entity commented on Today In Too Awful to Think About.
Upton Sinclair's zombie should file a lawsuit.
Mar 20
unknown_entity commented on Savage Love Episode 334.
About the guy who was uneasy about his wife's 'proud and public' breastfeeding (and comments declaring him to be an evil, manipulative husband).
1) There are LOTS of porn genres centered around motherhood - lactation, pregnancy, not to mention everything with MILF in the title. Arguing that only a controlling asshole would imagine someone getting turned on by breastfeeding requires ignoring all the porn built around that exact kink.
2) Dan, why are you belittling the guy, telling him that if teenagers or men wanted to see naked breasts, they can go online. The existence of online porn has not negated peoples interest in seeing actual breasts (excluding people not interested in women). If it did, every strip club in America would have gone bankrupt long ago.
3) Working in a grocery store, I regularly have to deal with parents who think that having a child eliminates barriers between what is appropriate in public vs. private. To be fair, there has been only one time, several years ago, that I felt that a woman was overly casual breastfeeding her baby. A woman and her husband (I assumed) came up to my register and she was breastfeeding her baby. Her tank top was bunched up underneath her arms, her other breast barely had the nipple covered, showing a LOT of under boob. If she had not had her baby, it would have looked like she was auditioning for 'Girls Gone Wild.'
4) To be fair, everything I mentioned in points 1-3 does not mean the caller is not over reacting. If he wants her to breastfeed only at home or in a car with tinted windows, then yes, he is being irrational.
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1) There are LOTS of porn genres centered around motherhood - lactation, pregnancy, not to mention everything with MILF in the title. Arguing that only a controlling asshole would imagine someone getting turned on by breastfeeding requires ignoring all the porn built around that exact kink.
2) Dan, why are you belittling the guy, telling him that if teenagers or men wanted to see naked breasts, they can go online. The existence of online porn has not negated peoples interest in seeing actual breasts (excluding people not interested in women). If it did, every strip club in America would have gone bankrupt long ago.
3) Working in a grocery store, I regularly have to deal with parents who think that having a child eliminates barriers between what is appropriate in public vs. private. To be fair, there has been only one time, several years ago, that I felt that a woman was overly casual breastfeeding her baby. A woman and her husband (I assumed) came up to my register and she was breastfeeding her baby. Her tank top was bunched up underneath her arms, her other breast barely had the nipple covered, showing a LOT of under boob. If she had not had her baby, it would have looked like she was auditioning for 'Girls Gone Wild.'
4) To be fair, everything I mentioned in points 1-3 does not mean the caller is not over reacting. If he wants her to breastfeed only at home or in a car with tinted windows, then yes, he is being irrational.
Jul 16, 2012
unknown_entity commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Ladies Who Lunched.
The first time meeting a trans person (or cross dresser) is often awkward. The first time I rang up groceries for a woman who had previously been a man, I stammered uncontrollably due my inability to get the thought out of my mind "did this person have their penis cut off to become a woman?" The second time I ran into this person, I apologized for my previous actions and wanted them to know they were welcome at our store.
If meeting Emily was KID's mom's first introduction to a trans person, then she not only had the awkwardness a first time meeting, she also likely had all kinds of awkward thoughts about Emily and KID fucking each other.
KID, ask your mother if Emily was the first trans person she met. If so, take a soft approach to helping your mother accept trans people. If she was alternating between "he," "she" and "it," that (to me) implies awkwardness as opposed to trans-phobia. Every trans-phobic person I have known referred to transsexuals as the gender they were born, not the gender they identify as. Hopefully, this can be smoothed over and there will be one more trans accepting person in the world.
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If meeting Emily was KID's mom's first introduction to a trans person, then she not only had the awkwardness a first time meeting, she also likely had all kinds of awkward thoughts about Emily and KID fucking each other.
KID, ask your mother if Emily was the first trans person she met. If so, take a soft approach to helping your mother accept trans people. If she was alternating between "he," "she" and "it," that (to me) implies awkwardness as opposed to trans-phobia. Every trans-phobic person I have known referred to transsexuals as the gender they were born, not the gender they identify as. Hopefully, this can be smoothed over and there will be one more trans accepting person in the world.
Jul 6, 2012
unknown_entity commented on Doggone Grocery.
I used to work at Safeway and some dog owners operated on the principle "but my dog is SPECIAL!" I can personally state that your pet does not belong in a grocery store on the grounds that we had incidents with dogs:
1) Marking their territory
2) Humping customer's legs
3) Lots of loud barking
4) Dogs fighting each other
5) And of course peeing, pooping, and vomiting
Unfortunately, grocery stores and employees do not have many options to deal with people bringing pets inside stores. We can ask a person if their dog is a service animal, but if they say yes, we cannot ask for proof. The reasoning was that a person had a legitimate service animal but did not have the ID for it could sue us if we asked them to leave the animal outside.
For the record, there were occasionally animals other than dogs that people brought into the store and claimed were service (one guy even brought in a cockatoo), but dogs were the most frequent problem.
1) Marking their territory
2) Humping customer's legs
3) Lots of loud barking
4) Dogs fighting each other
5) And of course peeing, pooping, and vomiting
Unfortunately, grocery stores and employees do not have many options to deal with people bringing pets inside stores. We can ask a person if their dog is a service animal, but if they say yes, we cannot ask for proof. The reasoning was that a person had a legitimate service animal but did not have the ID for it could sue us if we asked them to leave the animal outside.
For the record, there were occasionally animals other than dogs that people brought into the store and claimed were service (one guy even brought in a cockatoo), but dogs were the most frequent problem.
Jul 5, 2012
unknown_entity commented on The Slippery Slope from Louise Bourgeois to Jerry Sandusky.
https://is0.4sqi.net/derived_pix/O5zbNR1…
I have to agree with people who say "this is kind of creepy."
I have to agree with people who say "this is kind of creepy."
Jul 3, 2012
unknown_entity commented on Other Advice Columnists Wonder Why They Get So Few Questions From Men.
I remember having to read "Only Words" by Catherine MacKinnon as an undergraduate. 160 pages of (Pornography) "is intimidation, subordination, terrorism, and discrimination, and should be legally treated as such."
The men in the class could not stop laughing over her definition of pornography as (paraphrasing) any depiction of a woman sexually subservient to a man. Therefore, women on women, male on male, solo masturbation, etc. was in the clear.
And as has been pointed out on other websites, 50 Shades of Gray and Harlequin romance novels are hardly targeting a male audience.
The men in the class could not stop laughing over her definition of pornography as (paraphrasing) any depiction of a woman sexually subservient to a man. Therefore, women on women, male on male, solo masturbation, etc. was in the clear.
And as has been pointed out on other websites, 50 Shades of Gray and Harlequin romance novels are hardly targeting a male audience.
Jul 2, 2012
unknown_entity commented on Are You a Queer Women Who Dates "Women and Trans Men"?.
The author manages to do an amazing job of hitting every possible note of offensiveness that can be brought up in a discussion about gender and sexuality: demanding that every heterosexual person who does not change their gender be described as "cis," declaring gender an arbitrary an oppressive assignment (I believe that XX or XY chromosomes and the related genitals do a pretty good job of indicating gender in 95-99% of people), claiming a MALE conspiracy, implying sexual trauma, etc.
The irony of the situation is that the author is furious over the use of the word "trans" in describing a person's gender, but is oblivious to the fact that a lot of people find it offensive to be called "cis."
How about this: as a heterosexual male I will treat any transsexual person I encounter as the gender they wish to be identified as. If a person with XY chromosomes has gender reassignment surgery I will refer to them as a woman. The same goes for any person with an XX chromosome who wishes to be identified as a man. In return, I would like to be referred to as a man, a male, a straight male, or whatever is appropriate for the situation.
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The irony of the situation is that the author is furious over the use of the word "trans" in describing a person's gender, but is oblivious to the fact that a lot of people find it offensive to be called "cis."
How about this: as a heterosexual male I will treat any transsexual person I encounter as the gender they wish to be identified as. If a person with XY chromosomes has gender reassignment surgery I will refer to them as a woman. The same goes for any person with an XX chromosome who wishes to be identified as a man. In return, I would like to be referred to as a man, a male, a straight male, or whatever is appropriate for the situation.
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