Oct 8, 2015 jstoner commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Taking It Easy on Sherman Alexie's Birthday.
In mathematical terms a 'space' can be n-dimensional. Most folks would confine the term to three dimensions, but mathematically, that's not necessarily so. Moreover mathematical spaces can be discrete ('M', 'F') (1, 2, 3...) or continuous (the real numbers). There's no need for 'hyperspace' unless you're writing science fiction. 'Space' will do.
Jun 23, 2015 jstoner commented on Accept the Apology, Already.
Yeah. I've done worse. In the eighties I was the friendly, sympathetic straight guy on your dorm floor who wouldn't be seen with you in front of his homophobic friends. The friend who dropped off the face of the earth when you were in your last days with AIDS? Yup, that was me. Bad as a tweet can be, to really stick the knife in you gotta get closer.

All very long ago. I was young, and scared, and didn't really have a backbone yet. Deeply insecure.

You learn, you grow. Those of us who are older are more forgiving because we have done some of that ourselves. We can see the contrast between our conduct present and past.
May 20, 2015 jstoner commented on SL Letter of the Day: You're Dating a Clown. Deal With It..
So wait, she's a clown and a stripper? That sounds hilarious and awesome. I'd date her.

I think Dan's advice is sound. Give him one chance to deal, and if he won't, move on.
Jan 29, 2015 jstoner commented on Wedding Don'ts.
On the subject of sex the day of your wedding: it's a busy day. You have the rest of your life to fuck this person. Fuck whenever, if you can manage it. but if it doesn't happen don't make it the end of the world.
Jan 5, 2012 jstoner commented on Savage Love.
Here's a potentially useful meme: terms of fidelity. Dan isn't talking about a free-for-all with no rules. He's saying, as a couple (or whatever), you are free to define your own rules together, to negotiate the terms of your own fidelity.

And I suspect the idea that doesn't just apply to poly people. Even the most vanilla, suburban, missionary-position God fearing hetero couple arrives with different attitudes, backgrounds and proclivities.

That negotiation might look like 'You never go to strip bars, do you dear?' 'Of course not, dear.' It might not be visible to anyone else, or even both parties. But it always happens.
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Jan 6, 2010 jstoner commented on Ann Coulter Is Perplexed.
Ann is with the Yes Men. Really.

Every time she opens her mouth she discredits everything she (pretends to) stand for. Right? She can't be for real.