commented on Accept the Apology, Already
Yeah. I've done worse. In the eighties I was the friendly, sympathetic straight guy on your dorm floor who wouldn't be seen with you in front of his homophobic friends. The friend who dropped off the face of the earth when you were in your last days with AIDS? Yup, that was me. Bad as a tweet can be, to really stick the knife in you gotta get closer.
All very long ago. I was young, and scared, and didn't really have a backbone yet. Deeply insecure.
You learn, you grow. Those of us who are older are more forgiving because we have done some of that ourselves. We can see the contrast between our conduct present and past.
commented on Wedding Don'ts
On the subject of sex the day of your wedding: it's a busy day. You have the rest of your life to fuck this person. Fuck whenever, if you can manage it. but if it doesn't happen don't make it the end of the world.
Jan 5, 2012
commented on Savage Love
Here's a potentially useful meme: terms of fidelity. Dan isn't talking about a free-for-all with no rules. He's saying, as a couple (or whatever), you are free to define your own rules together, to negotiate the terms of your own fidelity.
And I suspect the idea that doesn't just apply to poly people. Even the most vanilla, suburban, missionary-position God fearing hetero couple arrives with different attitudes, backgrounds and proclivities.
That negotiation might look like 'You never go to strip bars, do you dear?' 'Of course not, dear.' It might not be visible to anyone else, or even both parties. But it always happens.
Jan 6, 2010
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Jan 6, 2010
commented on Ann Coulter Is Perplexed
Ann is with the Yes Men. Really.
Every time she opens her mouth she discredits everything she (pretends to) stand for. Right? She can't be for real.