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Feb 22, 2012 RiotGrrl commented on SL Letter of the Day: Infantile-ism.

#1: Although, in general, I think it's fair to say that there are more kinky men than women out there, it is unfair to say that 'it's always the woman who struggles to be GGG.' I am a woman with a few kinks. I love to indulge my partner's kinks (within reason - I do have limits). I have, however, noticed that many het men have a hard time fulfilling my kinks. I have a cross-dress fetish. I love watching men parade around in ladies lingerie. Most men I've broached the subject with think I'm a weirdo for suggesting it. I've even had male lovers become weirded out by my rather tame armpit-sniffing fetish. So let's not hang the ladies out to dry, shall we. It goes both ways, this GGG stuff.

Apr 9, 2010 RiotGrrl commented on Savage Love.

Feminism is supposed to be about equal rights for both sexes. There is nothing wrong with a little consensual role playing about non-consent. I'm a woman, a feminist, and I wouldn't be offended by that suggestion. Then again, I think I'd be TERRIBLE at rape scene roleplay. It'd go something like this:

Him, grabbing my wrists and pinning me to the floor: I'm gonna fuck you so hard whether you like it or not!

Me: Yes! That sounds awesome! Oops, sorry. I mean, please don't!

Him: Um, let's just cuddle.

Mar 17, 2010 RiotGrrl commented on Savage Love.

I'm a woman, and I get turned on by random strangers all the time! I'm also totally in love with my husband and completely monogamous. We have a great sex life, and if I ever feel like fucking someone else, I turn to my magnificent collection of toys. A lot of women are wired that way too. It's all good. It's just the way we are.

Jan 27, 2010 RiotGrrl commented on I, Anonymous.

@17. I get what you're saying, and unfortunately, you make a point. Women are at greater risk of sexual violence than men. However, blaming the woman for not being alert at all times does nothing but strengthen the victim blaming culture we live in. We should not be the ones scrutinized for our behaviour. The responsibility should be on the men to, you know, not be rapists. It's not that difficult. I'm a horny bitch and I have managed in all my 26 years on the planet to not sexually violate ANYBODY. If I can do it, the boys can do it too. In the meantime, being street smart is a great thing. But please, let's not pretend that women not having the freedom to move about public space, drink alcohol and have casual sex will stop the problem. You know, since it worked so damn well in places like Afghanistan.

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Jan 27, 2010 RiotGrrl commented on I, Anonymous.

Why is it that most of the responses on here are lecturing Anonymous on her responsibility and ignoring the responsibility of her abusive ex partner. Both parents are responsible for the safety and well being of the child. It is wrong to beat your partner. Why isn't there more hate directed at abusive jerks and less at their victims?

Sure, no kid deserves to be born into a situation like that. Sure, she chose to be with her abusive husband. But seriously, abusers are charming at first. We don't know this woman's whole story. Let's assume that she was doing the best she could under extremely trying circumstances. Cutting up the mother does nothing to help the child. Why can't we care about both of them? Why can't we put the blame where it belongs: on the abuser?