Aug 29, 2014
commented on What Do You Think of President Obama's Khaki Suit?
Nothing wrong with a khaki suit in summer. Now this particular suit, I don't know.
I don't care for the shirt and tie he paired it with. Light blue gingham, mint green, or coral would be nice, but maybe lacking in gravitas. A very pale blue shirt with a navy tie is still authoritative and would be more complementary to his skin. This tie makes him look tired and worn out--which he probably is, but clothes could help conceal.
Apr 15, 2014
commented on What Happened to the Seattle Central Newspaper?
Clearly the Iron Fist of Student Leadership is crushing student voices, since Casey's story is hosted on the replacement paper's site.
Are you seriously telling me that it's too much of a burden for student journalists, writing for a student newspaper, to take ten credits a quarter? Their journalism class and one other standard credit hour class? That's weird.
When I went to college I took a full 15 credit course-load, worked 20-25 hours a week at my other job, and published an independent student newspaper that received no funding from the college, so as well as writing, editing, and layout we had to sell ads to fund publication. I'm having a hard time with the plight of getting paid a stipend, getting college credit, being funded, and in return having to take two classes a quarter, write some profiles, and cover student events if they send you a press release within a certain time frame.
If you want total journalistic freedom you have to go DIY, and diversify funding sources. Then you just have to argue with your fellow editors about whether you should publish some racist trifle in the name of Free Speech, and the administration or advertisers be damned.
Aug 18, 2012
commented on DIY Gone Horribly, Horribly Wrong
There are probably thousands of books that are suitable for this project. I could easily build a house out of unwanted copies of The Corrections, or A Million Little Pieces, or The Bluest Eye, etc. And those are books that might be worth your time to read. The amount of books that are worth no one's time to read is great enough to fill warehouses. I can promise you that hundreds of them are pulped every day. If it's not rare or precious you might as well get some joy out of cutting them up for your craft project.
Feb 14, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Daddy Loves Who?
There is something wrong with this family if she can't tell *anyone* what happened and she worries about her father being suicidal. Crazy thing, depression runs in families, and yes, some people make it to 45 being suicidal about "every little thing". For one thing, it's obvious from the strong reactions and rush to jump on this kid that most men would be devastated knowing their daughters interpreted their affection as wanting to fuck them. For another, there are plenty of people running around well past 45 who use threats of harming themselves to control the people who love them.
LW, if you are reading this, I hope you are seeing a therapist and I hope that you have a good relationship with that therapist. Sometimes it takes a while to find one that you click with who can be both supportive and challenging. You don't need a yes-man therapist, but it is also important that you feel heard and that your feelings are important. I grew up in a family with poor boundaries, and I can't know what your situation is like, but please, try to bring up in front of the family that you don't want compliments on your appearance. I also think it could be really helpful, if at all possible, to say "Dad, you woke me up peeing". Secrets have a way of growing bigger and becoming more poisonous. No matter what your dad's intent, this is having a real impact on you and it needs to be addressed. That doesn't mean that your dad intends to molest you, but being able to discuss boundaries and express your needs is an important skill, and it sounds like right now you feel unable to do that.
It sounds like you feel powerless and isolated right now. I know things are hard when you're depressed and anxious, but it's important that you take some actions in order to be less so. I'd start with volunteering--this is a way to build connections with other people, get out of the house, and feel good about the work you are doing. Volunteer work can also be great for getting a job when you feel ready for it-I know that I had a much easier time getting my first job because of my volunteer work. A lot of people find work with animals and gardening to be especially therapeutic, I would recommend one of those if it resonates with you at all. Another thing that can help a lot is exercise. Getting stronger is a way to get in touch with your power and develop your control over your environment. Make a plan towards independence and do something each day towards it, however small.
Feb 8, 2012
commented on Watching Seattle Crawl Up Its Own Asshole of Public Process and Die There
That sounds truly awful. It also sounds like it wasn't so much a failure of public process, but a complete lack of public process. What did you get? Not what I expected to hear about: the usual interminable meeting filled with thoughts from the bad, the mad, the good, and the brilliant, but a ridiculous irrelevant condescending presentation which took up over half the meeting, followed by a poorly facilitated q lacking any a.