commented on Invitation Declined
Sure, parents shouldn't answer questions that weren't asked by their 3 year old. And, yes, adults should take a cue from children who are not born hating. However, kids are born curious about the world and some of them may ask their parents why two people (of any gender) are kissing and there is a good answer to the question.
Kid: Mommy (or Daddy), what are those two men/women/people doing?
Parent: They're kissing.
Kid: Why are they kissing?
Parent: Because they love each other. Kissing is a way that people show affection.
(Parent showers child with kisses)
Kid: So, I should kiss everyone I love?
Parent: Well, sometimes people don't want to be kissed. You should make sure they want to be kissed before you kiss them. But those two men/women/people are both kissing each other. That means they both want to kiss and that they love each other.
Spread love and teach consent. I think people should learn how to have that conversation. If their child asks.
May 11, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: I'm Out
My advice is move to England. You can call everyone you meet there a cunt and no one will mind a bit. Although I do think that words only have meaning that we attach to them and part of that is in the context. If someone calls me a cunt I like to believe I could tell from the context and their tone if they meant it in an offensive way or not. I don't think anyone should be offended by words alone only by the context of their usage.
Aug 13, 2012
commented on How Do You Prepare Your Giant Zucchinis?
The key with giant zucchinis is put the in things don't make them the main event. Anything that calls for grated or pureed is good. Zucchini bread = yes, Zucchini soup = yes, black bean & zucchini cakes = yes. Recipes that call for chopped zucchini are borderline because those really large ones can have an unpleasant woody texture.
Apr 25, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Good Thing Going
Also, Bride to be, someone who says they can't trust you is sometimes someone who can't be trusted themselves. Sometimes guilt manifests itself as an inability to trust. The logic is flawed of course, but people sometimes think if they are cheating bastards then everyone must be because why on earth would they cheat if they weren't being cheated on. Alternately his inability to trust you might not be specific to you or the circumstances under which you met. Maybe he has a problem trusting anyone.
Apr 5, 2012
commented on Dear Fans of Death Cab for Cutie and Bellingham
I did live in Bellingham, 1996-98. Nick worked at Hollywood Video where my boyfriend at the time and I would go at least once a week. He was in the Philosophy club with us. It wasn't until years later that I first heard them play. We saw Death Cab for Cutie opening for Pedro the Lion in Seattle (at the Pier II). At first it was a novelty, I couldn't believe they were really doing it. I'd never heard them play when I was in Bellingham. But when I heard them play all doubts disappeared.
Mar 30, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Getting Your Girlfriend To Let You Go Down On Her—A Holistic Approach
I couldn't agree more that a lot of the problem is the pressure to enjoy it. I think men see being able to give a girl an orgasm as this great achievement. They get all the credit if you have one but if don't then somehow you've let them down or at very least bruised their ego. Men need to stop thinking it is their responsibility to give women orgasms. Everyone is responsible for their own orgasm. Also, just because it may have worked on one woman doesn't mean it will work on all women. Talk to your partner about what they like and don't like and listen to them.