commented on SL Letter of the Day: How Do I Know?
I agree with @43, I think it's rather touching that this (evidently) young guy wants to "get" his girlfriend "off". "what can i do", he asks, apunctuationally.
One right answer is to just reframe sex as something pleasurable that you do *together*, not as something that you do *to* each other. (That's the beginner course, master that and then go on to less-symmetric realms, kids.) It's so much simpler not to think of it as a performance.
Imagine that it is only the two of you in the room ... all the other voices of your buddies and her bffs are silent in your heads. Just be with one another, and pay attention to what she's telling you with her words and her body. And just tell her what you're feeling.
Aug 26, 2012
commented on Chicago Young Republicans Need You So, So Bad
Lincoln Park Trixies and Chads. Uggh. Little tiny posters and free Romney books as props. This is really pathetic. I hope all their Jettas get tickets from our privatized meter police.
Jun 17, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Failure to Comprehend
@28 EricaP, I think you brought a genuinely different perspective in ... it's not just patience on his part. If he meets her needs well (including the need to have her needs met), he can link her pleasure to his desire. It doesn't always work, but it's actually something to try.
She sounds GGG ... and that's a good start.