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Nov 19, 2010 northeastthreat commented on Savage Love.
@81, why do bad guys deserve girlfriends? Having a partner is not a right. We have to work to build trust and respect with other people. A guy who refers who women as "fucking bitches" is never going to get a woman to respect him.
Oct 19, 2010 northeastthreat commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Wicked Grandmother.
I'd be inclined to send the grandmother a postcard every now and then, and I think I'd try to forgive her for her homophobia. It doesn't sound as if she's close enough to the LW to be really hurting anyone, and as everyone else has said, it's hard to know how much the grandmother's attitudes affected the cousin and why he was so deeply affected by one old lady's opinions.

But to say that she gets a pass because she's old seems inappropriate. There are plenty of old people and grandparents out there when, upon learning that their kids or grandkids or neighbors were gay, just accepted it. Or at least kept quiet with their disapproval. Why do the ones who refuse to do so get a pass? Didn't they live through the 20th century? This can't be the first time the grandmother is being expected to change her beliefs in accordance with what is now considered socially acceptable.

And where is the age-line drawn? Is an 80-year-old person too old to change? 70? For that matter, a person who is 50 was raised in a homophobic culture, so why don't they get a pass too? There has to be some distinction between accepting that some people will never change and thinking it's ok for them to never evolve because they're old.
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Sep 20, 2010 northeastthreat commented on This Weekend I Went to a Wedding that Had Karaoke.
I still want to know what happened with the burner wedding from I, Anonymous.
Aug 17, 2010 northeastthreat commented on Jaywalkers Less Likely to Get Hit by Cars But More Likely To Die If They Do Get Hit.
@30, the study makes clear although the NYT article does not, that the 80% figure is adjusted for the fact that there are more male drivers.
Aug 6, 2010 northeastthreat commented on "Your old man would never do that.".
@ everyone piling on Dan for monogamy-bashing:

Dan's an advice columnist. He reads and responds to letters from people who have problems. A lot of these people seem to be having trouble with monogamy or mismatched sex drives or withholding partners. The folks who are happily monogamous and having great sex are not likely to be writing in about that, so there's no reason to address it and those letters would make for a boring column/blog anyway.

Yes, the column is curated, so to speak -- Dan chooses the letters he wants to answer, and it's gotten more relationshippy and less kinky/crazy/mom-fuckers and shit-eaters focused than in the old days. If it bothers you so much, stop reading or start writing in with your own crazy, momfucking problems.
Jul 30, 2010 northeastthreat commented on SL Letter of the Day: Bi Enough.
tl;dr: @17, I agree with you. I just think the LW might be wrong about her friends.
Jul 30, 2010 northeastthreat commented on SL Letter of the Day: Bi Enough.
@17, sometimes people underestimate their friends.... sometimes based on stereotypes, such as that gay people will reject a friend who starts dating an opposite-gender partner (see "chasing amy"). I don't know the LW, but I'm a lesbian with mostly lesbian friends. I would bet my life that if I started dating a man, my friends would not reject me. They would definitely make fun of me and ask strange and inappropriate questions about my sex life. But what kind of friends would ditch someone based on who she's attracted to? If her assessment is true, my advice would be to get new friends.
Jul 29, 2010 northeastthreat commented on A Sharrowing Conversation.
The sharrows are there to alert cyclists as to the proper lane position. Some cyclists will ride in the door zone on streets that don't have bike lanes, so the sharrow tells them where they actually should be riding. I guess the point is also to alert drivers that there may be bikes, although they should always be prepared for bikes on streets where cycling is allowed.
Jul 16, 2010 northeastthreat commented on They Blow Up Buses, Don't They?.
Saw one of these in Chicago last weekend, but the text was different. It said (I think): "HONOR KILLING? Is your family threatening you? Leave Islam Safely." And directed to www.leaveislamsafely.org - they must have bought up several domain names. Also, It was atop a cab, which was extra weird because I would think there's a decent number of Muslim cab drivers here. At the time, I thought to myself, 'surely fearing one's family and wanting to leave a religion are separate issues-- the vast majority of American Muslim women don't fear honor killings, right?'
Jul 16, 2010 northeastthreat commented on SL Letter of the Day: Do All Porn Viewers Eventually Wind Up Watching Kiddie Porn?.
@95, I don't think 'thought crime' should be punished, and I also don't agree with the commenter who think the LW should go to the police. I think jacking off to kids' ballet recitals is an ethical violation of those children, but not a legal one. That wasn't clear in my original statement.

What I think the LW should be concerned about is that her partner doesn't think this is a problem. I would have some respect for a guy who knows he's attracted to kids and knows he would never want to act on it, and is getting some professional help so that he can manage. We play the cards we're dealt, right? But this guy considers his behavior to be appropriate and normal, as if, and as the title suggests, all consumers of porn will eventually start masturbating to images of children -- and he thinks his girlfriend is puritanical for being squicked out. He's in denial.