May 17
avast2006 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Insane Demands.
@126/144: Sorry still not getting it. Once you have made dead sure that you are so much more of a catch than that woman that he refuses to leave for you, what's the point? If you are so fucking wonderful, and he is still so fucking unavailable? Why not go find someone actually available to appreciate your bad, hot self without reservation?
May 17
avast2006 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Insane Demands.
@137: If his wife's sex drive is just peachy, and she is nonetheless freezing him out*, that rather bolsters his claims on being justified in getting his elsewhere. That would be a pretty clear indication that the wife is interested in sex just fine, merely not with her husband. At that point she has officially abandoned her post, and has no further legitimate interest in what he does sexually.
(* taking at face value the claim that she is in fact freezing him out )
That said, yes to the rest of what you said. Involving the frigid wife in the sex play is unnecessary in itself, unnecessarily humiliating to her, and far more likely to completely blow things up.
(* taking at face value the claim that she is in fact freezing him out )
That said, yes to the rest of what you said. Involving the frigid wife in the sex play is unnecessary in itself, unnecessarily humiliating to her, and far more likely to completely blow things up.
May 17
avast2006 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Gonna Boil My Laptop After Answering This One.
@19: Are you sure Letter Writer is a woman?
May 17
avast2006 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Gonna Boil My Laptop After Answering This One.
Argh! Curse you #10! Beat me to it!
Having trouble imagining a dog that wouldn't turn around and rip his throat out for even trying it, though.
Also, and most important, I wonder whether he is putting you at risk of arrest yourself if the authorities ever caught you with animal porn on your device or in your accounts. (I assume animal porn is illegal?) You should tell him the next time he sends you any of that shit, you are going to kick him to the curb so fast he will count himself lucky if the door is open before you put his ass through it.
Having trouble imagining a dog that wouldn't turn around and rip his throat out for even trying it, though.
Also, and most important, I wonder whether he is putting you at risk of arrest yourself if the authorities ever caught you with animal porn on your device or in your accounts. (I assume animal porn is illegal?) You should tell him the next time he sends you any of that shit, you are going to kick him to the curb so fast he will count himself lucky if the door is open before you put his ass through it.
May 17
avast2006 commented on Savage Love.
I haven't followed this week's comments religiously, but I thought I read some from lesbians who didn't like DSGs making out with them in order to impress a guy. I extrapolated that they were showing off with the woman and then would go off with the guy. Not necessarily literally giggling -- let alone _at_ the woman they were just making out with, as if to say boy they sure put on over on her -- but the end result is still the same: it was for all intents and purposes a setup.
It's rude to feign interest in one person in order to get the interest of someone else entirely. That's called "using them."
It's rude to feign interest in one person in order to get the interest of someone else entirely. That's called "using them."
May 17
avast2006 commented on Savage Love.
Re 170: In case it's not obvious, the objection in 170 is from the perspective of the one being kissed, not some outside observer who thinks that it's obviously for his entertainment.
And no, I'm not saying that since you made out with me that I'm therefore entitled to sex. You are entitled to control over your body, and you are entitled to stop exactly when you want. You are -not-, however, entitled to demand that I not be disappointed.
And no, I'm not saying that since you made out with me that I'm therefore entitled to sex. You are entitled to control over your body, and you are entitled to stop exactly when you want. You are -not-, however, entitled to demand that I not be disappointed.
May 17
avast2006 commented on Savage Love.
I think I would be a little annoyed if someone were to try making out with me not because they found me attractive but because they were trying to impress/attract the attention of someone else entirely. That strikes me as a version of "involving other people in your sex life without their knowledge." (Granted, that's a strictly hypothetical reaction on my part, because if I were to accept said advances, I would have some serious explaining to do to my wife.)
And yes, there is something substantial to the idea of being a prick tease, feminist rhetoric or not. If I was to approach you at the bar of a restaurant, chat you up and establish mutual interest, have a drink together, suggest you sit with me at my table reservation, get menus and look at them together, and then walk away laughing when my actual date showed up, nobody in their right mind would hesitate to call me an asshole for leading you on. Are you "entitled" to a dinner off me? No, you are not. But am I an asshole for setting up expectations of dinner and then yanking them?
And yes, there is something substantial to the idea of being a prick tease, feminist rhetoric or not. If I was to approach you at the bar of a restaurant, chat you up and establish mutual interest, have a drink together, suggest you sit with me at my table reservation, get menus and look at them together, and then walk away laughing when my actual date showed up, nobody in their right mind would hesitate to call me an asshole for leading you on. Are you "entitled" to a dinner off me? No, you are not. But am I an asshole for setting up expectations of dinner and then yanking them?
May 15
avast2006 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Insane Demands.
Add me to the folks who think LW's request is some sort of fetishistic version of "I told you so, you should have married me."
May 11
avast2006 commented on SL Letter of the Day: I'm Out.
Next time, don't open your yap, get a replacement beer, go find the perpetrator, and spill it on her. Clearly she likes that sort of thing.
May 11
avast2006 commented on SL Letter of the Day: I'm Out.
How about, "Don't thump my beer and cause it to spill all over the fucking floor, and I won't call anybody anything at all, you moron?"
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