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Dec 25 avast2006 commented on SL Letters of the Day: Suggested Language.
@27, @44 (and a few others): YMMV, but I am imagining Dad inviting his 58-year-old colleage from the Cincinnati office and colleague's girlfriend out for a ski week, but then trying to put them up in separate bedrooms. I think most parents feel freer to impose house rules on their own children than they do on non-related adults of their own age. I will agree that they might be just as uncomfortable with the idea, but I expect they would probably sidestep it by offering the hotel in the first place, rather than daring to try to play the family patriarch with their peers.

Were they dumb enough and rude enough to actually try that shit, I sincerely hope colleague laughs in their faces, gets a hotel of their choice, and then drops comments like "Sorry to arrive for brunch so late, but we couldn't get out the door of such a nice hotel without at least a quickie this morning," and "Oops, look at the time, gotta go, long drive ya know, and the Egyptian cotton sheets are so nice, aren't they, Violet?"
Dec 25 avast2006 commented on SL Letters of the Day: Suggested Language.
@32: Well, yes, but we are discussing the Letter Writer's situation, not all of female humanity. Clearly she is not the sort of person who thinks walking someone down the aisle is too anti-feminist, or she wouldn't have asked anyone to walk her down the aisle, let alone her uncle to do it in lieu of the father that she feared would boycott.
Dec 23 avast2006 commented on Some Savage Love Fan Art.
Dan finally qualifies for Internet Rule 34.
Dec 23 avast2006 commented on SL Letters of the Day: Suggested Language.
Same-sex-marriage niece: Dad merely showing up for the wedding is not going to be enough. Not by half. Tell him that at this point you plan to walk his daughter down the aisle, period -- because she asked you to do it, because every bride deserves SUPPORTIVE family on her wedding day, and if her own Dad can't find it in his heart to be supportive, you will do it for him. If he wants to be the supportive father, at this point he has to ask nicely.
Dec 23 avast2006 commented on SL Letters of the Day: Suggested Language.
Re: LW#1 -- Do you think the parents would dare to impose all those rules (particularly the "no sex under our roof" rule) on anyone staying with them who wasn't one of their offspring? What do you suppose said non-offspring would do if they did try?

Most likely the parents wouldn't dare try it, but it they were dumb enough to give it a go, most likely the non-offspring guests would laugh in their face and go find a hotel.

Because they are, you know, responsible adults, and no longer answerable to parents. So go act like responsible adults yourself. Living your own life on your own terms means go find a hotel that is more to your taste.

That said, there are consequences to enforcing the rules on your guests that way. If the only available choice of hotel is unreasonably far away, then I guess you aren't going to have a lot of ability to spend much time with the parents. Get up when you fucking feel like it. Have sex in the morning because it's your prerogative and then drive to their house when you are good and ready. At the end of the evening, leave early enough that the drive isn't obnoxious. Do your shopping and other entertainment in town. If that cuts into visitation time, tough shit. The parents can always tag along after you, rather than the reverse. And hey, they are the ones who wanted you a half hour away. They should be prepared to own it.
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Dec 17 avast2006 commented on "Rape Exceptionalism" and Protecting Law Students from "Triggers".
@28: "I don't know what the hell kind of feminists you lot are bleating about."

If you are trying to imply that this is not in fact feminist doctrine, you are not as thoroughly informed as you would like to think.
Dec 17 avast2006 commented on "Rape Exceptionalism" and Protecting Law Students from "Triggers".
Anyone who seriously believes in the principle of triggering should not be studying law, period. Vast swaths of the law concern themselves with the most hideous transgressions imaginable. Rape, murder, violence domestic and otherwise, incest, robbery, mayhem, harassment, trafficking, the list stretches to the moon. If your delicate little psyche needs to have people not talk about all of these subjects for fear of setting you off, you are not prepared to be a participant in a system whose primary purpose is to deal with what happens when one person is bad to another person.
Dec 16 avast2006 commented on SL Letters of the Day: A Foursome.
If solo == mono, solopoly == monopoly.





Do not pass Go, do not collect $200.
Dec 1 avast2006 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Zoning Violation.
@26: I think the appropriate response at that point would be "Nice tattoo."
Dec 1 avast2006 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Zoning Violation.
@22: It may be a trifle, but it is an ongoing trifle, one that seemingly gets replayed in some fashion every time the receptionist sees her. You seem to have missed the part where the receptionist continues to be hostile. Personally I think that's a pretty shitty characteristic in a receptionist.



This was not a case of harassment, but treating everything that remotely resembles it as the real thing is going to end up costing the business its customer base.



I also think a little air clearing would not be a bad thing. LW does not need to go into her personal issues with her mother, but it probably would be helpful to tell the receptionist that the blouse reminded her strongly of something from her past, and for a moment she was transported there. That she was snapped out of the memory by noticing that the receptionist was uncomfortable and that she regrets having done that.



If the receptionist can't or won't take her at her word, THEN find another gym.
 

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