Aug 15, 2012
on_the_spectrum commented on Savage Love Episode 303.
Dan, I thought the glibness with which you and your siblings dismissed and ridiculed the idea of male privilege was off-putting. Have you been paying even a little bit of attention to the behavior of the opposition presidential candidate? Privilege blinds the privileged. He doesn't get how he has been given advantages in his life, and with your little "canned ham" digs, neither do you.
May 18, 2012
on_the_spectrum commented on SL Letter of the Day: Show This Woman Some Love.
VABG, I think that the hatred you saw on the faces of your bio-relatives was rage that you have not, in fact, been struck down by their deity. Instead, you are flourishing enough that you are prepared to take on a new burden. This threatens their worldview.
Take as much care of yourself as you can; even seeing a counselor once a month for a status check can be helpful, if you can manage it.
Take as much care of yourself as you can; even seeing a counselor once a month for a status check can be helpful, if you can manage it.
Jan 24, 2012
on_the_spectrum commented on Overheard in Hungarian Pastry Shop on Amsterdam Avenue.
But the unsweetened cocoa with whipped cream on the side was wonderful years ago.
Now I'm Jealous.
Now I'm Jealous.
Jan 18, 2012
on_the_spectrum commented on Karen Santorum: She's a Superfreak.
This sounds like a case of the uptight straight boy unable to deal with the previous adventures of 'his' woman. Except that this uptight straight boy has political power.
Nov 23, 2011
on_the_spectrum commented on Savage Love Episode 266.
I think I've been a pretty good winged monkey. Lucy's giggle is so annoying that I came to the realization that I'm not really learning very much from these podcasts anymore.
Nov 8, 2011
on_the_spectrum commented on Savage Love Episode 263.
And by the way, Dan, we wives who actually fuck their husbands might just resent your continued characterization of Lucy as your "wife" because she doesn't fuck you, does your laundry, etc etc.
Are you intentionally mooring your podcast in the culture of the Tonight Show, circa 1972?
Are you intentionally mooring your podcast in the culture of the Tonight Show, circa 1972?
Mar 2, 2011
on_the_spectrum commented on Savage Love Episode 228.
to the teacher who needed ideas for discouraging students from using "gay" as a slur:
I use an idea from the Savage Lovecast a few years ago, when a teacher called in and said that she uses humor. She says, "What? my _reading assignment_ attends pride parades? My _reading assignment_ sports the rainbow flag?" etc etc. After a few times, the students understand that I don't want that word used in that context, I don't give them the satisfaction of getting mad, and it doesn't take much class time.
(Because you're in Texas, you may not have the luxury of adminstrators who care about LGBT issues. Are there GSA's in the high schools in your district? You might want to to contact the faculty advisers of the nearby GSA's, if they exist.)
Thanks, Savage Lovecast listener!
I use an idea from the Savage Lovecast a few years ago, when a teacher called in and said that she uses humor. She says, "What? my _reading assignment_ attends pride parades? My _reading assignment_ sports the rainbow flag?" etc etc. After a few times, the students understand that I don't want that word used in that context, I don't give them the satisfaction of getting mad, and it doesn't take much class time.
(Because you're in Texas, you may not have the luxury of adminstrators who care about LGBT issues. Are there GSA's in the high schools in your district? You might want to to contact the faculty advisers of the nearby GSA's, if they exist.)
Thanks, Savage Lovecast listener!
Dec 22, 2010
on_the_spectrum commented on Savage Love.
I believe Miss Manners would state that instead of using the words "and guest" on the invitation, the bride, if she wishes to invite a long-term partner of an unmarried person, should bother to find out the name of the partner and write *that* on the invitation.
I also believe that Miss Manners has stated that a religious ceremony in a church is in a public place, and therefore no-one can be 'disinvited' from attending the wedding ceremony. I like, therefore, the suggestion that both BOTB and his partner attend the ceremony, smiling grimly, and not the reception. To be faultlessly correct, they should send the gift to the brides' parents' house before the wedding.
I also believe that Miss Manners has stated that a religious ceremony in a church is in a public place, and therefore no-one can be 'disinvited' from attending the wedding ceremony. I like, therefore, the suggestion that both BOTB and his partner attend the ceremony, smiling grimly, and not the reception. To be faultlessly correct, they should send the gift to the brides' parents' house before the wedding.
Dec 15, 2010
on_the_spectrum commented on Ma Savage's Christmas Cookies.
The Penzey's spice company published a recipe very close to this in the nineties as "Cocoa Buttons." That recipe called for pulsing the pecans into almost a flour. As Dan said, it's a good task for little hands, also because there's no egg in the dough. They ship rather well, too.
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Not everyone is weirded out by pregnancy or the idea of babies in there. Not every man is scarred for life by the sight of babies coming out of a vulva. It sounds as if the couple encountered a common sexual dynamic, which is that the man does something the woman doesn't enjoy, she tells him so, subtly at first, and then, usually more assertively. After the man does that thing for the fiftieth time, the woman "barks" or "snaps" at him, and then she gets to be the bitch.
Have we done any studies about the amount of porn watching and aversive responses to pregnancy and childbirth? Because in the porniverse, childbirth is unnatural. Yeah, I thought not.