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Jan 25, 2014 peace 2 you commented on SL Letter of the Day: What You Got, Slog?.
He says his wife has lost interest in sex, but could it be that she has only lost interest in sex with him? Whatever her reason - maybe she's having an affair? - she may have her hand poised above the destruct button on their marriage. If he gets caught having an affair behind her back, she will have justification for slamming that button down and he'll be the bad guy of the story. Honesty is the best policy here. They'll both be better off in the long run if all the cards are on the table now.
Oct 10, 2012 peace 2 you commented on What Good Is Voting Alone In Your Room?.
I wish I lived in Seattle!
Aug 13, 2012 peace 2 you commented on David Rakoff's Last Dance.
Lovely. Thanks for posting Dan
May 9, 2012 peace 2 you commented on Tony Perkins: Pray for Dan Savage!.
LOL. Too funny.

I just hate it when anyone says "I'll pray for you [to become a Christian]". Their righteousness is appalling!
May 4, 2012 peace 2 you commented on Me and Pastor Harris.
The new apology of our era ...

I don't have to apologize because I never actually said it.
May 4, 2012 peace 2 you commented on Dan Savage SAVAGES the Pope!.
You're of course right about the neat trick Christians have perfected of hiding behind faith. It scares the shit out of me that they believe their hateful words and antics are justified because they speak for God. We can only work for (& hope & pray for) separation of church and state. Otherwise heaven help us all!
May 4, 2012 peace 2 you commented on SL Letter of the Day: Busting My Balls.
If that kink "can be met safely and discreetly outside their relationship, if getting that need met presents zero risk to the partner's ..."

There is a great risk to the partner if she find out years later that he can't father children. A woman has the right to know upfront if her boyfriend/husband/partner is engaging in an activity that could damage his sperm.

If having children is important to her, she can decide if she's willing to share the risk with him. She has the right to DTMF if having kids someday is more important that having him. If he hides this fact until it's too late, he's a deceptive piece of shit.
Nov 23, 2011 peace 2 you commented on What He Said.
Dan, I'm not so sure this is well said. Everyone deserves equality under the law, at least he agrees with that. And I accept his - and his church's - religious beliefs EXCEPT if those declare 'legally gays can marry but they're still going to hell'. This is what supports bullying. And if his church refuses to marry gay couples (when it's legal) then its a hate crime.

Legally, no one should have the right to decide who gets to marry. Equality is equality. To 'not believe' that someone should exercise their right is bigotry.

He should get over his need to judge fellow (gay) citizens and just accept equality.
Oct 14, 2011 peace 2 you commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Nearly Sexless But Successful Marriage.
Keep in mind that whatever bothers you about your partner now will be magnified tenfold after you've been married 5 or 10 years. Dan's right there's some settling when you commit to someone, but you're talking about HUGE settling.

Marry him if you feel you want him more than anyone else, not because time is running out and there's no one else. Divorce is more painful when a child is involved.
Oct 11, 2011 peace 2 you commented on SL Letter the Day: Living a Lie.
"Both of you get out there while there's still time to find new partners"

You've said that before , Dan, which makes me wonder ... at what age do you think a person is too old to find new love? Should a 60 year old stay stuck because be or she is out of time? (even though that person could live another 20 years?) Just wondering.