Nov 21, 2010
commented on Correcting the Record
The way they write about Dan and his family actually reminds me SO MUCH of how Rita Skeeter wrote about Dumbledore and Harry Potter. Please tell me I'm not the only one who thought of that, so I can feel better about myself.
Sep 28, 2010
commented on Don't Be Such A Fucking Dick, Faggot
Personally I call women 'dicks' or 'douche bags' and men 'cunts or bitches' when they're being awful. It's no effort at all and it feels good. I think this annoys a lot of people, but I don't care, because I'm a huge dick sometimes.
I especially enjoy the look on a man's face, when I calmly tell him to "stop being such a little bitch," if he's acting sexist.
I'm not comfortable using racial/religious slurs, unless they are originally meant to apply to a group I'm in, nor 'faggot' as an insult.
I do not know if there is any sense behind this or not. But it feels right to me.
Sep 15, 2010
commented on Pay. Sit. Barf.
Also, even though L.W. gave equal criticism to "Chuck & Larry," I know I'm guilty of giving more to SATCII, and "Eat Pray Love." But that's because I feel like they're targeted at me, when I don't want them!! "Chuck & Larry," is easier to ignore.
Sep 9, 2010
commented on SL Letters of the Day: My Tits Are Perfect—What's Wrong With My Game?
Your pic is attractive but something about your letter turned me off. No matter how good-looking a person is, and even if they can cook and dance, personality comes way before that for me, and for lot of people.
Your letter reminded me of a guy I knew who was really built like an adonis, and who had a high-paying job, all things that normally would give a lot of status in our culture for a male. But he was self-involved, and seemed insecure, as in - it seemed like he relied on those things to prop him up, often not wearing a shirt for the sole purpose of being ogled or casually name-dropping recent purposes that made it sound like he could afford nice stuff. These traits could've been amusing quirks if he really cared about other people, or was interesting to talk to, but he wasn't. He was always chasing after girls, and never getting with any that weren't desperate, where you could tell he felt like he was "settling".
A lot of this is guesswork because, like Dan said, we don't have access to how you come across in person, so my descriptions may not at all apply to you. Some tips:
Don't see women as a strange species that you're hunting down. See them as humans, like men, who you can be friends with, but who additionally you can be sexually attracted to. Whether one is a one night stand, a fuck buddy, an exclusive romantic/sexual partner with a deep connection, or a nonexclusive romantic/sexual partner with a deep connection, or whatever - It's always good to be treated like a human.
Make sure you never get bitter about the short thing. I would date a guy who was short, if he was interesting and funny and nice, no problem. While it is a trait that in our society is seen as unattractive in men, there are so many traits like that. If a girl got bitter because she had an incredibly flat chest, or a very masculine face, then any guy who would be attracted to her regardless will probably now be put off by her bitterness. It's the same with height in males, any bitterness there would be equally off-putting to potential mates.
You don't sound too bitter right now though, just frustrated, so that is a plus. Dan's advice is sound. Hang in there until you can move (really, that ratio must suck for any man who wants a compatible bed/relationship/whatever partner). Don't date any more girls you find bland, that's not really fair to either of you. Consume media that you find interesting, books and movies that push the boundaries of your intellect a little. And explore new music, hobbies, sports, whatever. It's always nice to see someone who is eager to learn, and people who learn passionately are usually more interesting to talk to [presuming they are interested in hearing the other person as well].
It sounds like you genuinely mean well, which really is the most important thing, all the rest you can learn from there! Odds are, you'll eventually find someone. But if you didn't, would you rather be single and constantly frustrated/bitter/etc, or single and patient and good-willed. Hint: The rest of the world hopes you pick option B. Good luck!
Sep 8, 2010
commented on Cute as Shit
I don't think he's very funny...maybe I'm missing something.
Jul 6, 2010
commented on SL Letter of the Day: More Advice for "Concerned Father"
"I don't have a degree in evolutionary biology, but I work with people who do. It seems there would be an adaptive advantage to mating with a male who can overpower her and impregnate her. Some wimpy dude she could fight off wouldn't be worth the energy expense to birth his offspring. The tough dude who can overpower her would also be better able to overpower any threat to her during her vulnerable period of pregnancy and childbirth.
That this chick fantasizes about her own father specifically is creepy, and CF definitely should win a prize for being so GGG about it."
Her specific fantasy creeps me out too, but so do a lot of notions about sexual selection in evolutionary biology. It's proponents/fans always seem to posit themselves as looking at things logically, but really I think the field is just as susceptible, if not more susceptible than others, to cultural/personal biases. That's not even taking into account that its very premise, I think, is kind of myopic. I don't think it's any more right to say that the human race ended up this way entirely out of what would be best for its reproduction, than I think it would be right to say that the human race is nothing more than an awkward fluke and a parasitic species plaguing Planet Earth, or some special creature made in the image of God.
Granted, I realize that evolutionary biology is more complex than this, but it is what I hear a lot of evolutionary bio/psycho-logists trying to do - pick any behavior and look for some explanation that would tie it to sexual reproduction. Quite simply, there ARE other forces in this world, not to deny the strength of that one - and anyone who can't see that or spends so much time honing in on that one and presuming its influence in manners/places that it might not extend, strikes me as....wellll, boring and short-sighted at best.
To demonstrate, I might just as easily say that the empathy of a non-rapist male would be more of an adaptive advantage to a female since such a person is more likely to care about things outside of itself (the well-being of his children, for example, and helping his mate in their care), thus allowing them to grow up and make MORE babies. Now I don't know whether we've isolated any sort of empathy gene or rapist gene, but regardless both explanations (my fake one, and the one you put forth) seem like farcical guesswork to me.