Dec 21, 2011 tiare commented on Savage Love.
To everyone mentioning IUDs, they are actually not recommended to women with multiple partners, because multiple partners = higher risk of contracting an STD, and with a little string hanging from your uterus, a bacterial infection that would normally be just a minor inconvenience may turn into an infertility inducing pelvic inflammatory disease.
Nov 1, 2011 tiare commented on Lesbian Couple Crowned Homecoming King & Queen at High School in California.
Is it really necessary to have the most popular kids in highschool crowned and to chant their names? Why on Earth is this being done, did someone decide that the less attractive and popular kids don't have it hard enough?
Oct 12, 2011 tiare commented on Savage Love.
@ 1, I'm guessing WWB is very young - from my experience, young girls tend to accept being treated badly because they don't really know how one is supposed to be treated in a sexual / romantic relationship.
Aug 19, 2011 tiare commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Friend Not In Need.
Yes, you can be asexual and still romantically attracted to one or both genders. You just don't want to be sexual with them. So you can call it romantic orientation.

A person with no sex drive can be asexual, but asexuality is broader than that, because it includes people who do have a sex drive. I'm not sure if every person with no sex drive is asexual though - it would make sense but human sexuality can always surprise you. We should ask someone with no sex drive about their perspective.
Aug 19, 2011 tiare commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Friend Not In Need.
You think about how good it feels. Like when you're eating a delicious burger. Sometimes you think about what you can do to make it feel better and you vary your technique, like you would reach for the fries while you're eating that burger.
Aug 18, 2011 tiare commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Friend Not In Need.
@ 33,

The definition of an asexual is "a person who is not sexually attracted to others". Not a person who doesn't have sex with others. So if your friends experience sexual attraction to other people but are too shy/closeted etc to act on it, then they're not asexual, they're celibate.

@ 17,

It's important to distinguish low libido from asexuality. I had a very healthy libido when I was asexual, I masturbated often, but the idea of being sexual with or in the presence of another person was horribly off-putting. Kind of like how you'd feel about having sex with people of your gender if you're straight / people of the opposite gender if you're gay.
Aug 17, 2011 tiare commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Friend Not In Need.
He might be OK psychologically, or he might be depressed, as asexuality is sometimes a consequence of depression. He can also remain asexual for the rest of his life or that might change at some point. My personal experience - I was asexual for a number of years while I was depressed, then as my mental health improved I found myself becoming sexually attracted to people.
Aug 15, 2011 tiare commented on SL Letter of the Day: Life Flub Time Machine.
"I'm tempted to put coke, pot, sleeping pills, booze, and baby oil in a blender and treat myself an end-it-all smoothie"

I laughed so hard it triggered an asthma attack. Thanks a lot, Dan :/
Aug 9, 2011 tiare commented on Savage Love.
But what if HINT would really shit on her, should he still say that he wouldn't?
Jul 7, 2011 tiare commented on Hey, Monogamists: What Would You Tell This Guy?.
Jeez. So you married her in sickness and in health as long as sickness doesn't mean she's unable to have sex. Hope you remembered to add this caveat to your vows.