Nov 16, 2011 argyle commented on Savage Love Episode 265.
Re.The guy who's on a "break" with his girlfriend:
Sadly, I feel like he could have been talking about me when I was younger. I was just like this girl: struggling with depression, no libido, but ending up in relationships with super nice guys who loved me, even though I was pretty ambivalent about them. I say "ended up" in relationships because that's how it was at that time: the guy would really push for a commitment, and I'd go along with it because I genuinely liked him and wanted to spend time with him, but romantically and sexually I felt nothing. Of course that really sucked, both for them and for me, so inevitably we would drift apart, usually after a year or two, and since I was too chicken-shit to break up with them properly I would do one of these gradual breakups like this guy's girlfriend is doing. It's a shitty thing to do, I know that now, but at the time I genuinely thought it would be LESS painful.
Of course I don't know for sure that this girl is doing that, but hearing how the guy described the situation... it sounds so familiar. So my advice to the guy would be basically the same as Dan's. Break up with her. If she wants you back, she'll come after you, and you can renegotiate then, but I don't think she will. And I think in the long run that will be better for you.
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Oct 26, 2011 argyle commented on Savage Love Episode 262.
I liked Lucy quite a lot, I'd be okay with her coming back!
Also wanted to say that the friend amateur stripper thing is a TERRIBLE IDEA. Any idiot can see how it ends: excruciating awkwardness and bad feelings all around AT BEST.
Oct 19, 2011 argyle commented on Savage Love.
Shitting eggs...ugh, gross. Let's not make this a thing people say.
Oct 19, 2011 argyle commented on Savage Love Episode 261.
Thanks for saying what you did about therapists, Dan. Some people get a lot out of therapy, so it can be a great thing, but man are there some terrible therapists out there.
When I was a young teen I went to see one. I was having the normal anxiety issues (I realize in hindsight)of being a sensitive girl trying to figure out my identity in a shitty small town, but this therapist kept insisting my problem had to be sexual. She kept asking if I had been abused, or if I was a closeted lesbian, and she grilled me on whether or not I masturbated (I didn't at the time, but she didn't believe me). I only saw her for a couple of sessions, but the whole experience was so terrible I still get angry about it 10+ years later.
I wish there was a better way to screen therapists before you see them - they can do a lot of harm, and I always get sad when I think of someone who needs help ending up in the hands of one of the bad ones.
Oct 4, 2011 argyle commented on Savage Love.
Mummification sounds super dangerous, or am I just not understanding it properly? Wrapping up someone's face with saran wrap and duct tape? Sounds like it would have a serious risk of suffocation, even if you were careful.
Sep 9, 2011 argyle commented on A Grindr for Straight People?.
I'm a woman and I love me some one night stands, but there is no way in HELL I'd use this, for all the reasonss @5 mentioned.
And I do think more women would like anonymous sex if it wasn't so damn dangerous. I know I would.
Aug 17, 2011 argyle commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Member of the Wedding.
I don't understand the big deal people make about "introducing" the baby (quotes around that because I don't really feel like I'm "meeting" someone who's asleep, can't talk yet, and won't recognize me in an hour). Parents, I'm sorry, but most of your friends don't really care, they're just making a fuss for your benefit.
Aug 2, 2011 argyle commented on Savage Love Episode 250.
The guy who was propositioned by a john...
You do know that this happens to women all the f***ing time right? When I was living in rougher neighborhoods it used to happen to me and my roomates DAILY.
I guess I'm still bitter about that, because I can't muster much sympathy for this guy.
May 26, 2011 argyle commented on I Love New York.
Damn, that pole dancing dude is hot...but I bet this kind of thing would be kinda irritating if you were actually living in NY and trying to commute.
May 20, 2011 argyle commented on "Don't Say Gay" Bill Approved By Tennessee Senate.
That was so awesome. Gonna go get a button now. :)