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Jun 4, 2014 anaisninja commented on That’s Kind of Racist, Dude.
Come on Don Le, there's more than one kind of privilege. Until just this week, your waiter was earning less than $3/hour to serve your large group of educated, privileged "writers." I can say that because I was married to an educated, privileged "writer" for 9 years.

Sure, he's ignorant and blurted something out based on his own implicit bias. He's probably not even aware that he as implicit biases. He's a waiter. He may not enjoy the privilege of a college degree. He certainly doesn't enjoy the privilege of being middle class.

You and others in your party went above and beyond in making your point to him. Do you feel superior now that you've schooled a man who is likely barely getting by on the finer points of institutionalized racism and white privilege? Do you really think you're going to "make" him become culturally competent by spending a few moments brow-beating him while he's at work trying to earn a living?

He's one of the 99%. He's one of us.

What I'm saying is - choose your battles. Choosing this one, and then writing about it for all of us to see, only makes YOU look like a jerk. Not him.

Throw him a bone and move on with your life.
Mar 13, 2014 anaisninja commented on Five Ways to Make the City Better for People of Color.
Thank you Ms. Henderson. This is perfect and I have reposted it not to the choir but to the folks who need some edumacation.
Jul 1, 2013 anaisninja commented on Write Speechify About What You Know.
Chutt-spa. That says it all.
Feb 11, 2013 anaisninja commented on Television Station in Indiana Edits Report In an Apparent Attempt to Make Bigoted Special Ed Teacher Diana "Gays Have No Purpose" Medley Seem Less Hateful.
Why is it every time we take a step forward, somewhere someone else takes 3 steps back.
Dec 6, 2012 anaisninja commented on Responding to Shortage, Judges Will Open Courtrooms on Sunday to Marry Gay Couples.
Everyone is being so kind, with judges volunteering their time on a Sunday, etc. It makes me proud to be a Seattleite. I will definitely be out there celebrating, throwing rice. Or birdseed. Or whatever it is these days.
Nov 13, 2012 anaisninja commented on Approve R-74 Victory Celebration at Cupcake Royale.
@ 42. I love the validation on those faces. A friend told me the other day the validation of approving this referendum has created a complete shift in not only how he sees himself but in how he sees himself in relationship to the greater community. He now feels like an insider in US society.
Nov 13, 2012 anaisninja commented on Approve R-74 Victory Celebration at Cupcake Royale.
I'm not sure we straight allies deserve much credit, but I'll take it. We love you Dan Savage!
Jan 16, 2012 anaisninja commented on Gay Marriage Debate Officially Canceled After Five Anti-Gay Leaders (Including Three Pastors) Confirm and Then Back Out.
You win by default. They are cowards who know they are wrong.
Dec 10, 2011 anaisninja commented on Bullied Teenager Takes Own Life in Tennessee.
*sigh* This needs to stop. Sick to my stomach for his family and friends. And for all the other kids in his position who are still suffering and hanging on, day by day. If a flood of supportive videos and constant referrals to resources can't save these kids, what will? Please, make it stop.
Nov 24, 2011 anaisninja commented on Not All Opponents of Gay Marriage Are Haters and Bigots.
It's not merely a difference of opinion if the government can keep you from being at your spouse's side on their deathbed. I was legally married for years and never bore a child - was that a legitimate marriage? Why isn't she opposing Kim Kardashian's sham for-profit marriage? What a hypocrite.