Mar 17, 2014
commented on Fred Phelps: Excommunicated and Near Death
Given the general trend among the most vehement, vocal anti-gay protestors, I would've thought it was obvious why he was excommunicated. The church finally worked out that he's gay.
Can't bring myself to hate him, people like that I just think it must suck to be that bitter & damaged all one's life.
Jan 15, 2014
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Left Behind
Additional to @15's advice, gently rocking back & forth also helps.
@17 don't sweat it, there are *so many* worse places to be talking about poo.
Nov 14, 2012
commented on Mitt Romney Didn't Learn a Thing
Since when was being young a "special interest"? What is it that Blacks and Latinos want for their children that's so different than Whites?
Jun 11, 2012
commented on By Josh Weed's Logic...
There were a couple of orange flags raised in that post, but altogether I think that's more to do with the mountain of disingenuous arguments from other bigoted/religious/closeted commentators. I think Josh Weed's written a (mostly) thoughtful post - he takes great pains to convey it as his own personal experience, and he's also pretty vehement in his direction to love/support and *not* judge anyone for choosing to do what makes them happy.
How about we just take him at his word, and stop making up stories to fit the gaps in our experience of how queers are supposed to act? I imagine that a gay man in a happy hetero relationship would suffer the worst kind of erasion, so good on him for coming out. You're basically cherry-picking the more clunky passages to ridicule him and I think that's pretty cheap.
May 19, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Show This Woman Some Love
There's an old adage that love and hate are two sides of the same coin. I don't have any clue about you or your family, obviously, I could still imagine a scenario in which there's a lot of pressure, fear, frustration, and generally *ambivalence* within certain members of your family over this incident. Likely you're a convenient target to transfer the grief of sacrificing another family member.
Obvs this is just a guess on my part. But as to your questions about how they could possibly hate you as much as they seem to... I can't help thinking that the level of wrath you describe is borne of some deep conflict within (and possibly between) some family members that you're not currently (and may never be) privy to.
If that's the case.. all I can do is hope & pray that one day other members of your family will find the strength to stand up for what they know in their hearts to be right & just, against the abhorrent belief structure your parents and the church have enforced on them.
Mainly I wish I could give you and your nephew a big hug. I wish only the best good fortune for the two of you. Kia kaha.