commented on Has Virginia AG Ken Cuccinelli Ever Had a Blowjob? Eaten Pussy? Fucked Ass? Eaten Ass?
What intrigued me in that story was the bar graph--in particular, the disparity between men and women reporting anal sex with the opposite sex (44% men, but only 36% women). Who's lying? What would put it in men's interest to claim they did or women's to claim they didn't? Or are some men a little baffled about what hole they're in? Some women? eww.
(or maybe I'm just not figuring in multiple partners. . . oh well, it was more fun the other way)
commented on Lying Liar Lies
When all else fails, conservatives just choose to stop history at a point where it works for their argument. I've heard Anne Coulter do the same thing numerous times with idea that the Democratic party is the party of bigotry and racism because all those evil segregationists were Democrats after all.
commented on Child Rape, Inc.
Minor quibble . . . as a few commenters noted, they changed the procedures with confessions a few years back, going to the face-to-face thing, and no longer scheduling the first confession to happen before the First Communion. I made my first confession at 12 or 13, and I think (I think) that became the norm around 1978 or so . . .
commented on SL Letter of the Day: One Word
It's a funny video, but I have every impression that these women are all comedians/performance artists/improv comics or something. It's fine. But it actually makes it less funny--this isn't just a bunch of off-the-cuff remarks.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Gentle Reminder
Here's a variant for the marrieds with kids . . . spouse goes out and has a drink/light dinner with work friends while I put the kiddos to bed. Then she comes home horny and uninhibited and jumps my bones. Chocolately dessert in bed, after.
commented on Savage Love Episode 328
I thought Dan's reasoning on straight guys' stress was off the mark. But here's an alternative hypothesis, which sounds counter-intuitive at first. I think it has to do with supportive community.
Here's what I mean: if you're straight, yes, you live in a hetero world, but when heterosexuality is considered the default, it fails to work as an organizing principle. In that climate, straight men learn they are supposed to be the agents of that world, the aggressors in relationships, but they are pretty much just thrown in to compete. (i.e., just walking into a breeder bar doesn't give me any special connection or identity with others there like me; if you're gay or lesbian, though, you can find that niche). Like I say, it's counter-intuitive: certainly, the dominant discourse of our world leaves non-straights wanting for a support network to come out, or sometimes, just to survive. But the social practices involved in finding and maintaining that support network would certainly seem to work in their favor. Straight men, expected to be competitive or fail, tend not to have such a network.
It would be interesting to see how this research applied to straight men involved in kink or some other sexual-orientation linked community . . .