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Jul 20 tal commented on Savage Love.
@22 while I don't know that that's necessarily the case it would definitely be entertaining. Some of the best-written female roles have been ones that were first written with the intent of having the character be male, but while I think this improves Hollywood's ability to write women as *people* I'm not sure a simple gender swap automatically improves the movie.

I think there are some crutches that get used when writing female characters to indicate certain types of ladies, where male characters tend to get more individual characterization (not valid for any daytime tv show, to be sure). Encouraging a gender swap does encourage a certain re-centering of the character's defining traits, as many characters could be either gender without major rewriting.

It's going to be interesting to see if this is just a one-off experience or if we're going to start getting female characters who are more individuals and less female type stand-ins.
Jul 20 tal commented on Savage Love.
@32 you're right, they should have talked about twinkies for a couple of minutes and thrown cheez-its and coke in for good measure. They paid for their ghostbusters product placements, they should get to be in both!
Jul 20 tal commented on Savage Love.
@20 I have so much love for the original movie, both because it is legitimately awesome and iconic and also because I am filled with nostalgia for it. I also really enjoyed the new movie and had a great time watching it, and I have trouble answering that question.

I think both of them are excellent movies, but they are both very much products of their time and I like now time better than I like the time of 32 years ago. It is easier to watch and enjoy a movie lacking in some of the problematic themes of the original, but that does not necessarily make it 'better than the original'. There are a lot of old movies that you have to watch with some mental filtering for their context, and the way that a lot of sexually predatory behavior is lauded in the original is like watching old movies where being gay is the joke or being racist is just assumed. You can enjoy it as long as you can suspend the perspectives of today, which is a tiny price to pay for so many amazing movies.

Someday this new version will require the same suspension of modern perspective to be enjoyable, and I think it will be as worth the effort as the original movie is now.
Jun 22 tal commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Target Engaged.
@37 where is this place that doesn't set up common-law marriage-style-things as strictly opt-in? You have to be actively presenting as a married couple everywhere in the USA, for example. There is no "Surprise! You're now considered married!" place listed on wikipedia at least, they're pretty clear that, like standard marriage, you have to be freely consenting.
Feb 25 tal commented on I, Anonymous.
@10 I'm sure in due time they'll move on. I'm also sure that you're not the one to tell them when 'due time' has passed. And telling someone who is legit working to get over something that they should move on with their life before due time has passed kinda makes you a misery-inducing little shit.
Aug 19, 2015 tal commented on Savage Love.
@62 when my SO isn't around and I sleep on her side of the bed I find all sorts of stuff behind her nightstand just by letting my eyes wander as I nod off. Mostly it's used tissues, but occasionally it's been stuff that I knew she was looking for. Her nightstand is just built that way, you can see more from the bed than standing in front of it.
Dec 15, 2014 tal commented on Weekend Review: Temporary Tattoos? Hawt Pits! Matthew McConaughey... and the Meat Puppets!.
@14 I don't know about the wrist-shape, but that's clearly denim pants rolled back for both, if that helps
Oct 1, 2014 tal commented on Savage Love.
Seriously guys, Dan's talked about sounding and fake hymens before, so the only thing that can be disturbing is the dead snake. But the snopes page on masturbation has stuff equally if not more disturbing that we've all heard as urban legends in high school (anyone else heard the one about the girl who masturbated with a lobster tail and then was infested with shrimp?)

Where did you all go to school that this is so incredibly disturbing to you?
Sep 26, 2014 tal commented on Facebook Fails to Explain Its Discriminatory and Dangerous 'Real Names' Policy.
We could start a slog library that gives laminated cards for your favorite name...
Sep 3, 2014 tal commented on SL Letter of the Day: Hate the Game.
@17 http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/wp-c…

Usually "gender neutral" as something that a person would say they are is more on the 'gender identity' or 'gender expression' scale, but since we're getting the info from the father we don't know exactly how the daughter would use it. Either way it is nothing like asexuality, which is more on the "how much do you want sex" spectrum than it is on the "with whom would you like to have sex" scale. You can be straight or gay and asexual.