Sep 9, 2012
commented on Score One for the Haters and Trolls
The barrel-bottom level of exchanges on most comment threads is a shame -- coarsening of society etc. The thing is, Freethought Blogs creates, encourages, and engenders that level of discourse. There's an Us/Them thing going on there that brings out the worst in people. Hopefully once McCreight gets a chance to catch her breath, she'll strike out on her own, away from the FTB horde.
Jun 28, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Ovary Up!
Dan nailed it pretty well, as did lazylisa @7.
Mainly, I think, the point is to break the social barrier and speak directly to the person. What is said may not really matter (as long as it isn't something lunatic).
My anecdote involves a speaker at a conference I was attending. Rapt as I was, I figured he was out of my league (he being a *speaker* at a conference I was *attending*), but the first time I saw him away from the dais, I brought him a question "that you are uniquely qualified to answer" (whether that was true or not is my secret). We spent the rest of the conference together, and a couple more since then.
May 30, 2012
commented on Another Tragedy in Kinkland
I can't be the only person here who has actually used a vac bed. The type I've used does not have a gasket for the neck; rather, one was encased entirely, with a hole that sealed around one's mouth. While my body was constrained (obviously), my breathing was not occluded. For people who enjoy constriction, mummification, etc., it's a great feeling -- the entire body is immobilized, down to every fingertip, without pressure points, overheating, or chafing. For people who love latex, it's a wonderful immersion.
All the same, I'd have never tried to operate one alone. Not the same could be said for my ex-husband, who had rigged up a system whereby he could operate the vacuum from inside the latex, by means of a "dead man's switch." I was never comfortable with that, which didn't seem to bother him much... which is why he's my ex-husband. At least if he'd wound up offing himself, I imagine I'd have heard about it somewhere by now.
May 17, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Bi Boy Problems
"...and if this conversation ends it, well, your relationship with Selena was destined to end at some point, right?"
Might as well say this about all relationships ever. "Well, the vast majority of them end, so just do what you want, and if that ends it, it was going to anyway, right?"
Now I'm depressed.
May 17, 2012
commented on Savage Love
Hm. Do something I don't really enjoy for 20 years because I might want something else when I'm in my 40s? Pass.