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Jan 3 shefightslikeagirl commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Newly Engageed Woman Debates Confessing Bullshit "Infidelity" Or Keeping Mouth Shut.
Lindie @48 expressed how I would personally (try to/have) handle something like this. I made a minor slip, I feel horrible about it, it woke me up to something I will never do again, it’s my job to keep it to myself forever and not make myself feel better by making my beloved feel shitty. But I understand that’s not everyone’s take.
Jan 3 shefightslikeagirl commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Newly Engageed Woman Debates Confessing Bullshit "Infidelity" Or Keeping Mouth Shut.
@29 And these phone logs are one of the things you're worried about will give you away, yeah? Is it normal for a person to comb through months/years of another person's phone logs? I've been single for a long time, but I can't imagine this being a thing I'd do unless some shit was really going down. And if shit is going that badly, then...a years-ago makeout session would seem to be the least worry. I don't know, the whole thing just seems really weird, like you're inappropriately wound up about this. And calling the guy to ask if he's still not going to tell anyone? Super weird.
Jan 3 shefightslikeagirl commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Newly Engageed Woman Debates Confessing Bullshit "Infidelity" Or Keeping Mouth Shut.
I'm curious as to why the letter writer recently recontacted the married man. That's potentially troubling.
Dec 13, 2016 shefightslikeagirl commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Love Letter, Interrupted.
I love this line: "[he] sees their relationship as a self-improvement arc for her." How much bullshit could be avoided worldwide if more people recognized that this is not a healthy way to relate?
Aug 22, 2016 shefightslikeagirl commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Quick Hits.
Dr Joy Browne had (has?) a tendency to give "well, then, get a better-paying job" type advice along the lines of "well, then, move to a better city." Always bothered me. So does "well, then, get a different boyfriend/girlfriend." Man, must be nice to be able to just pluck these things off trees.
Aug 16, 2016 shefightslikeagirl commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Daddy's Pretend Girl Worried About Daddy's Actual Girl.
This notion of "I have a fetish which I enjoy, and I regard with suspicion anyone else who would engage in such a thing" is what ended my marriage (more or less).
Aug 8, 2016 shefightslikeagirl commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Punting.
Some of these young people (<30) seem to think they are Bad People if they don't do open relationships. Like, they are stodgy and old fashioned, even though for a lot of the letter writers, it's not something that seems natural, or even workable, for them. That's how this letter felt to me. LW seemed fine being monogamous, but thought the right/kind/modern thing to do was open the relationship, when even the boyfriend didn't seem that interested in doing so.
Aug 2, 2016 shefightslikeagirl commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Just Say No.
Is part of LW's fantasy actually being knocked out? Or just being "incapacitated"? I haven't had this particular fantasy, but it still seems like I'd want to just pretend, because I'd want to be able to experience my "abductor"'s excitement, etc., as well. (But I am more voyeur than anything.)
Jun 29, 2016 shefightslikeagirl commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Pregnancy Derails Poly Bliss.
@31 Oh lord, is that ever NOT true about breeding? ;) I’m not “revulsed” by polyamory, I’m repelled by drama. I’m not even saying it can’t work, I’m just saying it’s pretty damned interesting how it seems to go the same route over and over. Actually, no, wait, I take it back. I personally DO find polyamory revulsive, just like I personally find children revulsive, for myself in my own life, she says, throwing asterisks all over the room like fucking confetti. And that doesn’t matter one whit for what other people do and enjoy. You didn’t “turn” anything back on me, and you certainly didn’t do it by suggesting that breeding fucks up relationships, because, well, it does. There are actual studies about THAT. (Why are some “happy” people so defensive about what makes them “happy” anyway?)
Jun 29, 2016 shefightslikeagirl commented on Savage Love.
@37 Blahblahblah, yes, nothing I say forces anyone to do anything, it’s my opinion, blahblahblah, god I hate having to say this every time I express a thought, fucking internet.