I have sex with married men because I am bi but in a married lesbian relationship. I love my wife, and we have good (though infrequent) sex, but she knows I'm bi and I need het sex now and again. So we have an agreement. I can sleep with men, not get into a full-fledged relationship with them, so married men are safer for me. Other women are totally off limits.

I have met some very nice men and have some wild sex but one thing I do not do is expect them to be "faithful" to me, any more than I am "faithful" to them. I don't believe in the whole monogamy thing anyway. And from my experience, very few men do. I tell them about my other relationships and they tell me about theirs sometimes. (Depends on the guy.) It can be very arousing. It also takes the pressure off them to pretend they are somehow faithful to me. We're in it for sexual fun, period. If we click in other ways and can be friends, great. But that's where it stops.

If you're going to play this game, you have to do it with a realistic attitude.

And by the way, all those married women out there who think they can keep a man faithful despite a lousy, boring or non-existent sex life are deluding themselves. Put out or shut up and let him live a little and meet his needs with someone who loves sex and lets him know it.