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Feb 12 donaisabelle commented on Savage Love.

If he wants to make sure that he can have a sex talk with his son that has a lot of the gay sex areas covered, but without trying to out his son before he's ready, he could just frame them in straight contexts. The good practices that apply to anal sex with a man are the same as with a woman, etc. Or he could just make it as gender neutral as possible, and only use the word "partner," and try to leave "he" and "she" out of it as much as possible.

Nov 10, 2010 donaisabelle commented on Savage Love.

Perhaps lube isn't an option because she's allergic to the most common types of lubes, and isn't aware that there are other types if she only looks hard enough.

Sep 29, 2010 donaisabelle commented on SL Letter of the Day: Don't Santorum Me!.

I knew someone in high school whose brother's name was Randy Wenker.

Aug 20, 2010 donaisabelle commented on Buh-Bye.

My boyfriend, who is a feminist and socialist, and has a younger sister (actually, he's about to take a major national role in a socialist organization) watches porn. And he's great in bed.
Also, to suggest that porn intrinsically is coercive (although some, maybe most, is, there's plenty that isn't) implies that women cannot possibly fully consent to or enjoy being filmed having sex. How is that idea empowering to women to make their own choices and fully express their sexuality? Banning porn as a rule is an anti-feminist view.

Jul 8, 2010 donaisabelle commented on SL Letter of the Day: Confronting the Young Closet Case.

It's possible that his mancrush is platonic, or that he's possibly just jealous of a man he would like to be *like,* but not necessarily *with.* I often find myself inordinantly staring at certain women (I'm a girl), not because I'm attracted to them, but because I wished I looked like them/acted like them/had their charm/etc. So I agree with @38 that a good approach would be to call out the staring without attributing a reason to it. After all, it's not necessarily his attraction that causes the discomfort, but the particular actions.

May 15, 2010 donaisabelle commented on SL Letter of the Day: Boy Toys.

If even giving him a gift card to a specific sex toy site is awkward enough, you could always give him one of those credit card gift cards. Along with it, you could tell him "I'm not telling you you *have* to buy a safe toy with this, but I *am* telling you that if I find out that you've used an unsafe household item even though you had this money I gave you to buy something safe, you will be in trouble." Parents are supposed to protect their children from unsafe things, and even punish them for doing those unsafe things. In this case, it would not interfere with being sex-positive - it would just mean that you're colon-puncturing-negative.