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Apr 27, 2015 R.Taylor commented on Hillary Clinton's Building a Nerd Army.
Blackberry's encryption is pretty solid; it's known to be among the best. If you're someone like Clinton, who is doubtless the target of numerous hacking attempts, a Blackberry is a much more solid option than an iPhone or Android device.
Jan 23, 2015 R.Taylor commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wonderful Fiancé Turns Out To Be Total Shit Stain.
@18: The thing is, there's a douchey way and a non-douchey way to tell your fiancee/girlfriend "I think your dude friend is a slimeball." Unfortunately, apparently in keeping with his nature as a controlling douchebag himself, fiancee chose the douchey way. That's how we know he's a douchebag and not a relatively upstanding guy who is both concerned for his partner's well-being yet also respectful of her status as an adult capable of making her own decisions.
Jan 23, 2015 R.Taylor commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wonderful Fiancé Turns Out To Be Total Shit Stain.
Also: It is in no way a stupid move to tell your friend, whom you have just run into at a bar, that you just had a fight with your fiancee. That is a normal, human response. The normal, human response to being that friend is for friend to say, "That's terrible! Do you want to talk about it? Can I buy you a drink as a show of support?" Not to try and grope you (*especially* after your first 'no' - normal, decent human beings stop after the very *first* no and do not require any further demonstration of resistance. Actually, the really decent thing to do is not even start [like, seriously, what kind of dirtbag hears that his friend just had a fight with her fiancee and thinks that's some kind of go-ahead sign?], but the reasonably decent thing to do is stop after hearing 'no' once, not keep at it till the woman literally runs away in fear).
Jan 23, 2015 R.Taylor commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wonderful Fiancé Turns Out To Be Total Shit Stain.
Get better friends.

There are people out there who will unequivocally believe what has happened to you, and who will love and support you. Dump your fiancee, dump the friend who treated you this way, dump every friend who ever called you a liar for speaking about what happened to you, and find better, more supportive and more loving friends. It might suck and be lonely for a few months, but you'll be happier two years down the road.
Dec 2, 2014 R.Taylor commented on SL Letter of the Day: His Pace, His Rules, His BS.
@22: I agree.
Dec 2, 2014 R.Taylor commented on SL Letter of the Day: His Pace, His Rules, His BS.
I really want to know what kind of job the OP landed, if it was the turning point from 'hot sex' to 'terrible sex life.' The boyfriend already reads like an incredible douche; it's not difficult for me to see him reacting poorly to his girlfriend getting an awesome job and launching her career. I suspect that 'neglecting his sexuality' is really code for 'I am threatened by not only your current success, but your potential for greater future success, so I am going to shut down sexually and then blame you for not catering to my ego by holding yourself back.'
Aug 29, 2014 R.Taylor commented on SL Letter of the Day: Shelfies.
Idea: #ShelfieSaturday as a counterpart to #ThrowbackThursday, for those of us out of teh dating pool.
Aug 26, 2014 R.Taylor commented on SL Letter of the Day: Dude, Take My Free Advice!.
Most women don't watch porn as often as most men because porn isn't made for women (please note I said most/most, not all/all. Exceptions, as always, abound). Porn is the male fantasy come to life; not the female fantasy. If more porn were made featuring stunningly gorgeous men doing sexy things to a reasonably attractive woman, with all the pomp and splendour of a Harlequin romance, I bet you'd find a lot more women watching.
Aug 19, 2014 R.Taylor commented on SL Letter of the Day: For Better or Worse.
I completely and totally agree with #1. Neither of my parents were alcoholics, but they were both unhappy and stuck in a loveless marriage. Growing up in that household, with no alternate models of marriage, made me think for a really long time that, after awhile, spouses just stopped loving other and settled into an amicable toleration. Needless to say, I had a rather unrealistic viewpoint of relationships, and it took me awhile to really nail down how to properly do a long-term relationship (especially with someone who wasn't an emotionally abusive bully, like my dad).

Don't let your kids grow up thinking that it's okay to treat their spouse like this, or that it's okay to be treated like this. Because however much divorce might traumatize them, growing up not knowing what an authentic, loving relationship looks like is probably going to be worse. You deserve to be happy, and your children deserve to see you happy, too.
Aug 16, 2014 R.Taylor commented on SL Letter of the Day: Potential Murder, She Wrote.
@61: Let me break it down for you.

- Causing someone to live in fear for their life is abusive, even if one never lays a hand on them.

- A 'nice thing to do' for your spouse is to make them lunch and put in a little love note, or do their share of the domestic chores as a surprise. GGG doesn't mean you have to participate in fetishes, kinks or scenes which scare you.

- 'Not choking your partner without her consent' is sort of the baseline expectation for a healthy relationship. The husband doesn't get a gold star for *not* killing his wife, or even for not trying to kill her.

- If the husband wants to act out snuff scenes with his wife, the onus is ON HIM to find a way to have a conversation about his kink, coming up with a safe scene he would like to play out, and doing all of that in a way which reassures his wife that her safety is his primary concern, above and beyond getting his rocks off. The fact that he is unwilling or unable to do that is indicative that he would be an unsafe player to begin with. And the responsibility for making the husband into a *safe* player is with the *husband*, not the wife. What you're doing is telling a woman who's husband has a shibari kink that it's her responsibility to make sure that *he* knows how to tie knots safety. No, it's not - it's his. And someone who cannot understand appropriate behavior (i.e., it's not cool to tell your wife that you fantasize about killing her because that is a terrifying thing to hear) is most definitely not someone you want to play out high-level, high-stakes scenes with.