Sep 13, 2011
commented on Savage Love
Age doesn't matter unless you're cheese, and in this case, NCWTD's guy sounds like a sleaze!
I'm 28, and if a guy I was dating and gradually making my way into Happy Humpdom with was "probing" and being a dick about potential pregnancies, I'd run like my ass was on fire. Virgin or not, anyone who puts pressure on you, emotionally or physically to do what they want, and not what you're comfortable with needs to be shut down immediately. It's a slippery slope, and while first-time sex is always awkward (Universal Rule, no lie), it should at least be something where YOU feel comfortable enough with what's going on between the two of you.
Good luck kiddo.
Jan 23, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: She Who Will Not Be Ignored
OMG,, ur 1truluv? SO AWSUM!!
(That hurt. Sorry.Had to bring myself down to your level though.)
Hey, she mentioned he treated her like a POS, leaving her for her friend, so if I recall my highschool days that means they were together for... a week? A week and two classes on Monday morning before lunch?
Bitch, please. Get out of my gender, you're making us look bad. Also, what you're feeling isn't love because if it was, you'd still be with your first husband. Or apologizing profusely to your second. But it wouldn't have you out working on your third.
Oct 16, 2010
commented on Savage Love
Ugh, I hate the fact that being Catholic means I'm stuck with the Original Sin of being one of the first religions to use our Bible to facilitate hate.
Yes, that's exactly what it is. Love thy neighbour all you want, but when a catholic turns to me and says that gays are evil, and they'll go to hell, and blah blah blah, all I can reply with is "Judge not, lest ye be judged."
God's business isn't in the bedrooms of the consenting adults of the nation, to paraphrase a Canadian Politician.
Sep 1, 2010
commented on I, Anonymous
Call the cops! Have them verify the clinic trip and get him a nice pair of linked bracelets!
Aug 20, 2010
commented on SL Letter of the Day: ISO GGG GF
You know, it took me and FH 7 years to discover that he wanted to stick his finger in my ass.
And this was after he said he'd never do anal sex because of the fact that you use that hole to shit.
One night, he just did it. Just, WOOP! There it was! The Ol' Jolly Roger, and I was shocked, surprised, and frankly, in pain. So I told him to cease and desist.
Then we talked about it the next morning and I explained that I wasn't about to have him randomly try these things, and to be honest, I wasn't at all wild about the idea of anal play anyway. Also, I was sore, and I had to mention that if a finger made me sore, a cock may not feel much better thanks.
So, does that give him license to cheat? Hell no! He didn't tell me for 7 years that he would have wanted to try, and when asked, indicated that it was "icky" and gave me the impression that he wouldn't dare. To suddenly slip that into the uh, conversation like he did was not exactly deceitful, but also unexpected, uncomfortable, and unwanted.
Granted, we're going to try some other activities now that we've talked, but I think all this chatter about "misrepresentation" and "bait'n'switch" is pure bullshit. :_
Jul 26, 2010
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Enjoy
@58 Yes, yes and yes! You've strung together some of the bits that were floating around.
LW's letter wasn't about sex. She mentioned that the sex was great but what about age? Age = maturity and ability to handle the way life goes and the way you handle what you're handed. You can't saddle a 16 year old with the same problems a 30 year old would have and expect them to thrive.
That being said, I think the LW was really asking was if the 18 years of missing life experience between her and her lover are going to continue to present a problem even IF the sex is bongos.
And for my humble opinion, yes, I think they will. Not because of your kids, but because they are now getting to the age where they're going to start growing up and breaking away from you. They're going to want to go to parties and hang out with friends, and generally spend more time away from home which can be a major stress on parents, especially if they don't have a great relationship with said children. Not to mention the fact that your ex is going to be involved in this part of their lives about as much as they are, so you now get to pick your battles and present united fronts as much as possible.
Will this affect your lover? Of course, because bare bones read that you'll essentially be spending more time on your children and your ex than you will on him.
Sex notwithstanding, you'll have to be prepared for the fact that you may have to live separate lives, a lover who isn't emotionally invested in your kids won't care that you had to drive out to a friend's house to pick up one of them because they had too much to drink and got sick in the backseat of their friend's dad's car. In fact, there are men that see that kind of concern and affection for children that aren't genetically their own as a turnoff. (And yes, even men who thought they wanted kids turned tail and ran when the little one was born because they felt like they weren't #1 anymore.)
If you can deal with that, well, get yer fuck on and prepare for more breakups. If not, start looking for someone who'll provide stability for YOU. With the Teen Years coming up, you might need that on top of a good lay.
Jul 26, 2010
commented on SL Letter of the Day: First Timer
I, uh, haven't bled yet.
Was I supposed to?
Have a laugh though, because it won't be all romance and hot, squeaky passion! He's going to pull your hair when he tries to move you into position, you're going to accidentally smuck him in the balls with your foot. He could bang your head with his, and you could end up screaming in his ear loud enough to give him a mild hearing problem.
Relax, have a giggle, and don't try to marathon it! The immediate release of post-coital hormones is sudden, your body might welcome them but mine didn't. I got angry, for some odd reason and when he was done I just wanted him OFF me.
Oh, and cuddle. Nude cuddling is fun.
Jul 17, 2010
is commenting twice on the same thing, because she didn't know it went through already. :/.