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Oct 24, 2011 joon commented on SL Letter of the Day: Touchy.
all the disrespectful poly ladies can go ahead and love all over my husband. it's harmless, to my way of thinking, since he's not interested in taking it anywhere, and he does love the ego strokes.
Jun 17, 2011 joon commented on The Bravest Woman in Seattle.
this just goes to show that it's better to fight and die than cooperate, get horribly raped, and then die anyway.
Jun 16, 2011 joon commented on Anthony Weiner Might As Well Resign.
if lying is an offense punishable by forced resignation, then i expect to see/hear the resignations of every member of congress, senator, state governor, federal judge, and probably most upper-level federal and state employees across the board. the unifying trait among ALL these people is their propensity to lie and lie and lie.
Jun 9, 2011 joon commented on Savage Love.
i personally am grossed-out by unsolicited cock pictures (nothing like posting an ad on craigslist trying to sell the couch which is too big for your new apartment and getting five responses from guys who don't want the couch but were wondering if U WANNA FUK) but can we please ease up on the "all cocks are ugly and gross" thing? this is just mean. if a bunch of guys posted that they'd never want to see a picture of a vagina because OMG ALL PUSSIES ARE GROSS AND UGLY there'd be a virtual lynch mob forming up right now...
Dec 30, 2010 joon commented on SL Letter of the Day: Can't Help You.
i bet you anything that if the LW somehow does find a woman who is willing to allow her to experiment, some days or weeks later LW will be crying about how she was manipulated into sex she didn't like, and she probably won't like it, since she is straight.
Jun 15, 2010 joon commented on Savage Love.
VanillaSwirlCouple, all the things you have said are here in black and white, undeniable. Call me what you like--liar, tea-partier, torch-bearer, it doesn't negate your previous comments.

Is this discussion about your issue with me, a stranger, or is it about this lady's letter and her problems with her marriage?
Jun 14, 2010 joon commented on Savage Love.
A quote, copied and pasted from a response of yours:

(Hell, for all we know the VS salesclerk asked him if they were for him and flirted with him about it first. Very unlikely, I agree, but not unheard of.)

Your defensiveness makes it nearly impossible to have a coherent discussion with you, so let's just agree to disagree. I think the letter sounds like a guy forcing his kink on other people, to the distress of his wife, you think the letter sounds like a frigid, angry wife who isn't doing enough to indulge her husband's perfectly acceptable desires. Subjectivity, it is really all we have in a situation like this, isn't it?
Jun 14, 2010 joon commented on Savage Love.
I just want to say that I feel f*cking terrible for both parties in this situation. The wife is in way over her head and scared of the repercussions of her husband's actions, the husband is going to possibly lose his family and then face the prospect of finding another partner(s) who are able to participate in or at least tolerate his kink, not to mention how miserable it must be to be in the grip of a powerful sexual compulsion over which you don't have control.
VanillaSwirl, how can you say anyone here is making any more assumptions than you are? All we have to go on here is the original letter that was published in the column. I understand that this whole discussion may cause you to feel as if you are being attacked. I think most of the readers here are pretty openminded sexually (other than a few stupid anons who chimed in with "she married a freak, hurr hurr, what did she expect") and no one is bashing kinky people in general or crossdressers who like to be humiliated specifically...most, however, seem to be fully against nonconsensually involving other people in your kink. I refer to the wife here as well as to salesladies, neighbors, and coworkers. If the wife is, as you speculated, not making an effort to participate at all, or breaking some agreement that they had made as a couple, and the neighbor, coworker, and salesladies were all into it, then all that's off the table...but that's not how it was stated in the letter, which is, as I said, the only thing we have to go on here.
Jun 14, 2010 joon commented on Savage Love.
199=long verson
200=short version

joon=short on sleep (and patience) today
Jun 14, 2010 joon commented on Savage Love.
So I wrote a long, thoughtful response, and it didn't post. Here is a recap:

I do not at all believe fetishes should be closeted. Discussion of sexual matters of any kind, vanilla or kinky, are inappropriate in some contexts, however.

I don't "take offense" at your attacks on myself or any other poster--but I stand by my assertion that you are doing a lot of assuming and projecting on this particular subject. I understand how this can happen, though--I have a lover who's a lifestyle (not just sexual) crossdresser and I know how hard it has been for him to find acceptance of himself as a whole person. It's easy to get caught up in personal insults/ad hominem type attacks when the subject is so personal and emotional to you, I commend you for realizing that your "tea party" comparison was non-applicable.