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Nov 21, 2015 fredricka22 commented on Savage Love.
LW#2: I was single and unhappily but actively dating at 27 (just a few years ago) in Portland - not Seattle, but similar. It did suck, I did have a lot of lonely times, but I also learned a ton. Online dating in a big city is a great way (as it's fairly anonymous) to really figure out what / who you want. I'm 30 now and living elsewhere, but I did finally find my match this year and all the hard times made it that much more worth it.
Aug 25, 2015 fredricka22 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Married Woman.
Is it true that she is overreacting? Almost definitely. Is it also true that jealousy is a very real thing that is very hard for many otherwise confident women to deal with? YES. Let's not forget that.
Aug 18, 2015 fredricka22 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Asexual Dom.
Just like...... how do you know SO specifically what you like when you have never been in a romantic or sexual relationship? Maybe work on other ways of growing your identity than just picking as many terms and labels as possible....
Aug 12, 2015 fredricka22 commented on Savage Love.
People still use internet explorer and firefox?
Jun 4, 2015 fredricka22 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Offering.
Agreed @12. I think patience will go a long way with this one. It may seem SO IMPORTANT to bang THIS guy RIGHT NOW, but cooling your heels for 6 months or a year could have a big difference in her desires for this dude. Especially at 22 a lot can change in a few months. Stalk him on fb and go out and date other people.
Apr 11, 2015 fredricka22 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The End of the Affair(s).
Ummm also, her requirement of him to be monogamous with her is total bs, as SHE is not being monogamous with HIM. Regardless of how much sex she says she isn't having with her husband, she's still in a relationship with someone else!
Apr 2, 2015 fredricka22 commented on Savage Love.
Arrrrgh, do we have to go over again how progressive/ sensitive/ feminist men and women can and do enjoy porn and sex with skewed power dynamics? Really, if you're progressive and feminist you're gonna do what your lady wants.

AND I for one don't give any shits about what kind / quantity of porn my guy watches. Masturbation is a special, intimate time with ourselves and I would never take that away from anyone.
Feb 24, 2015 fredricka22 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What Comes Up (Or: A Question From Someone Who Couldn't Follow My Advice to #FuckFirst on Valentine's Day).
I'm wondering if there are any ideas we can come up with for substances that could simulate vomit without the potential health risks to both the LW and her partner, which could nonetheless help get her to climax. (With the assistance of fantasy and role play)
Feb 11, 2015 fredricka22 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Be PrEPared.
"unprotected bareback sex just feels better," as if that is ANY justification, or new news, or as if that's only true with anal sex so therefore it's more okay to coerce your partner into going without protection in this instance than with p-i-v or anything else. this response was the dumbest. also was pretty cavalier about the actual seriousness of actual HIV. not your best, dan.