commented on SL Letter of the Day: Your Wife Is a Lesbian, Dude
1. An amicable divorce now is probably better than a painful, bitterness-fueled shitstorm later. Divorce while you still like each other. Too many people wait until they actually are miserable and want to punish the other person. It gets ugly. Nocutename's suggestion of " We married young and grew apart" is spot on.
2. I have been known to refer to semen, in more obscene moments, as "cock snot". I feel it has a certain vulgar panache, and it's usually used when it's gotten somewhere unintended, like an ear.
commented on World War G
That looks legitimately better than World War Z. And much more fabulous!
commented on BDSM Isn't a Sickness...
@julie, When I was an EMT in college, our motto was "Wrapped, strapped, and fondled by the best on campus."
For bonus points, it was a women's college with a very sex-positive atmosphere and high LGBT presence. That was about the time I started reading Dan, too...
commented on Rightwing Anti-Gay French Activist Commits Suicide at Notre Dame Cathedral
The hatred is so toxic that it's eating its own.
I do not rejoice in this man's death, drowned in his own bigotry.
If others of his movement are inspired by this, I hope it is to realize that their hate is poisoning them and they need to be free of it, otherwise I fear one of them may choose a bomb for their exit strategy.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control
a) You can't rewire your brain to not enjoy the idea of sexual control.
b) You can safely, legally, and morally explore that fantasy and similar control scenarios with a partner through consensual role-play.
Recommendation: Work on being less hung up on a) and seek out an opportunity to go to town with b).
commented on Coming Out In a Big Way
@2, I totally had the same thought: This explains the frequency of gay politicians, especially GOP (who have more to hide and more shame to fuel their drive for success). Probably contributes to the gay priest phenomenon too.
commented on Advice Cop: A Clear Case of DTMFA
Comparing her to an adventurous ex makes her feel inadequate. No one likes to be told that the ex was in any way better than they are.
Basically her brain is saying, "I don't want to hear another word about what perverse sexual acts your slutty ex did with you, she's horrible and I can't stand being compared to her. Oh my God you are going to leave me for her and her new boyfriend and you'll be a kinky threesome forever..."
commented on William Saletan Sends Slate Readers to a Picture of a Cock Stuck Full of Needles
"I think it's icky, someone could get hurt, and decent people just don't do that! Therefore, no one should mention it or admit that it's part of their life, and also you are abusive mentally deranged freaks."
Pretty sure that the same logic was used by every puritanical theocrat ever regarding man-woman-penis-vagina sex.
How's about we all try not to overshare our sex practices and acknowledge that portraying consensual sexual behavior between adults as inherently diseased because you don't like to do what they do is impolite, m'kay?
Remember, Mr. Saletan, the gut deep revulsion you feel for BDSM is similar to how some people feel about indoctrinating children into a religion or eating pineapple on pizza.
commented on The Gay Vagina Monologues
Meh, I totally thought the overall theme was perplexed discomfort, not hostility. In general, we laugh at things we aren't comfortable with. Some were even trying to be nice, but couldn't really come up with much beyond "People come out of vaginas, which is important."
These guys have a set of naughty bits they're familiar with. Now naughty bits are theoretically icky for a lot of people, but some leeway is cut for naughty bits you like and naughty bits you have. Asking about naughty bits you neither like nor have leaves you with something unreservedly in the ick zone if you haven't gone out of your way to get over those juvenile feelings.
I thought the misconceptions were pretty funny. Cold watermelon?! Aren't you cute!