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Kaliann commented on Rightwing Anti-Gay French Activist Commits Suicide at Notre Dame Cathedral.
May 13
Kaliann commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
a) You can't rewire your brain to not enjoy the idea of sexual control.
b) You can safely, legally, and morally explore that fantasy and similar control scenarios with a partner through consensual role-play.
Recommendation: Work on being less hung up on a) and seek out an opportunity to go to town with b).
b) You can safely, legally, and morally explore that fantasy and similar control scenarios with a partner through consensual role-play.
Recommendation: Work on being less hung up on a) and seek out an opportunity to go to town with b).
May 9
Kaliann commented on Coming Out In a Big Way.
@2, I totally had the same thought: This explains the frequency of gay politicians, especially GOP (who have more to hide and more shame to fuel their drive for success). Probably contributes to the gay priest phenomenon too.
Apr 8
Kaliann commented on Advice Cop: A Clear Case of DTMFA.
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Comparing her to an adventurous ex makes her feel inadequate. No one likes to be told that the ex was in any way better than they are.
Basically her brain is saying, "I don't want to hear another word about what perverse sexual acts your slutty ex did with you, she's horrible and I can't stand being compared to her. Oh my God you are going to leave me for her and her new boyfriend and you'll be a kinky threesome forever..."
Comparing her to an adventurous ex makes her feel inadequate. No one likes to be told that the ex was in any way better than they are.
Basically her brain is saying, "I don't want to hear another word about what perverse sexual acts your slutty ex did with you, she's horrible and I can't stand being compared to her. Oh my God you are going to leave me for her and her new boyfriend and you'll be a kinky threesome forever..."
Mar 4
Kaliann commented on William Saletan Sends Slate Readers to a Picture of a Cock Stuck Full of Needles.
To clarify, the theocrat usually implies people wanting to do the sexy are are hell-bound or demon-ridden rather than abusive.
Mar 4
Kaliann commented on William Saletan Sends Slate Readers to a Picture of a Cock Stuck Full of Needles.
"I think it's icky, someone could get hurt, and decent people just don't do that! Therefore, no one should mention it or admit that it's part of their life, and also you are abusive mentally deranged freaks."
Pretty sure that the same logic was used by every puritanical theocrat ever regarding man-woman-penis-vagina sex.
How's about we all try not to overshare our sex practices and acknowledge that portraying consensual sexual behavior between adults as inherently diseased because you don't like to do what they do is impolite, m'kay?
Remember, Mr. Saletan, the gut deep revulsion you feel for BDSM is similar to how some people feel about indoctrinating children into a religion or eating pineapple on pizza.
Pretty sure that the same logic was used by every puritanical theocrat ever regarding man-woman-penis-vagina sex.
How's about we all try not to overshare our sex practices and acknowledge that portraying consensual sexual behavior between adults as inherently diseased because you don't like to do what they do is impolite, m'kay?
Remember, Mr. Saletan, the gut deep revulsion you feel for BDSM is similar to how some people feel about indoctrinating children into a religion or eating pineapple on pizza.
Jan 18
Kaliann commented on The Gay Vagina Monologues.
Meh, I totally thought the overall theme was perplexed discomfort, not hostility. In general, we laugh at things we aren't comfortable with. Some were even trying to be nice, but couldn't really come up with much beyond "People come out of vaginas, which is important."
These guys have a set of naughty bits they're familiar with. Now naughty bits are theoretically icky for a lot of people, but some leeway is cut for naughty bits you like and naughty bits you have. Asking about naughty bits you neither like nor have leaves you with something unreservedly in the ick zone if you haven't gone out of your way to get over those juvenile feelings.
I thought the misconceptions were pretty funny. Cold watermelon?! Aren't you cute!
These guys have a set of naughty bits they're familiar with. Now naughty bits are theoretically icky for a lot of people, but some leeway is cut for naughty bits you like and naughty bits you have. Asking about naughty bits you neither like nor have leaves you with something unreservedly in the ick zone if you haven't gone out of your way to get over those juvenile feelings.
I thought the misconceptions were pretty funny. Cold watermelon?! Aren't you cute!
Nov 19, 2012
Kaliann commented on Confidential to the Administration at Celina High School.
I would point out that the ACLU isn't specifically being pro-gay. They are pro-freedom of speech, and have defended people accused of all manner of icky things.
That said, GOOD FOR THEM. We need for there to be someone interested in defending rights, not just fashion causes and pity cases. The ACLU is a stalwart champion of Constitutional freedoms, and I applaud them even when they aren't siding with the people I find most sympathetic.
Happily, in this case, I am not burdened with supporting justice at the cost of defending a person I find distasteful: Rawr! Go get 'em! Put the fear of righteous litigation in the shriveled hearts of those homophobes!
That said, GOOD FOR THEM. We need for there to be someone interested in defending rights, not just fashion causes and pity cases. The ACLU is a stalwart champion of Constitutional freedoms, and I applaud them even when they aren't siding with the people I find most sympathetic.
Happily, in this case, I am not burdened with supporting justice at the cost of defending a person I find distasteful: Rawr! Go get 'em! Put the fear of righteous litigation in the shriveled hearts of those homophobes!
Aug 29, 2012
Kaliann commented on "An ode to advocates, teachers, and parents" of the deaf.
So a straight white able-bodied dude can't or shouldn't write things with minority races, minority sexualities, or disabled characters unless they are ... what? Completely serious? Can't write them as funny characters, or let them touch on any identity issues? Somebody should really tell Joss Whedon he should stop making money off of funny or ass-kicking female characters, and should leave out lesbians (especially when they make a joke hinging on their queerity). Oh, and since he cracks repeatedly on the various mental health issues of his characters, he pretty much ought to be pilloried. Too insensitive.
This is prohibitive to comedy, art, and inclusiveness. How boring would it be if only un-privileged could represent their flavor of minority status. Yes, having a more varied set of creators is great, but wouldn't it be nice if creators of all stripes could be willing to create with all the various types of people they are familiar with?
I have not seen this piece, but the response seems to be from those who have that Helen isn't mocked for her disability. Can we consider that characters in a comedy aren't necessarily the butt of a joke and can be handled with sincerity?
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This is prohibitive to comedy, art, and inclusiveness. How boring would it be if only un-privileged could represent their flavor of minority status. Yes, having a more varied set of creators is great, but wouldn't it be nice if creators of all stripes could be willing to create with all the various types of people they are familiar with?
I have not seen this piece, but the response seems to be from those who have that Helen isn't mocked for her disability. Can we consider that characters in a comedy aren't necessarily the butt of a joke and can be handled with sincerity?
Jun 9, 2012
Kaliann commented on Confidential to Super Wealthy Conservative Republicans Who Don't Want Me Giving Sex Advice to America's Youth.
C'mon people, nobody heats the whole castle all winter long. You heat what you use and close the rest of the vents off until you have guests. "Oh, your brother's coming for a visit, let's open up the north tower, shall we?"
Conveniently, there's a tavern and houses on the property, maybe the rents from those would cover taxes, upkeep, and heating. Probably not.
Conveniently, there's a tavern and houses on the property, maybe the rents from those would cover taxes, upkeep, and heating. Probably not.
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I do not rejoice in this man's death, drowned in his own bigotry.
If others of his movement are inspired by this, I hope it is to realize that their hate is poisoning them and they need to be free of it, otherwise I fear one of them may choose a bomb for their exit strategy.