Jul 6, 2015
commented on Indiana Man Will Spend the Rest of His Life on Sex-Offender Registry for Having Sex with a Teenager When He Was a Teenager
19yo folks who will have sex with someone who claims to be 17 without an ID check are SUPER COMMON. Actual child predators are pretty damn rare. It is utterly predictable that these draconian enforcements will continue to destroy more lives than they help. No study has ever demonstrated any reduction in sex crimes against children associated with these registries. There is no evidence that they work. There is plenty of evidence that they are expensive and often way more severe than the crime warrants (public urination? Teens getting frisky? Come on!).
Jan 27, 2014
commented on "I'm Jesus fucking Christ."
I gotta admit that it took me hearing her quip that "Jesus is such a DiNozzo" for me to figure out that Jesus is the same actor as DiNozzo (Micheal Weatherly). I knew his voice seemed familiar!
Jan 10, 2014
commented on Savage Love
Some trans* people prefer to be known as people with a transitioned history, and some take issue with "transgender" in general and consider themselves transsexual but not transgender. Some identify as gender queer or simply trans.
There is a transsexual woman on the NPR comment section who literally calls the word "transgender" a violation of her civil rights.
I imagine that's an uncommonly extreme opinion, but it's one that's out there.
Aug 16, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Your Wife Is a Lesbian, Dude
1. An amicable divorce now is probably better than a painful, bitterness-fueled shitstorm later. Divorce while you still like each other. Too many people wait until they actually are miserable and want to punish the other person. It gets ugly. Nocutename's suggestion of " We married young and grew apart" is spot on.
2. I have been known to refer to semen, in more obscene moments, as "cock snot". I feel it has a certain vulgar panache, and it's usually used when it's gotten somewhere unintended, like an ear.
Jun 28, 2013
commented on World War G
That looks legitimately better than World War Z. And much more fabulous!
May 29, 2013
commented on BDSM Isn't a Sickness...
@julie, When I was an EMT in college, our motto was "Wrapped, strapped, and fondled by the best on campus."
For bonus points, it was a women's college with a very sex-positive atmosphere and high LGBT presence. That was about the time I started reading Dan, too...
May 21, 2013
commented on Rightwing Anti-Gay French Activist Commits Suicide at Notre Dame Cathedral
The hatred is so toxic that it's eating its own.
I do not rejoice in this man's death, drowned in his own bigotry.
If others of his movement are inspired by this, I hope it is to realize that their hate is poisoning them and they need to be free of it, otherwise I fear one of them may choose a bomb for their exit strategy.
May 13, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control
a) You can't rewire your brain to not enjoy the idea of sexual control.
b) You can safely, legally, and morally explore that fantasy and similar control scenarios with a partner through consensual role-play.
Recommendation: Work on being less hung up on a) and seek out an opportunity to go to town with b).
May 9, 2013
commented on Coming Out In a Big Way
@2, I totally had the same thought: This explains the frequency of gay politicians, especially GOP (who have more to hide and more shame to fuel their drive for success). Probably contributes to the gay priest phenomenon too.
Apr 8, 2013
commented on Advice Cop: A Clear Case of DTMFA
Comparing her to an adventurous ex makes her feel inadequate. No one likes to be told that the ex was in any way better than they are.
Basically her brain is saying, "I don't want to hear another word about what perverse sexual acts your slutty ex did with you, she's horrible and I can't stand being compared to her. Oh my God you are going to leave me for her and her new boyfriend and you'll be a kinky threesome forever..."