6:39 PM yesterday
diner mo commented on Listen Up, Gays: They're Coming to Recruit You.
@everyone: you guys can probably get back on the bus and go home now. I'm still here but I think your real target audience wandered off a while back. I'm just sticking around hoping someone will say 'sheeple' again.
8:00 AM yesterday
diner mo commented on Listen Up, Gays: They're Coming to Recruit You.
Yes folks, because you like cheese, you must also like bacon! for lo, they are both foods - foods that people eat.
May 19
diner mo commented on It's Spring! Who's Ready for Street Harassment?.
@191 If those sorts of comments stress you out to the point of looking for the exit, why should you have to put up with them? Why are you defending the right of people to say them?
And if 99 people who say them are not threatening rape for every one who is, wouldn't it be polite of the 99 to learn that it's not cool? Especially if it's irritating or stressing out 950 of the 1000 people it's said to?
And if 99 people who say them are not threatening rape for every one who is, wouldn't it be polite of the 99 to learn that it's not cool? Especially if it's irritating or stressing out 950 of the 1000 people it's said to?
May 17
diner mo commented on It's Spring! Who's Ready for Street Harassment?.
@99 So where exactly is that line? Because if it's up to me, the line was way back when the stranger thought it was okay to comment on my tits when I was going about my business in public. So it's right and responsible for me to let him know that he's crossed the line in no uncertain terms. To the guy in my story, there is no line that he cares about (and he might not be every guy who says 'nice tits', but he's some of them, and how dies a woman know?). To you, apparently, there's a line somewhere in my story, but I'm not sure where it is. Where did the guy 'get pushy' exactly? Wasn't he just conversing, making his interest known? And she was responding in a friendly manner, right? Wasn't she encouraging him in some way by doing that?
Make no mistake, if she pulled out the pepper spray at any point after smiling and conversing back, or if she doesn't pull out the pepper spray and the worst happens and he rapes her, cops, lawyers and half of her friends and family are all going to ask those questions and make those assumptions.
You don't understand women's reactions on this because you think the situation is the same for you as a gay man and it's not. The likelihood of you being sexually assaulted, raped, and physically assaulted is lower. Because statistically the size and strength diifferentials between you and other men work in your favour the likely outcomes of any physical attack are less scary. And you don't have the mental baggage of rape fear that is generated by both the statistics and the cultural conversation. Lucky you. That's a privilege, not a virtue. And people who tout their privileges like they are virtues come off as prize dicks. Just so you know.
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Make no mistake, if she pulled out the pepper spray at any point after smiling and conversing back, or if she doesn't pull out the pepper spray and the worst happens and he rapes her, cops, lawyers and half of her friends and family are all going to ask those questions and make those assumptions.
You don't understand women's reactions on this because you think the situation is the same for you as a gay man and it's not. The likelihood of you being sexually assaulted, raped, and physically assaulted is lower. Because statistically the size and strength diifferentials between you and other men work in your favour the likely outcomes of any physical attack are less scary. And you don't have the mental baggage of rape fear that is generated by both the statistics and the cultural conversation. Lucky you. That's a privilege, not a virtue. And people who tout their privileges like they are virtues come off as prize dicks. Just so you know.
May 16
diner mo commented on It's Spring! Who's Ready for Street Harassment?.
@80 Ok, let's play this out:
"Nice tits!" (Does she want to fuck me?)
"Thanks!" *smile* (I wonder if he's planning to assault me? Hey, I should get over myself and take it as a compliment!)
"So, you want to come back to my place?" (She said thanks! She smiled! Maybe she wants to fuck me! It's worth a try!)
"No, but thanks for the compliment, you have a nice day now!" (Fuck, was that too nice? Am I sending the wrong signals? What if he keeps going? If I get mad or forthright is he going to get aggressive?)
"Oh come on now, you have such a pretty smile! And you liked what I said about your tits, didn't you...?" (She wouldn't have smiled if she wasn't at least interested! Is she sending me mixed messages? I fucking hate that! and I'm really horny! Is she leading me on? That would really piss me off...)
Misanthrope - any clues yet about what might be problematic for women about playing it your way?
"Nice tits!" (Does she want to fuck me?)
"Thanks!" *smile* (I wonder if he's planning to assault me? Hey, I should get over myself and take it as a compliment!)
"So, you want to come back to my place?" (She said thanks! She smiled! Maybe she wants to fuck me! It's worth a try!)
"No, but thanks for the compliment, you have a nice day now!" (Fuck, was that too nice? Am I sending the wrong signals? What if he keeps going? If I get mad or forthright is he going to get aggressive?)
"Oh come on now, you have such a pretty smile! And you liked what I said about your tits, didn't you...?" (She wouldn't have smiled if she wasn't at least interested! Is she sending me mixed messages? I fucking hate that! and I'm really horny! Is she leading me on? That would really piss me off...)
Misanthrope - any clues yet about what might be problematic for women about playing it your way?
May 13
diner mo commented on The Tree of Liberty Must Be Refreshed From Time to Time With the Blood of Tyrants.
@67 Actually for those of us in other democracies, the ground-level debate is pretty instructive, in a cautionary way. Especially for those of us who would like our laws and the execution of them to reflect good ethical sense and the will of the people, rather than the will of a big industry, a tiny rabid armed minority and the long-dead legislators of another era.
May 12
diner mo commented on The Tree of Liberty Must Be Refreshed From Time to Time With the Blood of Tyrants.
@50 What you say here is totally true and correct. Except that I'm not angry. Or whining. And the posts aren't pointless. But aside from that you're right on.
The ad revenue is an interesting point, cos I'm happy for The Stranger to be making money off my clicks. How about you? I would be a bit sad in fact if gun activists stopped making dumb arguments on these threads, because then there would be less to ogle at, and probably fewer posts on the topic.
The ad revenue is an interesting point, cos I'm happy for The Stranger to be making money off my clicks. How about you? I would be a bit sad in fact if gun activists stopped making dumb arguments on these threads, because then there would be less to ogle at, and probably fewer posts on the topic.
May 12
diner mo commented on The Tree of Liberty Must Be Refreshed From Time to Time With the Blood of Tyrants.
@36 Nooooo nenono no. The point of the gun posts is to flush out the gun activists, so everyone can get a good look at how stupid your arguments really are, and marvel at the fact that THAT's what's freezing sensible law reform in your country. Oh that and a bunch of gun-money.
May 12
diner mo commented on The Tree of Liberty Must Be Refreshed From Time to Time With the Blood of Tyrants.
@22 - do you really really really really believe that there are no other legitimate ways to interpret the current Bill of Rights into law? Like, absolutely none? Honest?
May 12
diner mo commented on The Tree of Liberty Must Be Refreshed From Time to Time With the Blood of Tyrants.
@16 Ooh, ooh, I know this one! It's because no one is going to walk up to me on the street and drown me with their pocket swimming pool in a fit of anger or derangement. And because chances are pretty low that I'm going to get caught in a drive-by drowning, or get drowned by someone during a break-and-swim, or lose a depressed loved one to a self-drowning. Pretty low. But I bet if swimming pools did all that stuff as well as accidentally killing kids, and if the swimming pool industry was campaigning hard-out to get one in every yard, you'd start to see some swimming pool posts.
So do you always compartmentalise and minimise, or just for gun stuff?
So do you always compartmentalise and minimise, or just for gun stuff?
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