Jan 19
secretchord commented on "Gun advocates want to create a society governed by fear.".
@13 & @17, why does that make you LESS worried? It should make you more worried. I live in Toronto (one of the biggest cities in North America, so of course there's a crime-rate- albeit much less than similar US cities), but, if cab-drivers and young women and grandmothers and homeowners felt they had to carry guns here, that's when I'd know there was something very, very wrong and I'd be very, very scared. It just doesn't have to be that way..
Jan 12
secretchord commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Good Girl.
It's just the one thing that makes me furious about this column. It's about sex advice, and relationship advice, right? Not simply PRIMARY PARTNERSHIP advocation. I admire people who have a lovely primary relationship, whatever it's monogamous status or gender blend. But a lot of us are single. And we are not responsible for keeping couples' relationships healthy. They chose it. So they are responsible.
For godsakes, do I seriously have to tip-toe around anyone I meet and make sure I'm not crossing the boundaries of their relationship if they have one, as if it's a precious and fragile substance that might break if an "asshole" crosses an invisible line and renders the "devoted partner" helpless?
Give me a break.
The cheater is the cheater. They are cheating on SOMEONE. The piece on the side has so much less responsibility I don't remotely understand why they keep getting lectured in this column. A relationship is not a cult religion.
For godsakes, do I seriously have to tip-toe around anyone I meet and make sure I'm not crossing the boundaries of their relationship if they have one, as if it's a precious and fragile substance that might break if an "asshole" crosses an invisible line and renders the "devoted partner" helpless?
Give me a break.
The cheater is the cheater. They are cheating on SOMEONE. The piece on the side has so much less responsibility I don't remotely understand why they keep getting lectured in this column. A relationship is not a cult religion.
Jan 12
secretchord commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Good Girl.
Yeah, but Dan has supported people doing the "tipping point" cheat in the past, in that, the relationship is failing and they might be part of the mechanism that causes a bad thing that should fall apart to finally actually fall apart.
I think, despite the bravado of her letter, that's what she thought she was doing. And she was really hurt when she found out that she wasn't, she was, in fact, invisible, to him, his girlfriend, and the world. And in addition, sloggers think she's a slut. Nice work guys!
I think, despite the bravado of her letter, that's what she thought she was doing. And she was really hurt when she found out that she wasn't, she was, in fact, invisible, to him, his girlfriend, and the world. And in addition, sloggers think she's a slut. Nice work guys!
Jan 12
secretchord commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Good Girl.
Wow! And Fun!
So how many times in your life did you always have a perfect mechanism to measure things? You must have magic. The rest of us find things a little more confusing along the way.
So how many times in your life did you always have a perfect mechanism to measure things? You must have magic. The rest of us find things a little more confusing along the way.
Jan 12
secretchord commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Good Girl.
Because she's in love with him, guys! Yeesh. Why are you all treating her like a harpy instead of a love-lorn young adult, which is what she is from what I can see in the letter. Prove to me she's a consummate bitch and I'll second your "off-with-her-head" attitude. But I think, in this case, Dan took a side (for entertainment) and lot of you jumped on that ship and you just sound cruel in your comments. Do all of you have harmonious, monogamous relationships to back up your judgement of everyone else?
Jan 12
secretchord commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Good Girl.
@22 "stupid bitch". Stop saying that.
Jan 12
secretchord commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Good Girl.
Wow, everyone's heaping shit on OOMOW. Have none of you ever been on the "less important" side of a relationship with a jackass? It hurts like hell. Give the girl some support, she's just trying to figure out the right thing to do, and doesn't need everybody heaping shit on her like she's garbage. She's not. She's confused about love and finding out a hard-core lesson right now. Give her support, not abuse.
Dec 20, 2012
secretchord commented on SL Letter of the Day: Swap Meat.
I'm with @1, I thought "petting" was a mostly over-the-clothes fondling thing.
Why do so many people feel that sucking someone's cock or vulva is way less personal than PV sex? I think it's more intimate by a mile. I think if I was a swinger I might ask for the opposite (fuck whoever you want, but don't put your mouth on anyone's *** except for mine!)
Why do so many people feel that sucking someone's cock or vulva is way less personal than PV sex? I think it's more intimate by a mile. I think if I was a swinger I might ask for the opposite (fuck whoever you want, but don't put your mouth on anyone's *** except for mine!)
Nov 12, 2012
secretchord commented on Bird-On-Bird Hate/Dinner Crime on Seattle's Capitol Hill.
Oh, come on, leave the cats alone. Sex questions, politics, that's your thing. Ecology is something else. Why would you have an agenda on that??
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Guns for the purpose of protection against rabid wolves ....ok, . Oh, and against vandalism, and protection against random murder? By the way, you won't get randomly murdered (since most of us don't). Not with a gun. If you defend yourself with a gun, you are a terrorist, in a lot of ways. You support the deadly killing of anyone you see in front of you with no time for contemplation. Just, "I'm number one!! So you? Die!!"" (pow pow). I don't want to see you all kill yourselves, americans, please stop.