As a parent who of a child with CAH I am pleased to see that there are some comments in this discussion that are compassionate and thoughtful. Seeing your listless child at death's door is not a horror I would wish on any of you, it is a painful, emotional, and scary thing to go through. Your parental reaction to protect your child is pushed to the limit and for some will stay in overdrive for a long time. I see it almost daily in the CAH forums. It's heartbreaking to read their stories and remember our feelings as we first discovered..... that we DID this to our child. That somewhere in my genetic tree is a deletion/mutation that will forever curse my child with a myriad of lifelong and life threatening problems. It makes you try that much harder to give your child a normal life .... or as normal as possible.

I guess you could say that my wife and I are blessed, we ended up having a boy with CAH. We didn't have to be confronted with this choice. And quite honestly I can't know what we would have done. What I would have hoped to find - both from our doctors and from online research -- is a thoughtful introduction to leading a life with ambiguous genitalia (both for a child, how to support our child and other tools for us as parents). Information and education.

I appreciate a few of those thoughtful posts above that challenged my thinking on this subject.