Ianto S.
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Feb 19, 2013 Ianto S. commented on The Tranny Awards Were Last Night.
There's a double standard going on in the trans community.

When ENDA was being debated a few years back, and it seemed clear a GLB-ENDA would pass but a GLBT-ENDA wouldn't, I very clearly remember the outrage and screaming from the transfolk that they shouldn't be thrown under the bus because WE WERE ALL THE GLBT COMMUNITY.

Now, as has been reiterated in these very comments, if you are a member of a minority community you are "allowed" to use derogatory slang without reproach, and it's only if you are outside the community that it is insulting and bigoted.

Dan Savage is clearly a member of the GLBT community, and yet he still gets grief from trans activists..

So it appears that gays, lesbians, and bisexuals are part of the "community" when it suits trans activists, and "outsiders" otherwise.
Apr 8, 2011 Ianto S. commented on SL Letter of the Day: Conservative Gay Jock Pleads for Tolerance.
Until conservatives drop the "gay people aren't equal Americans" BS, every GLBT American has an absolute right to express disgust with those who support the conservative side. It's a kind of self-hate.

And spare me the BS about "pocketbook" issues, that's just Uncle Tomism at its worst. If they don't think you're a full person, don't support them, period.

Rich gays play at being conservative because their money protects them from the problems the rest of us have because we don't yet have equal protection under the law.
Apr 7, 2011 Ianto S. commented on Counting Queers.
Until there is zero stigma attached to being GLBT, these studies will *always* underrepresent the reality.
Feb 16, 2011 Ianto S. commented on Chuckletown, USA.
#3 -- oh, wow. Just... wow. Makes you wonder if the whole "Lindy vs. Dan" thing wasn't a complete setup, then. Faux outrage to push page views. Otherwise... this is just not consistent.
Feb 15, 2011 Ianto S. commented on Hello, I Am Fat.
Just Jeff, some of your equivalences are just flat out *factually* wrong, and that's the part that those beating up Dan and defending Lindy can't get right. The bigots here may not be the ones that you think, apparently.
Feb 15, 2011 Ianto S. commented on Hello, I'm Not the Enemy.
Except, TheMisanthrope, that assumes there is a bias to be owned up to, which is exactly what Dan, in his own words, is trying to show isn't the case.

And just because some people are overly sensitive and insist Dan MUST be biased and therefore MUST own up to that bias, doesn't make that in the least bit true.
Feb 14, 2011 Ianto S. commented on Hello, I'm Not the Enemy.
Mr. X., nonsense. If you take all of Dan's comments and blogs and columns that relate to fat-issues, it's crystal clear he's not fat-phobic and is not a bully. And dragging in race to a conversation that has not had anything to do with race says a lot more about you than it does about Dan.
Feb 14, 2011 Ianto S. commented on Hello, I'm Not the Enemy.
Wait, it's okay for people to say whatever they want about Dan because some people take some of his statements out of context to "prove" he's a bigot... but Dan's not allowed to point out things that show these people are incorrect? That's messed up.

You keep on keepin' on, Dan. Some of us (who happen to be fat, even) get what you're really about, and we appreciate it.
Feb 3, 2011 Ianto S. commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Sexual Reflects On Nearly Asexual Ex.
Asexuals shouldn't be the least offended by Dan's advice to NSNA, since NSNA doesn't consider himself part of the asexual community.

Dan's advice is realistic and honest even if sometimes offered a little more bluntly than sensitive people can handle. If someone has come to terms with the fact that they are asexual, then when they date non-asexuals they have a responsibility to be honest about that fact and should be prepared to offer a reasonable, nonmonogamous compromise -- or else they are setting themselves up to fail, period.

If an asexual insists on hiding their asexuality from their romantic partner, or insists on monogamy with their romantic partner even while resenting their partner's normal sexual needs, or not providing for their partner's normal sexual needs, then the asexual should not complain when their partners are deeply unhappy, or when their partners cheat on them, or when their partners dump them, or when their partners write to snarky sex advice columnists for help.

Or they can avoid all the heartbreak and drama by finding partners with compatible sex drives. Like the rest of us have to do.
Oct 25, 2010 Ianto S. commented on No One Could Have Predicted.
@29 - don't blame gay voters for apathy against the Dems when the Dems have failed to keep most of their promises! Especially when they were handed big majorities in Congress along with the Presidency in 2008, they should have shown real courage and leadership and failed on both counts.

Look around -- it's not just gay voters that are disappointed, plenty of others who voted enthusiastically for Obama & friends in 2008 are feeling the same way.

Blame the Democratic politicians -- if they'd kept their word and actually truly been "fierce advocates", we wouldn't be having this discussion.