Dec 21, 2015
commented on Lindsey Graham Drops Out of GOP Nom Race
Say what you will about Lindsey's policy beliefs, and they're generally awful, at least he seems to have somewhat of a belief in governance. I suspect he's somewhat of a wonk deep inside. It's sad that there is literally 0% of the Republicans being polled that seem to care about that.
Oct 6, 2015
commented on Unclear On the Whole "Advice Column" Concept
Dan is always free to make declarative statement like DTMFA base on his opinion (which has been sought), the person writing is always free to consider it and make their own decision. Fascism doesn't work like that.
Aug 26, 2015
commented on Letters From Ashley Madison Users
"Every normal human being needs contact, a touch, a caress, even a hug. Abandoned babies wither until they are picked up and cuddled, at which point they begin to thrive. It's a basic part of our evolution. These "liaisons" are not about sex, they are about a connection, a true intimacy. We may have thought all we needed was sex, but is the least of it...the sex is like a cherry on the sundae."
This is lovely. A few years ago I said this same thing (only less eloquently) to a friend who was a staunch opponent of gay marriage and we were debating it and he circled around to "what the bible had taught him" (lovely guy, truly, just raised in the southern baptist church). I told him that when he makes love to his wife, the sex is fun yes, but there is this whole other element of love and connection and feeling happy that occurs (he is devoted to his wife), and that he was seeking to deny that in other people - it was only when I framed this way, and not about civil rights, that I could see I was getting through to him.
If you are reading this, letter writer, I am sorry this has caused you so much unhappiness. I wish you nothing but the best as you move on. If it's any consolation, there are many many people out in the world who know the things you talk about here, which is why we haven't even bothered to get on to the AM list and look, we know life is infinitely complex and people have a huge variety of experiences that are deeply personal. None are better or worse than any of the others. We people are out here, find us.
Aug 14, 2015
commented on Catholic Priest: We Can Reach Out to Gay People By Comparing Gay Sex to Shoving a Bagel In Your Ear
I chatted once with this interesting priest years ago who said he hated counseling married couples because he himself wasn't married, and felt stupid offering advice on something he had no experience with. Also what is the obsession with where all the parts go? Strip away the religio-speak of any group who has a sexual-behavioral agenda, and that tendency is just weird. People don't care how I operate in the world as it relates to, say, my liver, but those same people sure are obsessed with my vagina.